I don’t believe that protestants have a “monoploy on being cafeteria christians” either…
But…“easy” isn’t the word I’d use for what I am going through…the annulment process. It has been the most gut wrenching, emotionally draining, and time consuming experience I could ever have imagined. It has taken me ten years just to get the darn thing submitted, with three false starts, because of my inability to finish the over 100 in depth questions about my childhood, his childhood, our courtship, our marriage, our separation, our divorce.
Six witnesses that may or may not submit their equally long questionaires, which is up to me to motivate them to try to remember what happened…twenty years ago…when we started dating…not to mention my ex-husband…trying to get him involved…what a nightmare!!
…sad fact is it won’t be until next spring until I find out if the thing will happen or not, and I will owe $400.00 to the tri-bunal that is researching my case (someone has to supply their paychecks), and a possibility that I will be denied is haunting me. I don’t think that anyone would willingly go through this if they didn’t love and believe in the Church.
On the up side…it has also been a healing process. My ex-husband actually apologized…first time ever (he left me and our children for another women he worked with) Amazing! I bet you didn’t expect to hear my horror story about this annulment on a Methodist T.V. add thread…struck a cord is all