Menopausal Depression

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Hi All,

I’ve been diagnosed with menopausal depression. As hard as it’s been to hear the word “depression”, I think, deep down, I knew that’s what’s been wrong with me for a while.

I’ve got a good counselor, and she is sending me to a psychiatrist on Mon. to have medication prescribed. According to what she tells me, I’ll be feelling a lot better soon. “Like my old self” is how she put it. Hope she’s right because this is no fun.

My problem, and your (name removed by moderator)ut here is humbly requested, is this:

I’ve managed to alienate several people. I’ve said things that I didn’t mean and, in doing so, have lost the friendship of someone who is very important to me. I’m having a hard time dealing with it. This person is no longer speaking to me and it’s really hurting.

Being as all this is my fault, it’s made it that much harder. I’m very angry at myself and can’t let it go.

If any of you can give me some help with this, I’d be very grateful.
 
It always helps me to start with the confessional and a good priest. I then pray and fast.
 
If you send her a letter apologizing and explaining it like you did here, I’m sure that will help. 🙂
 
paradoxy said:
If you send her a letter apologizing and explaining it like you did here, I’m sure that will help. 🙂
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👍 Yep, send it in writing. Don’t write it down until you have been to confession and have prayed and fasted about it. Ask God to keep you from using the word “but” (like I’m sorry but).
 
pyropam said:
👍 Yep, send it in writing. Don’t write it down until you have been to confession and have prayed and fasted about it. Ask God to keep you from using the word “but” (like I’m sorry but).
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Actually I tried that but found out later that it was thrown away without being read. Also tried to email but it was deleted, also.

Sadly, I guess that’s one friendship that I managed to ruin.
 
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Actually I tried that but found out later that it was thrown away without being read. Also tried to email but it was deleted, also.

Sadly, I guess that’s one friendship that I managed to ruin.
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If someone whom you considered a long time friend would throw away letters and delete emails without reading them (and then let it be known to others who would tell you this) then I think you have to ask yourself how much of a friendship it really was.

I’m sure that you did your share to hurt this friendship, but in not even allowing you an *opportunity *to explain this other person has shown their true colors.

Perhaps time will soften their stance, but if not then I don’t know that you’ve really lost all that much. Just my 2 cents.
 
I agree with 1ke.

I hope you feel better soon, fellow menopauser! I’ve been blessed to only have hot flashes and sweats. And I am very glad to be done with menses.
 
River_Rat said:
Hi All,

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Being as all this is my fault, it’s made it that much harder. I’m very angry at myself and can’t let it go.

If any of you can give me some help with this, I’d be very grateful.
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Dear Friend,
This is NOT all your fault. No one asks for depression. This is a malfunction in neurotransmitters in the brain, specifically serotonin, norepinephrine, and dopamine, which control moods. Thus, the medication helps regulate those neurotransmitters.
I agree with the poster who said that if this person will not even read a letter or email, maybe the friendship was not what you thought. Ask our Lord to help you with the anger. Your therapist should also have some good anger management techniques you can use. If you need any, pm me. I am also a therapist.🙂

Peace,
Linda
 
It seems like NOBODY understands what happens to your brain when you’re going thru menopause. I have never been so angry or depressed than I have been thru menopause. Yes, I’m on meds. But nobody understands. And it lasts for so many YEARS! It’s so nice not to have periods anymore, but they never warn you about “MENOPAUSE BRAIN”! :eek:
People make such concessions for pregnant women and those with PMS, but not for us menopausers!
Please remember this everybody! Be tolerant of menopausers. Their mind is not their own! 😃
 
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