Miracle Needed

[NiceMimi]

Heavenly Father, in faith, I thank You for taking over Miracle’s situation, and for bringing peace, protection, and the help she and her children need in their lives. Thank You Father, for showing her Your Holy Presence. Amen.

 

[samovila]

MiracleNeeded,
You are not alone. There are times I decide to stay in a troubled marriage in order to avoid a difficult divorce that could put my kids at risk. I do my best to make my marriage work and keep in mind that in 18 years my kids will be adults and the burden of responsibility for their well-being will not fall so heavily on my shoulders and at that time I may re-evaluate my reasons for staying in our marriage. I don’t believe we’re the only two women in this type of situation and certainly there have been many women throughout history, saints included. I think marriage at best is the intimate, loving, union between two good people in order to start a family. My marriage falls short of that ideal, but I am no less committed to it and by the Grace of God we are doing well and we are happy most days. My great-grandmother always said that we all have our own cross to carry in this world. I can still be a good wife in a less than good marriage. I pray for my husband and children, I pray for the fruits of the Holy Spirit, I do the best I can. Prayers for you and for all married couples out there.

 

[NiceMimi]

Heavenly Father, in faith, I thank You for taking over Miracle’s situation, and for bringing peace, protection, and the help she and her children need in their lives. Thank You Father, for showing her Your Holy Presence. Amen.

 

[MiracleNeeded]

God bless you! You will see the results pretty quickly! Our Blessed Mother is a serious intercessor. Please let us know how it goes! God bless you again!

Heavenly Father, in faith, I thank You for taking over Miracle’s situation, and for bringing peace, protection, and the help she and her children need in their lives. Thank You Father, for showing her Your Holy Presence. Amen.

It is done, I have completed the 54-day Novena (in 7 days) it was a challenge, but I do feel my soul uplifted, I pray that Mary interceeds on my behalf and that I may have a swift and very visable answer!


If anyone else wants to complete this Novena, I recommend this page:
prayerflowers.com/54DayNovena.htm#SOR0

 

[NiceMimi]

It is done, I have completed the 54-day Novena (in 7 days) it was a challenge, but I do feel my soul uplifted, I pray that Mary interceeds on my behalf and that I may have a swift and very visable answer!


If anyone else wants to complete this Novena, I recommend this page:
prayerflowers.com/54DayNovena.htm#SOR0

God bless you!!! I am very happy for you! You will see the results pretty quickly! I will say that in our case, a phone call was received within 20 days about a job. We were thrilled. Then, nothing. We kept the faith, and sure enough a wonderful, steady job came through as a result of the very simply phone call which was an inquiry about the resume that had been sent in. The questions were general, and it was not clear if a follow up call or interview would come through… What I am saying is that the sign that changes are coming may be something very simple, and perhaps not very clear if it is the answer. Keep the faith! Everytime I’ve done the 54-Day Rosary Novena, the petition has been answered in the most wonderful of ways! Every time!

Heavenly Father, in faith, thank You for continuing to watch out for Miracle and her children. Thank You for walking with her and her children every step of the way. Thank You Lord for blessing her and her children with the miracles they so very much deserve because they are Your children and because Miracle seeks Your counsel and walks with You Lord. Thank You Lord. Amen.

 

[Edmundus1581]

Dear MiracleNeeded,

I will keep you in my prayers.

The only advise I can give is to prioritise your problems, to decide what you can live with, and what you can’t. As important as the financial issues are, they are not as dangerous as the sexual promiscuity, and pornography in the house. Then, when you’ve identified the things you can’t live, set some boundaries and stick to them.

It seems quite likely to me that if you are strong before your husband, and set limits on him, that he will either improve, or leave of his own free will. You did say that he’s had two (or was it three?) previous marriages.

Blessings,

Edmundus

ps. Don’t worry about that insulting post from a previous poster. That was totally unneccessary. Try to just let it go

 

[MiracleNeeded]

You did say that he’s had two (or was it three?) previous marriages.

No, he has only one previous marriage, it was short, and she cheated on and left him. She is the one who has been married/divorced a couple of more times after that. Both of them were from very nice, well-known families in town, and so her actions left him “smelling like a rose.” That is why his previous marriage was not a red flag to me in the first place. I am not making excuses, only explaining the situation.
I have set limits, and things improved a little (he does not get fall-down drunk in town anymore.) He is very concerned about his image, what people think of him. No one in town knows about all of his issues (well, they know about the drinking, but not all of the sexual flings and the way he treats us.) I have kept that under wraps as well, because we do live in such a small town, and it would not be fair to the children to have that embarassment. What he does when out of town (about 1/2 the time) is out of my control. He says he no longer has those affairs, but he has told me that before. He tells me he does not drink while out of town, but yet calls me slurring his words - then gets mad, and claims that he has not been drinking!
There is no pornography in the house, he does all of that when out of town.
I guess I never should have brought up the financial issues of leaving. Yes, there would be huge financial issues if I were own my own. However, that is not what keeps me from leaving. What keeps me from leaving, is that he desperately does not want me to leave. So, I do have a good bit of control over him when he is in town and around the children. If I left, I would have no control over what he did and exposed the children to. Basically, what I am saying, is if I could leave and the children never have contact with him again, I would, no matter the financial hardship involved.
No, I he would ever leave me/file for divorce, it would make him look bad, and that is what is most important to him.

