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MadetoLove
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Hi 
If you don’t mind, I need a little help discerning whether to end a relationship. I think God is either telling me to continue with the relationship or he’s been telling me to end it for quite some time, and I just haven’t been open enough to that idea.
I’m in my early 20s. I have been in a string of bad relationships. I spent my teen years “looking for love” in the wrong places. I have two children out of wedlock. One from a previous relationship, and the other from my current relationship. I was baptized and confirmed not too long after I became pregnant with the first child. Swore I was going to be chaste after that relationship, and only date a practicing Catholic. I met my current boyfriend who is Catholic although not practicing (wasn’t raised in the faith, not even confirmed). I thought perhaps that Jesus told me that He just wanted me to be friends with him at the time, but I felt like that was impossible. I was head over heels, like a fool. The relationship has always felt rocky. We’ve broken up and gotten back together several times. My significant other didn’t necessarily have his life together when we met (he was in his late 20s), and I can’t exactly say he has his life together now, two years and a baby later, although there has been a great amount of improvement. Although I am embarrassed to say this, since some people tend to freak out when I do, he struggles with an addiction to a medication. Our relationship survived to this point, even with the addition of another child and me undergoing intensive treatment for a year for an aggressive cancer (I was diagnosed during my 2nd pregnancy).
My biggest concerns revolve around the fact that he isn’t a practicing Catholic, and I wouldn’t consider him reliable enough in the event we ever got married. Case in point, he’s been out of a job for a long while and while he does do an occasional job search, he’s not looking for a job in a hardcore fashion like “maan I gotta hurry and get a job so I can support me and kid.” He tends to be comfortable with other people providing for him.
:shrug:
The reason I stay is that I continue to see improvement in him over time. He’s been working with his doctor on getting off of the aforementioned medication. There’s a part of me that feels he’s going to grow closer to God and finally get his life together. But of course, I can not tell the future. This is where the fuzziness in communication between God and I exists, if that makes any sense. I thought that after I prayed a novena to St Christopher a few months ago, that St Christopher was saying that this wasn’t meant to be. But things got a little better in the relationship and that sense of “I need to end this” went away.
But here I am again. Please help me, and have mercy on me.
If you don’t mind, I need a little help discerning whether to end a relationship. I think God is either telling me to continue with the relationship or he’s been telling me to end it for quite some time, and I just haven’t been open enough to that idea.
I’m in my early 20s. I have been in a string of bad relationships. I spent my teen years “looking for love” in the wrong places. I have two children out of wedlock. One from a previous relationship, and the other from my current relationship. I was baptized and confirmed not too long after I became pregnant with the first child. Swore I was going to be chaste after that relationship, and only date a practicing Catholic. I met my current boyfriend who is Catholic although not practicing (wasn’t raised in the faith, not even confirmed). I thought perhaps that Jesus told me that He just wanted me to be friends with him at the time, but I felt like that was impossible. I was head over heels, like a fool. The relationship has always felt rocky. We’ve broken up and gotten back together several times. My significant other didn’t necessarily have his life together when we met (he was in his late 20s), and I can’t exactly say he has his life together now, two years and a baby later, although there has been a great amount of improvement. Although I am embarrassed to say this, since some people tend to freak out when I do, he struggles with an addiction to a medication. Our relationship survived to this point, even with the addition of another child and me undergoing intensive treatment for a year for an aggressive cancer (I was diagnosed during my 2nd pregnancy).
My biggest concerns revolve around the fact that he isn’t a practicing Catholic, and I wouldn’t consider him reliable enough in the event we ever got married. Case in point, he’s been out of a job for a long while and while he does do an occasional job search, he’s not looking for a job in a hardcore fashion like “maan I gotta hurry and get a job so I can support me and kid.” He tends to be comfortable with other people providing for him.
:shrug:The reason I stay is that I continue to see improvement in him over time. He’s been working with his doctor on getting off of the aforementioned medication. There’s a part of me that feels he’s going to grow closer to God and finally get his life together. But of course, I can not tell the future. This is where the fuzziness in communication between God and I exists, if that makes any sense. I thought that after I prayed a novena to St Christopher a few months ago, that St Christopher was saying that this wasn’t meant to be. But things got a little better in the relationship and that sense of “I need to end this” went away.
But here I am again. Please help me, and have mercy on me.