Miracle Needed

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For the OP—a marriage like yours can beat a person down to very little self esteem and that seems to be where you are right now. You say you have college degrees, etc. You are better off than a lot of women in your place. Many women have no education or any info on what to do.

I need to remind you that God helps those who help themselves. You may know the story of the man on top of the roof in a flood. Many boats were sent to rescue him but he refused because he said God would save him. He finally drowned and went to heaven. He asked God why he did not help him and let him drown. God said, “I sent you 6 boats, what more could I have done?”

It seems like God has sent you a lot of help with the priest and the others you have talked to about it. Many have said you have no marriage and to leave. Now you need to do your part. God bless.
 
I appreciate all the comments and advice, because I know that it all comes out of love and care. That is something I have very little of right now, so I do appreciate it!
I promise that if I see/get a lifeboat for myself and children, we will hop on! However, I am not going to jump into the water with them on my back, and try to swim until one picks us up.
(Remember, that I got into this marriage, because I felt “God” calling me into it. I fought that feeling! But, kept feeling “Him” tell me to trust “Him” and marry this guy. I now know that must have been Satan, but at the time I thought it was God! So, I am terrified to trust blindly, again, because it has gotten me into this mess! )
I should clarify that my degrees are in business, and has anyone looked out at the economy lately? Plus, I do not have enough experience to get a good job. I do apply! But, I need something that would actually pay enough to support us. I am willing and even would be eager to move away. I have met with an attorney - in that meeting I found out that (laws are different in various states) I would get almost nothing in a divorce, and he would have to pay a minimal child support (which might cover daycare and insurance, but nothing else.) But, most importantly, in a divorce, I can not keep them from him and his bad habits. I also do not have any close friends or family that can help.
I completely understand that from the outside it seems like I should just leave…
 
Hello Miracle. In my humble opinion, I think that you do have a great sense of what needs to be done, but you never really trusted your perception. When you were dating him, you saw that you had nothing in common. I think that other people telling you that he was a good match marred your judgment, and it snowballed into your feeling that you should marry him even though you saw that you had nothing in common. So, in saying that, I will say that I agree with you that you should do what needs to be done when you feel ready. Do follow your instinct on this since your instincts did not fail you. You just did not trust your instincts. As for the lawyer telling you that you may not get much, if I were you, I would consult with another lawyer. That lawyer has echoed what I have heard before from other women stuck in nightmare marriages. Then these women find out that the lawyer, though recommended, was incompetent. I think you said that he drives drunk. If so, you can always report him when you know that he is driving drunk. Eventually, he would have his license revoked, lives would be saved, and you would not have to worry about his driving drunk with the children in the car. Anway, I will continue praying for you. Sooner or later, you will have your window of opportunity…

Heavenly Father, in faith, I thank You for protecting, guiding, and blessing Miracle and her children. Father, Miracle needs a sign from You that You are indeed with her. Father, in faith, I am also thanking You for showing her that you are indeed with her and her children. Father, Miracle needs You to walk with her and her children each and every step of the way. I don’t know why you are delaying some things for them, but I do know that You are our Almighty God, and that You do everything for our good. I trust Lord that You are preparing a bright path for Miracle and her children. Lord, in the name of Your son Jesus Christ, I ask you to break the bonds that are holding Miracle and her children back. Lord, in the name of Your Son Jesus Christ, I ask You to move them forward to the bright future You have in store for them. Thank You Father. Amen.
 
So I decided to go to church on this past Thursday, after I had dropped off my daughter to kindergarten. I don’t know why, but I went. I didn’t know that it was the feast of the Arch Angels, which I do pray to one of them. Anyways, the priest said during his talk that he prayed to God for three weeks because he wanted to know who was his guardian angel. Well after the three weeks of praying, he saw the name of his guardian angel everywhere. He said he would be driving or at the grocery store and the same name kept coming up everywhere. So he said that after three weeks of praying, God answered his prayers. So I thought I might share this with you because you kept seeing Joseph or Joe everywhere. Ask God to reveal what this means. I know he will answer you.

Oh and my sign in name has to do with my name and the faith is for my tattoo and also my new found faith because I was always losing and gaining faith at times. One week I’ll have faith and the next week I would be asking myself “where is God?” I didn’t know how hard I have to bang on God’s door in order for God to answer it, so to speak figuratively. I put myself in a mess and I got myself out, but I’m still in the same place in my life before I got into the mess and the one thing I have been praying for, for the same five years, I had given up. But a little more than a month ago I prayed about it and felt this really strong spirit in me that my prayer will be answered, but won’t be answered as son as I want it to be…but it will be answered. This feeling I had, I had never felt like that after a novena in my life. Well, I hope this may help you in any way. and keep on praying!!!
 
Yes, I would consult with another lawyer. The court will protect you…

When my hubby got divorced his ex made him leave and she kept the house, the children live there and the court would agree with this. Your husband has to pay child support and they base that on his income. Your income is taken into the whole amount as well but you say you don’t make much so the biggest share is your husband’s. He has to pay the bigger share of medical and keep them on his insurance if they are on it now.