But thank you for the encouragement, it is very kind of you!

 

[MtnDwellar]

It occurs to me that you need to take more action. You have a Master’s Degree. Go get a job. I know that you said that you don’t want to be a career woman and rather a stay at home wife and mother. Well, things are not currently working according to your plan.

I know that you are worried about what happens during visitation after you leave. Worry about one step at a time. Visitation will probably be no worse than him living with the children.

It takes a very strong woman to leave. I know that it is hard, but, it has been done many times before. You can do it. Leaving will open up more doors than you can imagine. Exiting your hostile and unconsecrated marriage will open doors to unimaginable grace.

 

[mmm1]

i agree with cms. money poverty shouldnt worry you more than intoxicated driving with your kids. next time he does call the police and have him arrested. i’m not writing from some theoretical island. i’ve walked many miles living excruciating principals like this.

and here’s how: we have an adult son who’s an addict. i’ve written about our experiences with him several times on CAF. i can’t tell you the depth of sorrow we’ve experienced these last 8 years.

we’ve experienced the adoption of our grandson 7 years ago.
we’ve experienced the homelessness of our adict son for several years.
once he was missing-- really missing-- for 17 months. we checked morgues for him.
he’s been incarcerated.
he’s stolen from us.
we tried and tried to get him hospitalized for mental insanity and never could.

throughout we had 2 gut-wrenching policies:

1. never stop praying (there was about 3 years in there that every single time i received Jesus in Eucharist-- which was sometimes every day-- i wept till i could hardly breathe. i’d receive Jesus and run off to some secluded corner crying and begging the Lord. we’d go to perpetual adoration at 4 am so no one would be there to see us weep.) how much longer? please. please! please.

and 2: never do anything that could hasten an overdose death. especially never give him cash. when he was homeless, we’d go looking for him to bring him clothes, blankets, food and socks. about twice a week we’d go. (i dont know why he never had socks.) sometimes we’d find him, sometimes not. we never knew which was harder. imagine a michigan winter day, minus 4 degrees. we found him. he was barefoot. we gave him boots, socks, another coat we’d gotten from salvation army, soup, more food and blankets. my husband, (a tall manly guy of 6 foot 4) begged him, “please come home. we’ll get you into treatment. we’ll get you all fixed up.”

son (spaced out) said, “dad. just give me 20 bucks.”

husband said, “please J____. come home with us.”

son repeated the request, “can you just give me 20 bucks?”

my husband stood there, held his son by the shoulders and cried, “please J_____. please. ask me for something i can say yes to.”

we left him there that day just like we’d done and would do again scores and scores of times. we were ruined.

eight years.

eight excruciating years.

after 8 years of using, J______ finally begged to enter and has been in long-term rehab for 2 weeks now. he detoxed and is now in the residential treatment section. we went to see him today. he’s so astonished to be safe. and so relieved.

as we were driving away, my 10 year old son said, “something’s different about J______. something better.”

our good God loves you. you belong to HIM. HE loves your children. and HE loves your husband too. do NOT stop praying. don’t loose hope in HIM. trust and remain obedient.

you DO need a miracle. i did too.

God does miracles. it’s HIS specialty. trusting HIM and waiting on HIM becomes our specialty.

Oh my goodness, monicatholic, thank you for this inspiring, amazing post that had me in tears. I pray for people who suffer with addictions daily since I have learned how devastatingly difficult they are, & your son is now in my prayers. Praise be to God for his 2 weeks in recovery!

Miracle Needed, You are in my prayers as well, & I pray that you continue to get wonderful prayers, strength & advice!

I don’t remember if you mentioned the Divine Mercy Chaplet in your earlier posts, but this is a beautiful prayer that Jesus revealed to St. Maria Faustina. It is especially powerful when said at 3:00, the Hour of Mercy.

For monicatholics’s dear son & Miracle Needed; O Blood & Water, which gushed forth from the Heart of Jesus as a Font of Mercy for us, I trust in You. Jesus, I trust in You. Jesus, I trust in You. Jesus I trust in You.

 

[NiceMimi]

Heavenly Father, in faith, I thank You for helping Miracle and her children. Thank You Father for keeping them safe, thank You Father for blessing them in all ways. Amen.

 

[NiceMimi]

Heavenly Father, in faith, I thank You for helping Miracle and her children. Thank You Father for keeping them safe, thank You Father for blessing them in all ways. Amen.

