Miserable in my job - should I quit before I find another?

[Vanny]

I agree with both the Little Lady and Dr. Meinheimer. One is much more marketable when still employed.
I know where you are coming from I just spent 6 years in a job I really wanted to quit but couldn’t because it had benefits and I couldn’t afford to be unemployed. I signed up for job searching sites in my area(like Indeed) and got email ideas of places to apply and eventually got a different job.

 

[phantom197676]

I’m in a similar situation however, I’d be careful to just give up a job and hope you can land another one at the drop of a hat. You state that you are overqualified for the job but what’s to say that others won’t feel te same for whatever you apply for and pass you over? My advice stay while looking and then leave… Also always best to say you are working currently rather than "Between jobs’

 

[Legend]

It sounds as if you’re problems with this job are really getting you down. Is there any way you can take time off, while job hunting?

It does look better when you have a job. Do you have any paid time off you haven’t used? Personal days, sick days, even vacation days…you may look stressed out, or depressed. Which isn’t unusual, as it is true, to some extent.

Ultimately, a job you truly dislike is not good for you, and your feelings may be showing, in interviews. Try to be optimistic about the jobs you apply for. Wish you the best, and God Bless!

 

[runningdude]

What I would like to do is give a month’s notice now, and that should give me time to find something by the time a month has gone by, as well as additional motivation on the job hunt. My husband doesn’t want me to do this, as he fears (reasonably) that if I don’t find something in time, we will end up struggling financially. I know this is the more sensible approach, but I can’t handle it here any more; my life is draining away, and I have already given way too many years of my life to this job that I thought would be temporary until I found something better.

There is a lot of advice saying to stay with the job until you find something else. This is reasonable and conservative approach. However, if you are as miserable as you say you are, it may be prudent to leave. Before you do so, you need to carefully analyze your financial situation.

If you were out of work for a substantial time, how big of a struggle would it be? Would your mortgage or rent be a risk, or just some luxuries? Could you rely on part time work if necessary to make ends meet?

Before giving notice, consider waiting a month, and save as much as possible. Try setting your salary aside and living off strictly your husband’s. This would give you a feel of how comfortable you’d be in the worst case scenario.

Also, consider tapping into any employee assistance programs you or your husband’s company may offer as benefits. You mention anxiety, and certain therapies or medications under a doctor’s supervision may help you better manage this condition and make your current situation easier. It is important to discern if your anxiety is caused by a toxic work environment (where leaving and finding a new job will improve the situation), or whether the anxiety is caused by some other circumstance (where it will follow you to the next job).

Your physical, spiritual, and mental health is at least as important as your financial stability. It is important, however, to carefully plan any career moves so that financial instability doesn’t further exacerbate your current feelings of being overwhelmed.

 

[RosaCarolinae]

Thank you, I appreciate the (name removed by moderator)ut from everyone. I did not put in my notice as I wanted to, but now I will need to to do very soon because I got a job offer.

 

[Legend]

That is just wonderful

 

[Kindnessmatters]

I suggest you find a new job first and then give two weeks notice. If you need time off to interview just say you have to attend to a personal matter…no need to lie but they do not need details that are your personal business.

If they fire you in the meantime, you will qualify for unemployment benefits. If you quit, you get nothing…no severance pay, no unemployment insurance. So pray and look and remind yourself you have decided to leave and it just isn’t time for the employer to know yet.

i was fired last week and it is harder to find a job without a current job.

I also suggest you go to confession for slacking off and do your best to catch up and prepare to leave the job in good shape. Handle your part morally whether they deserve it or not.

 

[JanR]

Why is it that just because someone is fired, future prospective employers arbitrarily and automatically think badly of them, assume they did something awful to deserve it, and really don’t believe the explanations they’re given? It’s a form of prejudice, and it can be very unfair. Just because a job didn’t work out shouldn’t disqualify the applicant for future employment. That person simply may not have been a good fit for the previous job. It doesn’t mean they won’t be a good fit for a future job. Sometimes, companies just downsize, and newer people get laid off. I really resent the attitudes of some of these employers who jump to conclusions and refuse to hire just because the new applicant was fired. There are all kinds of reasons that may not be their fault, yet they still get blackballed when they try to find new employment.

Kindnessmatters, I hope you find another job with an employer who will treat you fairly and is open-minded. As your user name states – kindness matters.

 

[Kindnessmatters]

Thank you. I pray all who read this will be well employed or, even better, able to retire well