I have the feeling you don’t trust the advice you are getting since you say you don’t want to jump into the water. I said God sent the boats and they were safe boats. God would not send unsafe boats. At some point you need to trust God—I don’t think He was telling you to marry a jerk----God does not work that way.

How much control do you have now over your husband? He can do anything he wants, drive drunk with the children, etc, etc, etc. as well as teaching your kids how men treat their wives and you are backing up his actions. When you go to court you can tell the judge he drives drunk and they may direct him to never take the children in his car. Does he have citations for driving drunk? If he does you can make the case.
 
Heavenly Father, in faith, I thank You for protecting, guiding, and blessing Miracle and her children. Father, Miracle needs a sign from You that You are indeed with her. Father, in faith, I am also thanking You for showing her that you are indeed with her and her children. Father, Miracle needs You to walk with her and her children each and every step of the way. I don’t know why you are delaying some things for them, but I do know that You are our Almighty God, and that You do everything for our good. I trust Lord that You are preparing a bright path for Miracle and her children. Lord, in the name of Your son Jesus Christ, I ask you to break the bonds that are holding Miracle and her children back. Lord, in the name of Your Son Jesus Christ, I ask You to move them forward to the bright future You have in store for them. Thank You Father. Amen.
 
NiceMimi said:
Heavenly Father, in faith, I thank You for protecting, guiding, and blessing Miracle and her children. Father, Miracle needs a sign from You that You are indeed with her. Father, in faith, I am also thanking You for showing her that you are indeed with her and her children. Father, Miracle needs You to walk with her and her children each and every step of the way. I don’t know why you are delaying some things for them, but I do know that You are our Almighty God, and that You do everything for our good. I trust Lord that You are preparing a bright path for Miracle and her children. Lord, in the name of Your son Jesus Christ, I ask you to break the bonds that are holding Miracle and her children back. Lord, in the name of Your Son Jesus Christ, I ask You to move them forward to the bright future You have in store for them. Thank You Father. Amen.
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Amen! I pray this prayer from NiceMimi…Great prayer BTW! I hope you are doing well Miracle!
 
Hi Miracle! I trust that things are improving, though we may not be seeing it just yet.

Heavenly Father, in faith, I thank You for protecting, guiding, and blessing Miracle and her children. Father, Miracle needs a sign from You that You are indeed with her. Father, in faith, I am also thanking You for showing her that you are indeed with her and her children. Father, Miracle needs You to walk with her and her children each and every step of the way. I don’t know why you are delaying some things for them, but I do know that You are our Almighty God, and that You do everything for our good. I trust Lord that You are preparing a bright path for Miracle and her children. Lord, in the name of Your son Jesus Christ, I ask you to break the bonds that are holding Miracle and her children back. Lord, in the name of Your Son Jesus Christ, I ask You to move them forward to the bright future You have in store for them. Thank You Father. Amen.

Hi JoJo! Thanks for the nod to my prayer!
 
Miracle, I trust all is well with you and the children. Please let us know how it goes when you get a chance. God bless!

Heavenly Father, in faith, I thank You for protecting, guiding, and blessing Miracle and her children. Father, Miracle needs a sign from You that You are indeed with her. Father, in faith, I am also thanking You for showing her that you are indeed with her and her children. Father, Miracle needs You to walk with her and her children each and every step of the way. I don’t know why you are delaying some things for them, but I do know that You are our Almighty God, and that You do everything for our good. I trust Lord that You are preparing a bright path for Miracle and her children. Lord, in the name of Your son Jesus Christ, I ask you to break the bonds that are holding Miracle and her children back. Lord, in the name of Your Son Jesus Christ, I ask You to move them forward to the bright future You have in store for them. Thank You Father. Amen.
 
NiceMiMi -
Thank you so for your contiunued prayers, they help to sustain me! I am having an emotionally “down” week, I am trying so to have patience, but it is hard. There have been no visable changes.

Thank you everyone for your prayers. I feel so alone, and it helps to know that people care!
 
Have you ever insisted your husband go to church with you or go talk to a priest with you? You know people have to change when we change. If you go into counseling and change the way you let him treat you he will have to change as well. You are a married couple, he has to pay your bills. If you don’t have the money he sure does. He will pay now or he will pay later.
 
MiracleNeeded said:
NiceMiMi -
Thank you so for your contiunued prayers, they help to sustain me! I am having an emotionally “down” week, I am trying so to have patience, but it is hard. There have been no visable changes.

Thank you everyone for your prayers. I feel so alone, and it helps to know that people care!
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Hello Miracle! I am sorry to hear that things have been challenging. hope, trust, and pray that things are getting better. Keep the faith! God is faithful and He loves you and your children. God bless you and your children!