 

[MiracleNeeded]

NiceMiMi,

Thank you so much for your continued prayers for my children and myself! I am continuing to pray on my end, and hoping for the best! I am trying very hard to keep my spirits high and hopeful! That is a challenge most days, but I try!

 

[David_Carlon]

First of all… grow up.

Marriage is a channel of grace for your salvation… your children… AND your husband.

Unconditional love is an act of the will… and demands suffering, sacrifice and unconditional forgiveness 1000 times 7.

I speak from experience… betrayal, lies, addiction, mental illness, etc. -and recently celebrated 31 years of joyful suffering… my hope and prayer is for perseverance and my spouse’s salvation.

 

[lily20]

Divorce him and give him an ultimatum… clean up his sex addition.

You are already struggling so why fear time apart? There’s gov’t churches good people out there who will help you. Especially with children.

Hugs,
Lily

 

[NiceMimi]

NiceMiMi,

Thank you so much for your continued prayers for my children and myself! I am continuing to pray on my end, and hoping for the best! I am trying very hard to keep my spirits high and hopeful! That is a challenge most days, but I try!

You are welcome Miracle! I trust that things will go well for you all. One thing that I do is that I thank God, in faith, for answering my prayer. Over the years, He has come through. God bless!

Heavenly Father, in faith, I thank You for helping Miracle and her children. Thank You Father for keeping them safe, thank You Father for blessing them in all ways. Amen.

 

[Viki63]

You are in my prayers, Miracle.
Years ago, when I was pregnant with my 2nd son and had a 2 1/2 year old, I left my husband. He was bi-polar and used to verbally and physically abuse me. I started going to a counselor, but couldn’t bring myself to make a move until he threw a block of wood at me and nearly hit my son in the head. I packed and left that day, we stayed with a friend a few weeks until I got welfare, then moved into a rented apartment. I stayed home with my sons until the youngest started school, when I went to nursing school. That was 30-some years ago, my sons are grown, loving young men. I have a fulfilling career, married again.
Your situation is different of course, but similar. You don’t know how your situation is harming you until you leave it, and it is hurting your children too, You are giving them an example of marriage – is that what you want them to think a father is, and how a man treats his wife? You deserve better, and so do your children. I worked all through my sons’ childhood, which was not ideal, but we were and still are close. You have a good chance of finding a good job, but even living on Aid to Dependent Children is better than sticking around a bad-example husband and father. You will feel so free, if you leave. And why would you not get child support? Find a good lawyer, move to a big city. You can do it, I know anyone can if I could, I was terrified but my children came first, as yours do for you.

 

[themeginthemoon]

First of all… grow up.

Marriage is a channel of grace for your salvation… your children… AND your husband.

Unconditional love is an act of the will… and demands suffering, sacrifice and unconditional forgiveness 1000 times 7.

I speak from experience… betrayal, lies, addiction, mental illness, etc. -and recently celebrated 31 years of joyful suffering… my hope and prayer is for perseverance and my spouse’s salvation.

Very uncharitable of you. Her struggles and concerns sound very legitimate to me.

 

[catharina]

You are in my prayers, Miracle.
Years ago, when I was pregnant with my 2nd son and had a 2 1/2 year old, I left my husband. He was bi-polar and used to verbally and physically abuse me. I started going to a counselor, but couldn’t bring myself to make a move until he threw a block of wood at me and nearly hit my son in the head. I packed and left that day, we stayed with a friend a few weeks until I got welfare, then moved into a rented apartment. I stayed home with my sons until the youngest started school, when I went to nursing school. That was 30-some years ago, my sons are grown, loving young men. I have a fulfilling career, married again.
Your situation is different of course, but similar. You don’t know how your situation is harming you until you leave it, and it is hurting your children too, You are giving them an example of marriage – is that what you want them to think a father is, and how a man treats his wife? You deserve better, and so do your children. I worked all through my sons’ childhood, which was not ideal, but we were and still are close. You have a good chance of finding a good job, but even living on Aid to Dependent Children is better than sticking around a bad-example husband and father. You will feel so free, if you leave. And why would you not get child support? Find a good lawyer, move to a big city. You can do it, I know anyone can if I could, I was terrified but my children came first, as yours do for you.

Wonderful post and so relevant
esp since OP is not married in the Church.

 

[catharina]

First of all… grow up.

Marriage is a channel of grace for your salvation… your children… AND your husband.

Unconditional love is an act of the will… and demands suffering, sacrifice and unconditional forgiveness 1000 times 7.

I speak from experience… betrayal, lies, addiction, mental illness, etc. -and recently celebrated 31 years of joyful suffering… my hope and prayer is for perseverance and my spouse’s salvation.

Yet you do not sound joyful - you sound rather bitter.
Hope you read enough of the OP’s posts to realize
that she is NOT involved in a Sacramental marriage.

BIG difference.

 

[NiceMimi]

Heavenly Father, thank You for taking care of Miracle and her children. Thank You Lord for walking with them every step of the way. Amen.