It is true that priests nowadays are getting busier and rejects penitents, or treat them with such unfriendliness that the penitents are afraid of going to confession,
however, if the priest makes a mistake (or he himself doesnāt go to confession, thus, do not attain holiness and eternal salvation), it doesnāt mean that we too should lose our eternal salvation and happiness.
no no, it would be the priestās responsibility with God.
We have to pray for him
And for ourselves, if we desire to confess weekly, yet do not have the confessor to do so, we can go monthly to four different priests, and ask each, āCan I go regularly to confession, if so, how many times a year?ā
He would probably say āonce a month.ā
āThen, can I go to confession monthly with you?ā
Voila. Youāve got a confessor.
Do not lightly change your confessor, unless you see that something is seriously wrong with him (you see him call mortal sin venial, and venial sins mortal or no sin at all). These kind of priests should be avoided. You should choose a priest that is holy, and live in accordance to the commandments of christ, thus you will be safe.
You can also ask Jesus,
āJesus, give me holy confessor and spiritual directorsā
āJesus give me the grace to confess weekly, if this is according to your holy will, for nothing is impossible for youā
āJesus, grant that this priest may want to hear me confessā
That is what I pray for each weekly confession. Without which it would be impossible.
And pray also so that the priest may be given light to understand your soul.
You can imitate the saints on how they confess.
St. Gemma Galgani confessed three times a week
St. Birgitta of Sweden confessed every day
St. Alphonsus Liguory confessed twice a week, or weekly
St. Dominic savio, who died at the age of 15 confessed weekly
St. Faustina Kowalska confessed weekly, and have a spiritual director, which she would have to ask for and wait
St. Teresa of Avila confessed frequently, yet she laments about bad confessors who harm her spiritually by saying mortal sin is venial and lead her astray so many times (you can read in her book, life)
St. Pope John Paul confessed weekly
Blessed mother teresa confessed weekly
Well, if we havenāt confessed for years, I think we should question, are we holier than the saints? That is what I question myself, and the answer is sadly⦠no
So, if the saints confess thus frequently, how about us?

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