Met a guy at my parish

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Hi Everyone,

I hope I came to the right place and am not annoying you with a silly question here.

A few months ago, I met a guy at the Church I go to and have developed a crush on him. He is in the same social crowd but does not attend Mass every Sunday due to work (he works in health care). Yesterday, we said hello after mass outside the church. We often stand together in the same group. He commented “nice blouse” to me and I said thank you (and no the blouse was not tight or revealing in any way, I just wanted to make that clear :)).
Could that mean he is interested? or is he just being nice? Is it quite out of the normal for a guy to comment on a girls clothing? particularly in a church setting.

At a restaurant we all went to a few months ago, I caught him staring at me whilst I was talking and laughing with my friend, he was sitting next to my friend across the table. He does seem very attentive to what I say and has approached me to strike up a conversation a few times. When we talk we talk for a long time and he also seems to remember a lot of things that I have said to him, even if I mentioned it briefly and quite some time ago.

Does it look like I may have hope? Could it be he is interested?

God bless.
 
1ke said:
If he is interested, he will ask for your number and ask you out.
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Yes, this is correct.
Just be friendly and enjoy his company when you meet. It’s good to have conversations with a variety of different people.
 
You don’t have to wait for him. Maybe he’s shy. You can show your own interest in him without being overtly aggressive-and see where it leads.
 
While I can’t nail down the exact level of his interest? What I can tell you is that if he wasn’t-at-all-interested-in-the-slightest he for sure wouldn’t angle for those kinds of closer brushes at all.

So I’d lean on the side of interested. And you being you is clearly doing it for him. Return the favor by asking about his day sometime. See what that wins you.

Good luck TCG. Hope it comes up roses for you. Hand us an update now and then if you make progress. Some of us care about this sorta stuff 😉

-Trident
 
OP, I don’t know how old you are or what your dating experience is, but next time you speak to him after mass, ask him if he would like to get some coffee somewhere. Either he will say yes and the process of getting to know him begins, or he may say no in such a way that you will know one way or the other if he is interested. He may say no, but suggest another time or another day.

You don’t need to sit around waiting. Just talk to to him and ask him to do something.
 
@Irishmom2 has given the correct answer. Life is too short to sit around waiting for someone else to make the first move. There is nothing wrong with inviting him for coffee or lunch. If he isn’t interested, good to know now so you can move on to someone who is!
 
It is possible that you are seeing what you want to see, but your statements indicate that he has some interest. He may be otherwise occupied or has some other reason not to pursue you directly, but it is just as likely that he feels the need for permission to approach you in the “safe” setting of your religious group.
You can grant that permission by greeting him warmly next time you see him. You don’t have to be forward or fawning, just give him permission to start building a connection with an opening.
There are benefits to going slowly beyond the obvious, you might decide you like each other outside of mere attraction.
 
What did I delete? Sorry I’m not familiar with this forum. What did you mean by ‘I’m not surpised’
 
ok… yes that is right as i thought it wasn’t worth being annoyed at someone… but i’m not really sure why by me doing that has warranted a “i’m not surprised you deleted this post” from another person…
 
I had every right to… that’s my business why I did but if you must know I realised I didn’t need to stoop to that level. Thank you.
 
HOPE, BEATS ETERNAL IN THE HUMAN BREAST…,
It sounds cute. I think you may have a connection here. Wait a few more contacts. Do a background check on truthfinder. It is tough times.
Don’t get too excited, yet.THINK ABOUT YOUR SENSE OF PURITY, when you get into a relationship. Be friends w whomever, God has for you. Stay in public areas. Be w friends & family. Kissing will happen. It can be overwhelming! Don’t kiss like that again, till your married. Short courtship??!
God bless
 
To be honest, I did get offended when 1ke commented “I know you want us to tell you he’s interested” , I thought that was presumptuous therefore impolite. If I answered like that to somebody’s post, I would feel confident that they would think I thought they were an idiot.
 
I never said your question was ridiculous. Many people thought my answer to you was helpful.
But when I agreed that what you said should have been deleted because it was unkind, I get a lecture from you? Perhaps since you left CAF before and rejoined again under a new name, it is you that needs to reconsider your own posts, and the responses they garner.
 
I think he may be interested. Ask him out for coffee.

BTW, I didn’t see the deleted post!
 
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