Met a guy at my parish

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I think he is interested. Ask him for coffee or offer to exchange numbers to text each other.

I’m older, but when I was young I acted just as you described him. I was very shy about asking girls out.
 
Yeah, ask him out for coffee or something. In today’s culture, he’d have to know that doing something as simple as complimenting your blouse could see him charged with sexual harassment so what he did was really brave. 🙂 He’s definitely interested.
 
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Ask him if he wants to go have coffee sometime.
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^^This. Or you could ask him to go for some pizza or some other snack. If he’s interested, he’ll take you up on it, or propose some other time to get together. If he’s not interested, he’ll make some excuse and then you’ll know not to be wasting your time waiting for him to ask for your number.
 
Maybe not charged, but the girl could easily tell all the other girls he was a creeper because he remarked on her blouse. I’ve seen that happen when the girl getting the compliment did not like the man who gave it.
 
We live in extraordinary times.
Everyone seems to err on the side of political correctness.
Many maybe scared to express their feelings about this, that, or the other thing.
I think this is especially so when it comes to seeing a person you are attracted to and wondering if it is being too push to pursue one’s feelings.
No one wants to be overbearing or the other hand, no one wants to have is or her feelings hurt.
I would suggest that you just take things slow. Be friendly, but proceed cautiously.
Good luck and God bless, you both.
 
If your parish has coffee and donuts after Mass, you might try that. A little less intimidating for both sides than just jumping right out there for phone numbers and Starbucks. This hasn’t gone anywhere for me, but one never knows, nothing ventured, nothing gained. Good luck.
 
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Not to overwork this subject…but phones have greatly gained importance, in recent years. People use them not just for talking, but for texting, reading, and just about every internet function. So, maybe some people see giving out their personal phone numbers as a more important step?

I think most people would be more comfortable being invited out, for coffee, a snack, or a small meal, than for phone numbers. Even giving out one’s email Addy seems less personal.
 
The problem I have seen with the “let’s exchange numbers” thing is that after people do that, often one person will text and the other person won’t really respond and it’s not clear the reason why. Some people simply don’t like to respond to a a lot of texts, or don’t have time, or feel like they are being pestered, while others like to chat in the text messages a lot.

You are better off asking the person out to a coffee shop or snack bar because you’ll be able to better tell if they’re “into you” by spending time in person. If you just exchange numbers and then the person doesn’t text back, you have no idea if that’s disinterest or they just don’t like to text.
 
From my experience dating my husband, if he likes you he will be intentional. He will ask you out and want to know you better if he does like you. Otherwise, nothing is certain.

I actually suggest praying about it. Ask God to bless your friendship if he wills it. God will answer you no doubt. Either he will say yes and it will work out, or else it won’t work out and you will have the other answer which is “wait, there is something better ahead”. God bless!
 
Maybe I’m a little old-fashioned but I believe he should be brave enough to eventually ask you out if he fancies you. It’s the hardest part of being a guy, but also a necessary step for us in pursuing a girl! However, I’m not a proponent of playing hard-to-get if you like him back. You can make the next step MUCH easier for him by smiling a lot, being generally warm and attentive when he talks to you, asking questions about him, and taking compliments well. For example if he comments on your blouse, you could say “Why thanks. I’m glad you noticed!” Simple hints to give him the courage to take it to the next level. Good luck!
 
Trident_H is the BEST and ALWAYS gives great advice in a very kind way. 👼
 
Well, it appears that the OP is suspended, so it’s all a guess as to whether she spoke up for herself or not.
 
I realize that. A relationship starts & if attracted can get into kissing quickly. There is kissing & kissing. Staying pure in body is difficult. That one type of kissing needs to be avoided for purity’s sake. After they meet & have coffee…
God bless
 
We probably will not see if/when anything starts. OP is suspended. And, since no return day is listed, it may be for an indefinite time???

OP, if you’re reading this, good luck!
 
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