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Also, I would consider telling your husband (I don’t recall i fyou mentioned this in this thread). I think in the end he would want to know. The both of you can work through this together. There is no reason you should bear the burden of worry by yourself. You have a spouse to help support you. 🙂
 
Thanks rascal…to clarify, I’m going to wait until my doctor’s appointment to tell him. He knows I’m think I may be but he doesn’t know that I am THIS “worried”.
 
You are having a pregnancy related Hormonal freak out session. It is totally natural. You will feel better in a week. I always had a very weird hormonal session when I was first pregnant. It usually resulted in me telling someone off that had been bothering me for some time.

The blessing of parenthood will outway any negatives. Read the book Total Money Makeover by Dave Ramsey (www.daveramsey.com). This will help with the money situation.

Congratulations and Good luck.
 
Congratulations, a baby is a blessing from the Almighty.All the doubts and fears you have are normal. I have four daughters and have no idea how I get by. I leave it in the Lords hands.
 
Hey! Almost everybody gets the willies when she finds out she’s pregnant (especially the first time!). Having a baby is a BIG deal. Funny thing, though, you get this disease that makes you love 'em to pieces and when you bring 'em home, it’s as though they were always part of your life.

God love you!
 
You’ve gotten a lot of great advice here, especially from mercygate! How well I remember my first pregnancy. Anybody who tells you that they don’t experience at least a moment of panic is lying.

Remember, that your baby has never had parents before so s/he won’t know if you’re doing anything wrong! When I was a teenager, I was never going to have kids, birds, or dogs in my home.

I still hate birds. 😃

God bless - I’ll keep you in my prayers!
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LOL, I know exactly what you mean! The dreaded “oh my…what did I do?” feeling! MY husband was thrilled when we found out we were expecting our first, and me - well, scared out of my pants! I worried about me being too lazy of a mom, being “tied down”, thought about all the things I would miss out on. Then I felt the first kick, and boy did he knock some sense into me!

Having a baby can seem overwelming at first, but honestly, to me, being a mom is such a breeze. When I first found out I was pregnant I quit my job to devote time to “baby”. Well, when the little bugger was 8 weeks old and sleeping ALL day, I was ready to go back to work! He was this perfect little angel, and I stared at him all day. When he was 8 weeks old (at my post-partum visit), we found out #2 was on her way! DO NOT believe the myth that breastfeeding is a natural means of b/c!!! Then when she was a couple months old, #3 was on his way (so much for using NFP while postpartum). Anyway - my point. No matter what happens, IT WILL ALL BE FINE. If you told me three years ago that I would be a mom of three in less than 2 years, I would have blown a gasket. But as soon as you hold that little bundle, your life will change, you get a job for life - being a mom (though you pass some of that off when they get married, at least I wish my MIL would do that!)

Congrats! Babycenter will help you out tremendously (if you are, in fact, preggo). They have the birth club boards that can calm fears since all the other women will be experiencing things the same time you are. They saved my husband and my doctor from hearing a ton of worries from me!!!
 
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LOL, I know exactly what you mean! The dreaded “oh my…what did I do?” feeling! MY husband was thrilled when we found out we were expecting our first, and me - well, scared out of my pants! I worried about me being too lazy of a mom, being “tied down”, thought about all the things I would miss out on. Then I felt the first kick, and boy did he knock some sense into me!

Having a baby can seem overwelming at first, but honestly, to me, being a mom is such a breeze. When I first found out I was pregnant I quit my job to devote time to “baby”. Well, when the little bugger was 8 weeks old and sleeping ALL day, I was ready to go back to work! He was this perfect little angel, and I stared at him all day. When he was 8 weeks old (at my post-partum visit), we found out #2 was on her way! DO NOT believe the myth that breastfeeding is a natural means of b/c!!! Then when she was a couple months old, #3 was on his way (so much for using NFP while postpartum). Anyway - my point. No matter what happens, IT WILL ALL BE FINE. If you told me three years ago that I would be a mom of three in less than 2 years, I would have blown a gasket. But as soon as you hold that little bundle, your life will change, you get a job for life - being a mom (though you pass some of that off when they get married, at least I wish my MIL would do that!)

Congrats! Babycenter will help you out tremendously (if you are, in fact, preggo). They have the birth club boards that can calm fears since all the other women will be experiencing things the same time you are. They saved my husband and my doctor from hearing a ton of worries from me!!!
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Did you learn about and use ecological breastfeeding? Many women are not aware there’s a difference between ecological breastfeeding and the breastfeeding that’s common in our culture. Using ecological breastfeeding is 99% effective in delaying pregnancy.

I appreciated your perspective on children but not as much what I perceived as potshots on nfp and ecological breastfeeding. It’s so great when we can come to this board and get support for living out our Catholic faith in marriage and family life.
 
Sarcophagus et al. –

I’m getting a big kick out of this thread because 22 years ago today my daughter was born – after 10 years of marriage, living like Catholics (although we were Protestant at the time) and TRYING to get pregnant. Our daughter was nearly a miracle conception – but that’s another story. ANYWAY, after finally achieving success, I nearly collapsed in panic when the news was confirmed . . . . Goes to show ya!
 
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Hey! Almost everybody gets the willies when she finds out she’s pregnant (especially the first time!). Having a baby is a BIG deal. Funny thing, though, you get this disease that makes you love 'em to pieces and when you bring 'em home, it’s as though they were always part of your life.
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Well, that initial fear happens to husbands too. We tried (a short time for us). When my wife called from the doctor’s office (yes, this is before our complete confidence in NFP) that we were expecting, I almost fell to the floor in fear. Like near experience perhaps when your entire life flashes before your eyes, I had all these fears of what I could mess up or go wrong.

