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Ok am I just a cranky old man or are other people bugged at Mass when people around you insist on talking to each other throughout the Mass? Or when parents with children spend most of their time separating or disciplining the older children? I have to wonder what are they getting out of the Mass? Do they hear what is being said? Do they listen to the Homily? Are they aware of the distraction that they are to other around them? It is one thing for parents with little kids, that is understandable, but it is the adults who should understand the importance for going to Mass is more than just a social hour for some people it has real meaning and a purpose.
 
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Ok am I just a cranky old man or are other people bugged at Mass when people around you insist on talking to each other throughout the Mass? Or when parents with children spend most of their time separating or disciplining the older children? I have to wonder what are they getting out of the Mass? Do they hear what is being said? Do they listen to the Homily? Are they aware of the distraction that they are to other around them? It is one thing for parents with little kids, that is understandable, but it is the adults who should understand the importance for going to Mass is more than just a social hour for some people it has real meaning and a purpose.
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I don’t think you are cranky. 🙂 It bugs me when I see this, but I try not to be so bothered that I, too, lose focusing on the Mass. I pray for them to realize the importance of the Mass.
 
Oh you’re far from alone in being annoyed at this - not unduly cranky. It’s one of tose things definitely sent by the devil to distract us from paying attention to the Mass. Just offer up the annoyance.
 
some days it just drives me wild, but it is usually senior citizens who should know better doing the talking, by and large our children and families are more respectful. I will just have to exercise charity and assume they are hard of hearing or have another reason that makes them forget the respect due in the Lord’s house.
 
When you see a parent constantly correcting children, please pray for them. It will do your soul and theirs good. If you are indeed, older, you will someday soon join the Church Triumphant. These children are being trained for the Church Militant. In this day and age, they need your prayers. It is more challenging for children to see the seriousness and mystery of the Mass when all around them is moral grayness and absolutely no absolutes.

Also, you can try to sit where you can’t see them. I must admit, I sit my family in the front row. My boys fidget a bit, but I don’t want them to see the other children playing and paying no attention at all and thinking that it is acceptable. It is nearly impossible to teach them the reverence required if they always see their peers reading, listening on headphones, etc.

Again, please pray for us parents and for the unruly children.
 
I have children of my own and I have no problem with parents disicplining children.

It’s when they don’t that it bugs me.

My hubby went through RCIA with a man who made his five year old out to be a living saint. When this family was in front of us at Holy Mass, the child laid down, dropped books and fussed at the concecration. What this kid needed was a stern talking to. The parents were too lost in prayer to bother.

My five year old told me what a bad boy he was. I told her that he just didn’t know how to behave. I knew, it was the parents.
 
As the father of 4 young children (2-5-7-9) I must admit that my children are very very very good in church. Rarely do I have to correct them. With this in mind I am thoroughly convinced it is becuase of 2 things. 1) we sit at the very FRONT of the church at least in the first 3 pews. 2) We feed our children hearty breakfasts eggs, sausage and the likes before Mass. (of course we fast along with the 9 year old who chooses to do so) Another thing is all of my children went to their first mass no Later than 2-3 days old. (my son was born on friday AM and he was at his first mass on Sunday.) They have never missed sunday Mass with the exception of a few illnesses. I am not bragging just offering some advice for anyone who has trouble.
 
I have a 6 year old autistic grandson. Unfortunately his parents were never married and I told his mom that if he stayed all night with me during the weekend he would be going to Mass with me. Right now he attends the **“Church of the Awesome God.” **where his aunt is studying to be a pastor.:eek:

I prepared him for the event by taking him to the church a few times before actually going to Mass. He saw how I genuflected…how I prayed and how he must be quiet. I hoped for the best and prepared for the worst when we went our first time and it went smoothly and now he goes with me regularly…and behaves much better than most of the other children who are getting out of their pews every 2 seconds to go to the bathroom or the water fountain. So…no disrespect intended…but if this child can behave so can most others.

I attend daily Mass and always sit in the same place which is convenient for me because I don’t have an easy time getting around, but I am going to have to start sitting elsewhere because now this young mother with 2 little girls sits in front of me and I have to deal with…
  1. rice krispies thrown at me when I am kneeling
  2. their tongues sticking out at me during the homily
  3. them tearing up the missalette
and on and on and this woman is oblivious…

I know it isn’t easy for a child to be quiet and not fidget…but there is a difference between a normal child’s patience or lack of it and a child who is absolutely not getting any upbringing about how to behave.

:heart:Blyss
 
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some days it just drives me wild, but it is usually senior citizens who should know better doing the talking, by and large our children and families are more respectful. I will just have to exercise charity and assume they are hard of hearing or have another reason that makes them forget the respect due in the Lord’s house.
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This is also the case at one parish, I attend when I cannot make my usual Mass. The 2 front pews on each side are reserved for the handicapped. There are many elderly, some with walkers and a few in wheelchairs. All with caregivers, or someone in attendance. The first time I went to Mass there, I was really annoyed by their chattering before, during and after Mass. Then I realized that perhaps this was the only outside contact they may have had all week. They all seemed to know each other, and carried on loud conversations both before and after Mass.(just whispers during Mass)
So now I just sit farther back and hope that when I am that age, people will have patience with me.
 
WisCatholic said:
Ok am I just a cranky old man or are other people bugged at Mass when people around you insist on talking to each other throughout the Mass? Or when parents with children spend most of their time separating or disciplining the older children? I have to wonder what are they getting out of the Mass? Do they hear what is being said? Do they listen to the Homily? Are they aware of the distraction that they are to other around them? It is one thing for parents with little kids, that is understandable, but it is the adults who should understand the importance for going to Mass is more than just a social hour for some people it has real meaning and a purpose.
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That’s the way it is at the “Norvus Ordo”.I have never had a problem at a Traditional Latin Mass" The men and boys wear suits, the women and girls dress modestly and wear vails. It all promotes respect for the Mass which isn’t present at the “New Mass” where blue jeans and shorts are the choice of attire.If a child act up at a Traditional Mass, the parents take them out immediately
 
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