Missing mass with relatives in town?

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TheRealJuliane said:
I am tired of your nasty attitude when our answers do not support your own rationalizations.
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Feel free to excuse yourself from the conversation. I would just like ONE person to tell me how I could have reasonably scheduled my weekend so as to be able to attend mass AND have a front door.

Does it really come down to not being able to sell my house vs. missing ONE mass? Would all of you here, if you had to sell your house, either sell it for THOUSANDS less than you paid for it, having to take out a loan just to close, or possibly miss your opportunity to sell it AT ALL for the entire year to avoid missing ONE mass? Does ANYONE remember the parable about the sheep in the ditch? Sometimes practicalities preclude the obligation to attend mass.
 
I’m sure glad that Jesus didn’t find a practical reason to skip being crucified.
 
LaSainte said:
Is it really a “choice” when one has no other options? I guess we could have just slept without a front door and let the mosquitoes eat the children alive? I’m tying to think of how I could have scheduled this weekend differently and am not seeing any options.
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Where do you live where mosquitoes eat children? How about instead of exaggerating you listen to what people are saying.

Instead of taking trips to the dump, your husband should have made putting up a door and fitting it with locks a priority. Why did he take off the original door if he didn’t have time to put up the new one? This had nothing to do with missing Mass. This had to do with poor planning.

What you should have done, was to schedule in Mass. That should have been the top priority, then you should have scheduled which projects to complete.

Yes, summer is here, but that doesn’t mean that there is a two week deadline for putting your house on the market. One week one way or the other isn’t going to make a difference. And having the house on the market is a self imposed deadline. One (or even two) hour wouldn’t have made a difference one way or the other.
 
No, this is not a valid reason to miss Mass.

Mass is one hour, minus the gettting there and getting back. In the end when we stand before Jesus and give a rendering for all of our shortcomings, is this a reason that one would want to say Jesus, I missed Mass because.

It is ALWAYS worth making sacrifices going to Mass. I would counsel you to go to Confession.
 
PatriceA said:
The Sunday Eucharist is the foundation and confirmation of all Christian practice. For this reason the faithful are obliged to participate in the Eucharist on days of obligation, unless excused for a serious reason (for example, illness, the care of infants) or dispensed by their own pastor. Those who deliberately fail in this obligation commit a grave sin. (CCC. 2180 and 2181)

Since you seem to be so angry with those of us that are responding that you could have done more to get to mass this past weekend, perhaps the best thing to do now is to talk to your own priest and explain the situation and ask for dispensation if you truly consider your reasons for missing mass to be valid.
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Thank you for the CCC quote. I think this would fall under a “serious reason” to miss mass. It would have been easier for me to drive 2 hours there and back for mass on any other day than to make it to mass this weekend and we are not required to do THAT. Common sense. Again, thanks for the quote.
 
LaSainte said:
Feel free to excuse yourself from the conversation. I would just like ONE person to tell me how I could have reasonably scheduled my weekend so as to be able to attend mass AND have a front door.

Does it really come down to not being able to sell my house vs. missing ONE mass? Would all of you here, if you had to sell your house, either sell it for THOUSANDS less than you paid for it, having to take out a loan just to close, or possibly miss your opportunity to sell it AT ALL for the entire year to avoid missing ONE mass? Does ANYONE remember the parable about the sheep in the ditch? Sometimes practicalities preclude the obligation to attend mass.
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Was your Mom incapable of babysitting for a few hours?Most Grandma’s(I include myself in this statement) jump at the chance to spend tome with our grandbabiies.;)However,I think you will get the answer to your question through Reconciliation.
 
TheRealJuliane said:
People who are employed by a company do not always have the CHOICE about what shifts they work. But you had a CHOICE to make Mass a priority. Who was determining this work schedule? Not a supervisor, but you. One hour away from the house was not going to make all of your efforts disappear.

Escalating this into “Are we supposed to kill ourselves” is using inflammatory rhetoric, but yes, in a way, we are supposed to “kill ourselves.” After all, Jesus died for us, it’s the least we can do, to honor Him once a week for AN HOUR.
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Well said.
 
maryjk said:
Where do you live where mosquitoes eat children? How about instead of exaggerating you listen to what people are saying.

Instead of taking trips to the dump, your husband should have made putting up a door and fitting it with locks a priority. Why did he take off the original door if he didn’t have time to put up the new one? This had nothing to do with missing Mass. This had to do with poor planning.
What you should have done, was to schedule in Mass. That should have been the top priority, then you should have scheduled which projects to complete.

Yes, summer is here, but that doesn’t mean that there is a two week deadline for putting your house on the market. One week one way or the other isn’t going to make a difference. And having the house on the market is a self imposed deadline. One (or even two) hour wouldn’t have made a difference one way or the other.
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Agree with everything you said, especially the bolded part.
 
LaSainte said:
Thank you for the CCC quote. I think this would fall under a “serious reason” to miss mass. It would have been easier for me to drive 2 hours there and back for mass on any other day than to make it to mass this weekend and we are not required to do THAT. Common sense. Again, thanks for the quote.
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But don’t overlook the part that you should ask your priest for dispensation! Don’t read just what you want to read, read the WHOLE quote. Because it may OR may not be a serious reason, only a conversation between you and your priest can determine that. Unless you are afraid to actually discuss the weekend with your priest and find out what his answer might be.
 
