Masturbation, I need help

[Sythix]

Hey this is my first post I just found this website and I would really like to know how to stop masturbation im 15 and Im catholic, I feel it is pulling me away from God and I dont know how to stop Ive made vows to myself that I would never do it again but I have failed many times. Please help me this is torture.

 

[JS_Cortez]

My suggestion is turn to St. Joseph, especially through the devotion of the Cinture of St. Joseph. At the end of this post, I’ll put the link to a more indepth explanation from the Fisheaters site but in short, you should pray for his help as he was the guardian of both Mary and Jesus, both totally pure, in their earthly lives. Ask him for strength and mediate on his trials and joys as he guarded them. That will help you on the spiritual end.

Now, like you said, you have made vows before and broke them, that’s why I suggestion the devotion of his cinture. The cinture or cord is a simple braid of rope with seven knots in it you wear around you waist under your clothing. No one needs to know you have it on. You can buy one or you can make one yourself by simply getting some yarn and braided it, and then tying the knots in. Regardless, bring it to a priest and have it blessed. When you feel the temptation you are going to get a moment to rethink everything when you are forced to remember the cinture is on. That moment, you will be able to turn your heart to the Lord and then leave the temptation behind.

Not to say, you won’t possibly slip, but having St. Joseph have your back both spiritually and physically has to help.

Link: fisheaters.com/stjosephcords.html

 

[fulbert4605]

God created the entire universe. In it are contained many beautiful things. Think about how beautiful God must be in order to have created such things.

How beautiful must the Face of God be? And you can enjoy The Beatific Vision for all eternity. What is a few moments of a little pleasure that disunions yourself from God in comparison to an eternity of unutterable pleasure in union with God?

 

[surritter]

FYI – the Cincture things sounds good, but beware the other stuff on the Fisheaters website. I sense that they aren’t 100% loyal to the Holy See.

Just a word of caution for the young man…

 

[BVM_1221]

Hey this is my first post I just found this website and I would really like to know how to stop masturbation im 15 and Im catholic, I feel it is pulling me away from God and I dont know how to stop Ive made vows to myself that I would never do it again but I have failed many times. Please help me this is torture.

This may very well be the #1 problem for teenagers. Elsewhere in the replies is mentionjed the cord of Saint Joseph. Another cord is that of Saint Philomena. And you may need to have a heart to heart talk with your priest, or some other priest, deacon, or religious. Remember that they have all had this problem as well. :blushing:

 

[coolduude]

Here’s a link to a thread that helped me get more pure of heart:
forums.catholic-questions.org/showthread.php?t=373387

Also, pray this every single day:
ewtn.com/devotionals/novena/3hailmarys.htm

that second link has helped me come a long way.

You can beat this!

oh yeah: click on chastity all the way at the top and look at that site (chastity.com I believe). They have great stuff there and links to even more chastity websites.

 

[Arianna09]

This may not help as much coming from a girl, but my husband has battled with this to. I will say that it has hurt our relationship in the past (and still does when he slips), although he is getting a much better handle on it and rarely slips now. I listen to the Catholic Answers radio show a lot and a guy was on back in November (I think). This was his site whodoesithurt.com/ I recommended it to my husband, but he never tried it. Sounds like it could be a really good support group. One thing a priest once said to my husband was to remember that God is with you ALWAYS! And to think about that before masturbating. That helped a ton. Also, he recommended my husband to pray for the people that he was looking at (as he used pornography as a tool). Good luck. God will help you through this!

 

[Dempsey1919]

Pray the Rosary. I have found that this prayer is very effective in breaking habits of sin. If you deeply meditate on the life of Jesus Christ through the eyes of his Mother every day, you will find that your desires to commit this sin will go away.

Try to think of the times and places when you commit this sin and avoid them. For example, if you commit this sin at a certain time of the day I recommend that you do something else at this time. The best thing you could do is pray or read the Bible.

Say a Hail Mary every time you get the urge to commit this sin. Ask Our Lady to help you remain pure and chaste.

Finally, take it one day at a time. Don’t worry about the future, just focus on the present. Stay busy by studying, playing sport, and most importantly by praying. Remember: the devil makes work for idle hands. If you lead a busy life full of activities, you won’t have the time to commit this sin.

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Masturbation is a sin and you must remember to confess this to your priest. Try to go to confession at least once every two weeks; and if you can, attend weekly. You will be strengthened and you will receive many graces by going to confession.

 

[houston1]

Sythix,

I will remember you in my prayers. I know that it is very difficult to oversome addictive sins. I would recommend going to request confession to help you overcome this as well as pray, pray, pray.

