I wonder if this applies:
“…The supreme perfection of man in this life is to be so united to God that all his soul with all its faculties and powers are so gathered into the Lord God that he becomes one spirit with him, and remembers nothing except God, is aware of and recognises nothing but God, but with all his desires unified by the joy of love, he rests contentedly in the enjoyment of his Maker alone…”
- St Albert the Great (1193 - 1280), Doctor of the Church & German Dominican
It should be remembered though that when one is in Heaven, he/she is with God and therefore sees all things, all people, all history in one Ever-Present Now.
Read this great answer on a Catholic website:
We will have no need for our memory after our death, because we will see everything as the Lord sees things: eternally. We will see all previous historical events and all future historical events because of, as the Catechism states [this perfect life with the Most Holy Trinity — this communion of life and love with the Trinity, with the Virgin Mary, the angels and all the blessed.] — from the Catechism of the Catholic Church, paragraph 1024, on Heaven.
A smart guy and he is correct. We
see through God’s eyes. Remember Meister Eckhart’s famous saying:
“…The eye with which I see God is the same with which God sees me. My eye and God’s eye are one eye, and one sight, and one knowledge, and one love. Your human nature and that of the divine Word are no different. To guage the soul we must guage it with God, for the Ground of God and the Ground of the Soul are one and the same. The knower and the known are one. Simple people imagine that they should see God, as if He stood there and they here. This is not so. God and I, we are one in knowledge…”
***- Meister Eckhart (c. 1260 – c. 1327), Catholic Mystic & priest ***
Can you even begin to imagine that? Its an utterly superior form of
knowing and
being aware. Man is not annihilated, he is ennobled and uplifted so far above his current state as to be unrecognisable.
So, its not as if the person would not be “aware” of his life on earth, its simply that he/she would be in perfect happiness and freedom from the individual human self, to the extent that he/she would have no need to cling to those memories, when all its desire is sated in and all of its attention is taken up by God, in whom is its whole beatitude.
Our loved ones can and do intercede for us. They are aware of us. After all, love never ends. Love is the very nature of God, the mutual self-emptying of the Three Persons. But everything else is
transient without any permanence including our thoughts, feelings and emotions that fluctuate in life. They are not self, not “who we are” at our core, which we find only in God and not in ourselves.
Yet
nothing is uniquely “ours” once we die in a state of grace. Everything is shared - with God, with the Communion of Saints. We retain our distinct being yet lose wholly the possesiveness of the individual self. We cling to nothing as our “own”, even I would guess “our” memories. Everything is for God and in God just as in God everything is shared between the Three Persons and nothing is “self”-possessed . That is why Catherine says that in the state of purgatory “everything to do with self passes away”.
Its just a wholly superior form of existence, such that I do not think any of us can say aught about it, really.