Masturbation & Sin

[TheHockeyPlayer]

Hi. I’m gonna keep this short and sweet. I have a problem.

I’ve been struggling with masturbation for several months now. When I first started, I didn’t know that it was a sin, which led me to do it more and more. Finally, though, I learned that it was a mortal sin, so I began from there to stop it. I’ve been attending daily Mass, praying, and going to confession weekly in an effort to stop it.

I was recently fighting against the temptation to commit it when I finally lost and gave in. Now I’m real upset.

From now up until a week (or so) I will literally be unable to receive reconciliation because of a trip I’m going on, although I will be able to attend Sunday Mass. I would like to receive the Eucharist, but I’m afraid that I cannot because of my sin and the lack of penance.

I was recently talking to my confessor about my struggles with masturbation when he told me that* I could receive the Eucharist even while in a state of sin of masturbation as long as I have the complete willing to go to confession when it is made possible*. I feel as if this may apply to my current circumstance. *Is this true? *

Thank you for reading and for answering. If I’m not clear on anything, please let me know. Thank you.

 

[Tietjen]

I was recently talking to my confessor about my struggles with masturbation when he told me that* I could receive the Eucharist even while in a state of sin of masturbation as long as I have the complete willing to go to confession when it is made possible*. I feel as if this may apply to my current circumstance. Is this true?

No. Doing so would be grave matter.

 

[Rete]

I never heard of something like this. Everything the Church teaches indicates it’s a bad idea to take communion when you are knowingly in a state of mortal sin. Because you are struggling with it and didn’t completely consent to it, it might not be mortal, but I don’t think any human could really know for sure. You know it is wrong, so you at least can’t appeal to ignorance that it is a sin.

But you can go to any priest for reconciliation. Wherever you travel to, you can find the closest Catholic church on Saturday for the sacrament of reconciliation, and then you are set for Sunday.

It’s not fun when your body revolts against your will like that. Though the experience is humiliating, the fact that you are fighting it is noble. You will win. Meanwhile, you can fill your room with holy things. Keep a statue of the Blessed Mother by the bed looking down upon you. Keep a crucifix in plain view.

Give your consent for your guardian angel to know your thoughts and try to guide you away from the sin before it becomes a conscious issue. Then if you do struggle with it, always always always keep your mind focused on the presence of God, angels, and even saints. But especially God. For most humans, I think sin like this is only possible when we temporarily ignore the existence of God. But if you prime your subconscious to automatically fixate upon the awareness of God whenever you sin or are tempted by sin, then I think you will have a much easier time resisting it. Especially embarrassing sins like this one. There don’t seem to be any secrets in Heaven, and I imagine we really do not enjoy the privacy we think we enjoy here on Earth either. Remember that and it becomes rather difficult to do something like this.

 

[theyoungmonk]

I hate to say it but your confessor is wrong, there is a good chance that you are in a state of Mortal Sin. As there is this strong chance then it would be another even graver Mortal sin to receive Holy Communion. I would recommend having a look around seeing what you can do to find a priest even if you have to call a presbytery and ask the priest to hear your confession out of normal hours; I have done this in the past and have never had any problem. You always have the option of going up to the priest saying the Sunday mass and ask him to hear your confession before Mass again something I have had to do before, most priests should be fine with this, or he may prefer to hear it after mass in which case you can just make a spiritual communion.

In the mean time pray for the gift of repentance and perfect contrition. I would also pray that you are able to go to confession, you never know a Priest might knock on your door or something, stranger things have happened.

 

[HoosMommie]

REMEMBER, O most gracious Virgin Mary, that never was it known that anyone who fled to thy protection, implored thy help, or sought thy intercession was left unaided. Inspired with this confidence, I fly to thee, O Virgin of virgins, my Mother; to thee do I come; before thee I stand, sinful and sorrowful. O Mother of the Word Incarnate, despise not my petitions, but in thy mercy hear and answer me. Amen.

 

[Steveabrous]

Hi. I’m gonna keep this short and sweet. I have a problem.

I’ve been struggling with masturbation for several months now. When I first started, I didn’t know that it was a sin, which led me to do it more and more. Finally, though, I learned that it was a mortal sin, so I began from there to stop it. I’ve been attending daily Mass, praying, and going to confession weekly in an effort to stop it.

I was recently fighting against the temptation to commit it when I finally lost and gave in. Now I’m real upset.

From now up until a week (or so) I will literally be unable to receive reconciliation because of a trip I’m going on, although I will be able to attend Sunday Mass. I would like to receive the Eucharist, but I’m afraid that I cannot because of my sin and the lack of penance.

I was recently talking to my confessor about my struggles with masturbation when he told me that* I could receive the Eucharist even while in a state of sin of masturbation as long as I have the complete willing to go to confession when it is made possible*. I feel as if this may apply to my current circumstance. *Is this true? *

Thank you for reading and for answering. If I’m not clear on anything, please let me know. Thank you.

Masterbation is not always a mortal sin, so say’s the Catechism of the Catholic church. It is a grave matter, you have full knowledge but you may not have full control of the situation. The discernment as to whether or not you have full control and whether or not this is something you need to confess all the time is to be handled between you and your confessor. NO lay Catholic should be telling you that your priest is wrong. If your priest is telling you wrongly and you recieve the Eucharist it would be on him, not you. I would follow what your priest told you.

 

[Usige]

If you are in doubt and feel the need to confess then simply abstain from receiving the Eucharist. If you have committed an unabsolved mortal sin you are not in a state of grace. As such you would receive no graces in receiving the Eucharist, but instead be committing an act of sacrilege. On the other hand if it is not mortal and you are in a state of grace then you do nothing wrong in abstaining.

My general approach is to not approach the Lord in the Eucharist when I feel the need for absolution. I would prefer to lose the opportunity to receive grace rather that to offend Christ by receiving Him unworthily.

 

[inomcoke]

I believe your confessor is wrong on this one, though his intentions are in the right place.

Abstain from receiving Our Lord this Sunday and go to confession as soon as possible.

I’ll be praying that you have the strength to overcome this sin. It is exceedingly difficult, but you can do it!

Blessed Virgin Mary, pray for “TheHockeyPlayer” that he may find strength to stay pure.
Joseph, step-father of Jesus, Pray ray for “TheHockeyPlayer”

 

[mab23]

I pray for your intentions!

Pater noster qui es in caelis:
sanctificetur Nomen Tuum;
adveniat Regnum Tuum;
fiat voluntas Tua,
sicut in caelo, et in terra.
Panem nostrum cotidianum da nobis hodie;
et dimitte nobis debita nostra,
sicut et nos dimittimus debitoribus nostris;
et ne nos inducas in tentationem;
sed libera nos a Malo. Amen

Don’t receive the Eucharist in grave sin, wait till after confession

I suggest go to adoration and pray for strength

any time you think of lustful thoughts imagine devils of lust at an altar telling you to bow down to them (priest told me this one)

also during lustful thoughts say “lead me not into temptation but deliver me from evil”