And I like your summary, after teh first day, it’s as if they’ve been with you all your life. We’ve been watching many old home movies lately and are amazed at the changes in life now with three children and we cannot imagine life being more enjoyable and how much we didn’t know back then. 🙂
 
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Rascal:
Well, that initial fear happens to husbands too.
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Oh, yeah! My husband was in denial for days. When I called from the office he said: “Oh. . . . Well. . . . I guess that’s good news.” The tone in his voice said: “How could you do this to me!” He’s a great dad now.
 
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goravens:
Did you learn about and use ecological breastfeeding? Many women are not aware there’s a difference between ecological breastfeeding and the breastfeeding that’s common in our culture. Using ecological breastfeeding is 99% effective in delaying pregnancy.
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Huh? Never heard of it! They never mentioned it in our NFP class! I just breastfed when the kid was hungry, and pumped when I was full and he wasn’t. Can you explain ecological breastfeeding? I would love to know!

Thanks!
 
For more info, see ccli.org/breastfeed/bresf.shtml.

It is a misconception that the mere fact a baby is getting mother’s milk that it delays pregnancy. It’s the complete picture of mother/chld care and comfort that delays fertility. As I recall, 8 weeks is fairly typical for “cultural” nursing and non-nursing mothers to have fertility return.

Ecological breastfeeding includes feeding and comforting your child all the time (night and day). It’s the suckling for comfort as well as teh feeding the maintains the infertility.

As a side note, there is nothing wrong with “cultural” breastfeeding. Giving your child the best nutrition is always good. But some mothers like the idea of 2 years of no cycles. To get that, she must follow the principles of ecological breasfeeding.
 
For a step by step explanation of ecological breastfeeding you can read the book Breastfeeding and Natural Child Spacing by Sheila Kippley (www.ccli.org). There are basically seven standards that you need to follow to ensure that there is enough suckling to delay the return of fertility. For instance, no pacifiers or bottles, nursing on demand; especially during the night, co-sleeping, no supplemental feedings or early introduction of solids. One must always be looking for the signs of fertility returning (i.e mucus) but if you follow all seven standards of ecological breastfeeding and you do not have any signs of fertility you can be secure in the knowledge that you are not cycling. Once you introduce solids you need to begin formally charting but that doesn’t mean that you are fertile. Only your charts and a thermal temperature shift can tell you that.

On average, woman who ecologically breastfeed will see a return of fertility at 14 months. My cycles returned at 10 months (kid #1) and at 11 months (kid #2). However, most of my early cycles were not fertile (no temperature shift).I have a friend who did not have cycles for 22 months. Each woman is different that is why charting is so essential once signs of fertility show up or you introduce solids or supplemental feedings.

I firmly believe that Ecological Breastfeeding is the best kept secret and the most important aspect of NFP. That is why I exclusively recommend the Couple to Couple League because they are the only ones who teach ecological breastfeeding.

For those that say that they got pregnant while nursing, I always ask, did you use a pacifier? They ALWAYS say yes. Or they actually say no and then I see their husband in mass holding the baby and feeding it with a bottle. DUH! 🙂
 
That was definitely us. I would pump so my husband could feed at times, and we did do the pacifier thing (though we swore we never would before he was born). Oh well, we got a beautiful little girl now. But NEXT time… I will be sure to read up! Thanks!!!
 
As an additional thought on Ecological breastfeeding…some moms like to pump milk and store it “just in case”. Anyway, the act of pumping sort of confuses the moms body. It produces more milk than the baby would normally demand thus when the pumping stops there is a dramatic drop in milk production which can then result in a very early return of cycles. If one must pump then one must also start charting.
 
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sarcophagus:
Thanks rascal…to clarify, I’m going to wait until my doctor’s appointment to tell him. He knows I’m think I may be but he doesn’t know that I am THIS “worried”.
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well, well well??? the grandmas out here are getting antsy, don’t keep us in suspense, well, okay, you can tell hub first before we start our knitting.
 
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puzzleannie:
well, well well??? the grandmas out here are getting antsy, don’t keep us in suspense, well, okay, you can tell hub first before we start our knitting.
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Cute, PAnnie…

calling sarcophagus…the suspense is killing us! 😃
 
Sorry for the wait everyone…my internet was being fixed…I’m not pregnant. The doctor told me it had to do with my hormonal imbalance and also that the b/c isn’t working well for it so I have to go on something stronger, possibly “real” medication.

Is it strange that I feel so sad about not being even though I was worried sick about it when I thought I was? I guess after all the thinking that went into it, I got really excited about the prospect of being a mother. Unfortunatley, my doctor also told me that he doesn’t think I’ll be able to get pregnant or keep a pregnancy due to my condition. Of course, this needs further testing and would be better supported if I was “trying” to get pregnant, but that makes me sad too. Out of all the things I want to do with my life, being a mother (i guess after this, even now) was the top of my list. I’m actually contemplating asking my husband if we can try, but I know that he will feel that it is in my best interest to finish school, which I understand. It just seems that if I was to be infertile, it will probably get worse with age. Whether that is true or not, I don’t know, but it seems right.

For now, I think I may get a puppy or something (if I can convince my husband 😉 ). That may help the maternal feelings subside for a bit until I can either get pregnant or find out if I can’t.

Thank you everyone for your prayers and thoughts, it means so much to me to know that so many people care!!!

God bless
 
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