LaSainte said:
Feel free to excuse yourself from the conversation. I would just like ONE person to tell me how I could have reasonably scheduled my weekend so as to be able to attend mass AND have a front door.

Does it really come down to not being able to sell my house vs. missing ONE mass? Would all of you here, if you had to sell your house, either sell it for THOUSANDS less than you paid for it, having to take out a loan just to close, or possibly miss your opportunity to sell it AT ALL for the entire year to avoid missing ONE mass? Does ANYONE remember the parable about the sheep in the ditch? Sometimes practicalities preclude the obligation to attend mass.
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Why all of this justification of why you missed Mass? It seems like you are convinced that you were right in missing Mass? Aren’t you kinda wasting time here arguing with the other posters seeing that you are convinved you did right? <even though most of the posters here feel that you did not have a valid excuse to miss Mass?> What are you trying to prove?

The fact that you keep arguing might be indicative that deep down inside you feel wrong in doing it.

My advice is to go to Confession.
 
maryjk said:
Where do you live where mosquitoes eat children? How about instead of exaggerating you listen to what people are saying.

Instead of taking trips to the dump, your husband should have made putting up a door and fitting it with locks a priority. Why did he take off the original door if he didn’t have time to put up the new one? This had nothing to do with missing Mass. This had to do with poor planning.

What you should have done, was to schedule in Mass. That should have been the top priority, then you should have scheduled which projects to complete.

Yes, summer is here, but that doesn’t mean that there is a two week deadline for putting your house on the market. One week one way or the other isn’t going to make a difference. And having the house on the market is a self imposed deadline. One (or even two) hour wouldn’t have made a difference one way or the other.
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Every post the OP has made, has been exaggeration and justification. We can all see it, pity that she can’t.
 
maryjk said:
Where do you live where mosquitoes eat children? How about instead of exaggerating you listen to what people are saying.

Instead of taking trips to the dump, your husband should have made putting up a door and fitting it with locks a priority. Why did he take off the original door if he didn’t have time to put up the new one? This had nothing to do with missing Mass. This had to do with poor planning.

What you should have done, was to schedule in Mass. That should have been the top priority, then you should have scheduled which projects to complete.

Yes, summer is here, but that doesn’t mean that there is a two week deadline for putting your house on the market. One week one way or the other isn’t going to make a difference. And having the house on the market is a self imposed deadline. One (or even two) hour wouldn’t have made a difference one way or the other.
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Well, he needed to go to the dump because we had mass amounts of trash that the garbage men won’t haul. He needed my stepfather’s truck to do that because there were giant sheets of metal and debris. My stepfather was leaving that night. He needed to take down the door because it had to have all the hardware taken off, be sanded, repaired, allowed to dry, new locks installed, and remounted. You can see how this would take all day. He needed my stepfather’s help for all of this because 1.) he doesn’t know how to do this by himself and 2.) it takes 2 people to hang a door. They finished getting the door up at 8:30, at which point my family drove home and my husband and I spent the next 3 hours installing the locks and knobs.

And one week wouldn’t make a difference, no. But as I said, this was the only weekend for the foreseeable future that my stepdad could come to town to do it. They won’t be back in town for at least 6 weeks.

Again, the whole situation is far from ideal, but a mortal sin? I don’t think so. Out of our control.
 
TheRealJuliane said:
I’m sure glad that Jesus didn’t find a practical reason to skip being crucified.
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Amen to this.

You know I find it always interesting that Jesus was constantly busy yet he always found time to go and worship in the synagogue or to go off and pray. If Christ could do this, then can’t we Catholic find time to go to Mass on Sundays and Holy Days of Obligation?
 
Turtle_Turtle said:
Why all of this justification of why you missed Mass? It seems like you are convinced that you were right in missing Mass? Aren’t you kinda wasting time here arguing with the other posters seeing that you are convinved you did right? <even though most of the posters here feel that you did not have a valid excuse to miss Mass?> What are you trying to prove?

The fact that you keep arguing might be indicative that deep down inside you feel wrong in doing it.

My advice is to go to Confession.
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Agree.
 
Turtle_Turtle said:
Amen to this.

You know I find it always interesting that Jesus was constantly busy yet he always found time to go and worship in the synagogue or to go off and pray. If Christ could do this, then can’t we Catholic find time to go to Mass on Sundays and Holy Days of Obligation?
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Oh the drama Juliane! You make my grandmother look like an amateur at slinging that Catholic guilt.
 
LaSainte said:
Oh the drama Juliane! You make my grandmother look like an amateur at slinging that Catholic guilt.
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I do not have an alias as Turtle Turtle.

You are insulting others, and do not mock Jesus.
 
TheRealJuliane said:
Every post the OP has made, has been exaggeration and justification. We can all see it, pity that she can’t.
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If it’s true, it cannot be an exaggeration. If it is right, it cannot be justification. Just the facts, ma’am.
 
LaSainte said:
Thank you for the CCC quote. I think this would fall under a “serious reason” to miss mass. It would have been easier for me to drive 2 hours there and back for mass on any other day than to make it to mass this weekend and we are not required to do THAT. Common sense. Again, thanks for the quote.
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t’s not your call.
We can always fool ourselves.

Talk to your pastor. It’s his call.
 
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