Heavenly Father, in faith, I thank You for protecting, guiding, and blessing Miracle and her children. Father, Miracle needs a sign from You that You are indeed with her. Father, in faith, I am also thanking You for showing her that you are indeed with her and her children. Father, Miracle needs You to walk with her and her children each and every step of the way. I don’t know why you are delaying some things for them, but I do know that You are our Almighty God, and that You do everything for our good. I trust Lord that You are preparing a bright path for Miracle and her children. Lord, in the name of Your son Jesus Christ, I ask you to break the bonds that are holding Miracle and her children back. Lord, in the name of Your Son Jesus Christ, I ask You to move them forward to the bright future You have in store for them. Thank You Father. Amen.
 
Our Father, who are in Heaven, hallowed by your
name. Your kingdom come, your will be done, on
earth as it is in Heaven. Give us this day our daily
bread, and forgive us our trespasses as we forgive
those who trespasses against us. And lead us not into
temptation, but deliver us from evil.

Amen.

🙂
 
Heavenly Father, in faith, I thank You for protecting, guiding, and blessing Miracle and her children. Father, Miracle needs a sign from You that You are indeed with her. Father, in faith, I am also thanking You for showing her that you are indeed with her and her children. Father, Miracle needs You to walk with her and her children each and every step of the way. I don’t know why you are delaying some things for them, but I do know that You are our Almighty God, and that You do everything for our good. I trust Lord that You are preparing a bright path for Miracle and her children. Lord, in the name of Your son Jesus Christ, I ask you to break the bonds that are holding Miracle and her children back. Lord, in the name of Your Son Jesus Christ, I ask You to move them forward to the bright future You have in store for them. Thank You Father. Amen.
 
oneofmany said:
Have you ever insisted your husband go to church with you or go talk to a priest with you? You know people have to change when we change. If you go into counseling and change the way you let him treat you he will have to change as well. You are a married couple, he has to pay your bills. If you don’t have the money he sure does. He will pay now or he will pay later.
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He does go to Church, and he has been to confession before. He “goes through the motions…”

Thank you all so much for your prayers. I have had several bad weeks in a row, now. Your prayers help keep me going, and hoping that God will answer!
 
We’re still here for you. I will pray Mimi’s prayer for you right now. Don’t give up hope, Jesus is with you in this trial.
 
I am coming in late to this thread and have not read all the responses.

However on reading your original post, I think you should realize that you might be called to leave this man and live a separate chaste life working at a job to support yourself and atoning for whatever mistakes or sins by being active in the Church in a meaningful way in which you will now have time for without all the drama.

Not everyone is called to marriage. Perhaps God has another plan for you.

You say that you didn’t wish to work, you sought out a relationship with a man you didn’t know well or like very much out of fear of being alone and that it led to a bad marriage.

Obviously this man has issues and fears and weaknesses but he alone did not create this situation. The way to make your soul peaceful and joyous is to seek out your own part of the situation and address that maturely.

Then you may rely on yourself in future to make choices that will lead you to true happiness nomatter what direction God has planned for your life. Perhaps that will include an annulment and a future happy marriage.
 
Hi Miracle, I know it may sound pretty simplistic, but keep your faith in God. I trust that He has only the best of plans for you! God bless you and your children!

Note to Chip: Your vote of confidence in my prayer is very sweet of you. Yes, we are absolutely here for Miracle. God bless you!

Heavenly Father, in faith, I thank You for protecting, guiding, and blessing Miracle and her children. Father, Miracle needs a sign from You that You are indeed with her. Father, in faith, I am also thanking You for showing her that you are indeed with her and her children. Father, Miracle needs You to walk with her and her children each and every step of the way. I don’t know why you are delaying some things for them, but I do know that You are our Almighty God, and that You do everything for our good. I trust Lord that You are preparing a bright path for Miracle and her children. Lord, in the name of Your son Jesus Christ, I ask you to break the bonds that are holding Miracle and her children back. Lord, in the name of Your Son Jesus Christ, I ask You to move them forward to the bright future You have in store for them. Thank You Father. Amen.
 
I am so sorry you are in such a miserable situation. Your children are in a miserable situation as well. When the children grow up, and you are left only with this horrible excuse for a human being, who will you have to comfort you in the empty nest years?
How will you get through life?

No one tells you what it is like after all the noise ends in the home. Mom and Dads and sisters and brothers die. The children move away. Sometimes out of state, and there lives are theirs. All that is left is that man and who is he? Just someone who pays the bills. Is that happiness? Are you sure this is the best you can do for yourself and your children? I think, you can do better all by yourself. Hopefully you will move out, because this man is stealing from you spiritually, physically, and mentally. Keeping you in poverty in all ways so you cannot leave. Your in bondage. God can not help you, until you break the bondages which tie you to this sinner. He has corrupted you, with his behaviors…though you do not realize it. You don’t need a divorce, just leave. Take your children and move out of the area. Find a place that will support you financially, and live a joyful life. That is when God and his angels will assist you.

Again, I am deeply sorry and I pray you will find courage in Christ who loves you infinitely.
Children learn from their parents, this isnt the type of love to teach children, especially sons. They need to be taught the love of Christ in action. In this way, you will regain your self respect.

Whoever you are, do something - but don’t share this with him. He will not let you leave.
 
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