Men and abortion?

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I was playing BitLife, and my characters wife was pregnant and I chose to keep the child but the wife aborted it herself. I got pretty upset over that, but I it got me thinking. If a mans wife gets an abortion without the husbands consent, is the husband still accountable? Like the character, he wanted to keep the child but the wife aborted it anyway 😦 Or does the husband have to go to confession before receiving communion? To me I feel that the husband is fine and doesn’t have too confess right away because he didn’t consent, but what are your opinions?
 
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Perhaps the husband might have done a better job persuading his wife not to have an abortion. So possibly there is a sin of omission here. But I tend to think that since the husband did not give his consent and the wife, on her own free will, had an abortion anyway, the husband is not to blame, theologically speaking. However, if there is guilt on the part of the husband, there is no harm in his going to confession.
 
He should also ask the priest about the possibility of an annulment from a wife who murders his children.
 
@TheLittleLady a friend reccomended it too me, saying it was a life simulator of a sort. I tried it out, simply ignoring the evil options, but then this happened. The game kinda just leaves a sour thought in my mind ever since so i dont think im playing it anymore. Would it be considered a mortal sin for me playing, i didnt think of that when i startef?
 
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That is a question for your Priest, but, I would not play the game anymore.

In real life, one would only marry a person who held the same moral beliefs, it would be disastrous to marry a spouse who did not hold the fundamental same beliefs. This teaches you that lesson at least 🙂

Get out and live real life.
 
You know in real life that would be a tough one. Personally, that was one of the first topics my fiance and I had; and we had an agreement on this subject. I would say that if he did everything in his power to try to persuade her from doing so including talking, praying, providing information, etc. And she went and did it (say while he was at work), I would say not his fault, but ultimately I would say he would need to talk to the priest. The priest would be able to provide a more spiritual guidance and try to help him with his greiving and try to possibly help if the situation arises again.
 
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Labaddy said:
Would it be considered a mortal sin for me playing, i didnt think of that when i startef?
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Mortal sins need to be:
  • grave matter
  • done with full knowledge
  • done with deliberate consent
 
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Games like that are just busy work. They don’t really do anything to strengthen your mind or your body. That time would be best spent in a physical or intellectual hobby. Then you wouldn’t have to worry about it.
 
Thinking about this, if in this game one’s avatar can become pregnant, then there must be a sexual simulation of some sort?
 
@TheLittleLady th re is none, its like one of those text adventure games. Like you just mke the choices and it creates a story. It is not graphic, a box just comes up “your wife is pregnant” you can choose when you want your character to have a baby or you can just wait and see. I was waiting for a while for the box to pop up and when it finally did i clicked the button to have the child, but sometimes the choices arent succsesful (ie. like a character wants a job and i click apply for job, but in the end the character didnt get an interview) and that happened 😦.
 
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He should also ask the priest about the possibility of an annulment from a wife who murders his children.
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What happens during a marriage are not grounds for annulment. Grounds for annulment apply up to the marriage taking place.
 
thistle said:
What happens during a marriage are not grounds for annulment. Grounds for annulment apply up to the marriage taking place.
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I’m thinking along the lines of that she was never open to having children. Anyway, it’s just a hypothetical, since the OP is only talking about a game.
 
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In real life, one would only marry a person who held the same moral beliefs, it would be disastrous to marry a spouse who did not hold the fundamental same beliefs.
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You’d be surprised how many people don’t have that standard. One of my friends, who is half Polish and half Irish, I mean countries that are pillars of Catholicism, married a Muslim woman. Next thing you know, he is a Muslim now. Disastrous indeed.
 
@TheLittleLady th re is none, its like one of those text adventure games. Like you just mke the choices and it creates a story. It is not graphic, a box just comes up “your wife is pregnant” you can choose when you wantyour character to have a baby or you can just wait and see. I was waiting for a while for the box to pop up and when it finally did i clicked the button to have the child, but sometimes the choices arent succsesful (ie. like a character wants a job and i click apply for job, but in the end the character didnt get an interview) and that happens
 
thistle said:
What happens during a marriage are not grounds for annulment. Grounds for annulment apply up to the marriage taking place.
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I disagree. The marriage vows are clear: “will you accept children lovingly from God and bring them up according to the teachings of Christ and his church.”

If the wife went through with an abortion, she is violating her vows. I would think this is grounds for annulment. Just my two cents.
 
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I disagree. The marriage vows are clear: “will you accept children lovingly from God and bring them up according to the teachings of Christ and his church.”

If the wife went through with an abortion, she is violating her vows. I would think this is grounds for annulment. Just my two cents.
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Sorry but you are wrong. Grounds for annulment apply prior to marriage, and not what happens during marriage. Something that happens during marriage may support grounds for annulment (prior to marriage) but in and of themselves nothing that happens during the marriage are grounds for annulment.
Nobody can go to a tribunal and ask for an annulment based on what happens soley during marriage.
 
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And once you’ve married a non-Catholic (or even Catholic with different morals), you’re stuck… while I love my Protestant wife, I’ve paid a huge price in this regard on more than one front.
 
Plan on anything going wrong for no apparent reason at any moment expecting their will be no time to prepare with regards to the morals of your spouse.

You meet people who say one thing but immediately do the sin they are against when time is on them.
 
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