Christ says, “Be perfect, just as your heavenly Father is perfect.” (
Matt 5:48) He does not say to be good enough, nor does He imply that we should do the least we can in order to attempt just squeaking by. That attitude is one of sloth and gross presumption, respectively a capital sin and a blasphemy against the Holy Spirit. If God accepts only what is perfect into Paradise, then it is quite obvious that whatever same-sex attraction you experience will not be there.
It seems to me that this is the sort of confused theology that these so-called “ministries” to “gays” encourage. Even when they have the intention of agreeing with Church teaching, they dilute that part of the message in a crude attempt to make the faith marketable. Consequently, we end up with a sloppy, reductionist theology whose adherents refuse any but the most superficial self-examination. As examples, there tends no longer to be any discussion about avoiding the near occasion of sin and an unsophisticated attempt to equate mere sexual suppression with the sublime grace of Chastity.
The sad truth is that we Christians do those with same-sex attractions no favors by deceiving them into thinking that same-sex attractions are some type of benign thing as long as they are ignored. Make no mistake, they are an evil that points away from Christ and they must be purged. Only then can the individual make a serious attempt to be perfect, just as our heavenly Father is perfect.