God bless you.

houston1

 

[tommyjoe]

This is a problem for many men and it is hard to control. But more importantly most people on this web site need to find a way to heal these wounds. There is a book called “Healing the Wounds of Sexual Addiction” by Dr Mark R. Laaser. This book covers topics on: What is Sexual Addiction,The roots of Sexual Addiction,Healing the wounds of Sexual Addiction,Healing the wounds of the Church. This is a good book that covers most questions and gives the answers most are looking so hard for.

 

[Bailey2]

I wouldn’t go so far to think that a 15 yr old is sexually addicted; I hope that wasn’t inferred nor said to scare the daylights out of the boy. Sythix, do what BVM1221 said. You are definitely not alone on this one.
Blessings.

 

[tommyjoe]

I am sorry. That was a comment ment for everyone who has this problem

 

[Seeker100]

Masturbation is a normal thing. There is nothing to be ashamed of. It is part of being a human being. It is a form of sex play or practice that prepares one when he or she has real sex. Supressing it leads to all types of problems. Masturbation is not a sin and is God’s way to teach you about your body.

 

[coolduude]

Masturbation is a normal thing. There is nothing to be ashamed of. It is part of being a human being. It is a form of sex play or practice that prepares one when he or she has real sex. Supressing it leads to all types of problems. Masturbation is not a sin and is God’s way to teach you about your body.

Do not listen to this. It is 100% contrary to Church teaching.

Masturbation is the opposite of what God wants.

Check this out:
chastity.com/node/52

 

[Seeker100]

Do not listen to this. It is 100% contrary to Church teaching.

Masturbation is the opposite of what God wants.

Check this out:
chastity.com/node/52

Well I do not know what the Catholic church teaching is on this but if it says that masturbation is a sin then it better perhaps do a bit of praying and change its rules that cause psychological damage and unnecessary guilt.

 

[coolduude]

Then you obviously did not follow and read the link.

 

[Bailey2]

Hey Sythix, do what BVM1221 said.

 

[Sythix]

I just want to say thank you to all of you guys

 

[requieroveritas]

Hey this is my first post I just found this website and I would really like to know how to stop masturbation im 15 and Im catholic, I feel it is pulling me away from God and I dont know how to stop Ive made vows to myself that I would never do it again but I have failed many times. Please help me this is torture.

Dear Sythix,

You are not alone, and this problem is one of the hardest to fight.

When I returned to the Church some few years ago, I prayed much that God would guide me in knowing his will and in fulfilling it. At that time, I still masturbated and didn’t think much of it, but slowly over time, God led me to understand the true purpose of sex, and it is not for self-gratification. The physical satisfaction in climaxing is only the byproduct or end result of the expression of a perfect love between a man and a woman, not an end in itself, to be sought after. This level of pure love, by the way, is illusory in our sinful state of being.

It was not until I understood this, and decided that pleasing God was more important than pleasing myself, that I was able to stop.

Make the commitment. You will probably fail many times, but each time, get up off the floor and start over.

All the best to you, in Christ.

 

[Dempsey1919]

Seeker100:

I do not know what the Catholic church teaching is on this

With all due respect, I would like to remind you that this is a Catholic website. Before you give advice to Catholics, please do your best to at least learn and understand the Catholic position. Do not give advice that is contrary to what the Catholic faith teaches. Your intentions may have been sincere, but you have just encouraged a young man to commit a mortal sin. Masturbation is still a mortal sin even if you choose to ignore this fact.

That being said, here is what the Catholic Church teaches concerning masturbation:

2352 By masturbation is to be understood the deliberate stimulation of the genital organs in order to derive sexual pleasure. "Both the Magisterium of the Church, in the course of a constant tradition, and the moral sense of the faithful have been in no doubt and have firmly maintained that masturbation is an intrinsically and gravely disordered action."137 “The deliberate use of the sexual faculty, for whatever reason, outside of marriage is essentially contrary to its purpose.” For here sexual pleasure is sought outside of "the sexual relationship which is demanded by the moral order and in which the total meaning of mutual self-giving and human procreation in the context of true love is achieved."138

To form an equitable judgment about the subjects’ moral responsibility and to guide pastoral action, one must take into account the affective immaturity, force of acquired habit, conditions of anxiety or other psychological or social factors that lessen, if not even reduce to a minimum, moral culpability.

Source: Catechism of the Catholic Church
vatican.va/archive/catechism/p3s2c2a6.htm

Since you are a protestant, I would also like to add that many protestant denominations consider masturbation to be a sin. Although some denominations do not consider masturbation to be sinful, all denominations acknowledge that lust is a sin. Since it is very unlikely that you will be able to masturbate without fantasising about sex, you are also guilty of the sin of lust even if you do not think the act of masturbation is sinful. If I were you, I would seriously question your views on this subject.