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My wife will be missing Mass this Sunday as she has just had twins, lost a lot of blood and will be too weak to go with them. (At the moment she struggles to walk ten feet).

I am sure this is fine but please clarify for me.

I want to go to Mass and am planning to but if she says she cannot cope or is too scared while I am there, would it be a sin for me to miss Mass even though I won’t miss it lightly and do plan to go.

I do not want to miss Mass but will feel caught if she/they are bad.

Thanks.
 
One licitly can miss mass for caring sick people or infant. This definitely applies to your case.
 
Nelka said:
My wife will be missing Mass this Sunday as she has just had twins, lost a lot of blood and will be too weak to go with them. (At the moment she struggles to walk ten feet).

I am sure this is fine but please clarify for me.

I want to go to Mass and am planning to but if she says she cannot cope or is too scared while I am there, would it be a sin for me to miss Mass even though I won’t miss it lightly and do plan to go.

I do not want to miss Mass but will feel caught if she/they are bad.

Thanks.
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It seems to me it would be rather unsafe for you to leave your very weak wife alone with twin infants at this time. It would not be sinful in any way for you to miss Mass and stay home to care for her and the babies–in fact, it is probably what God would expect you to do.

Perhaps you could arrange to have someone bring her (and you) Communion until she can attend Mass again.
 
The other posters are correct in their responses. I just wanted to add, congratulations on the births of your new babies!
 
Nelka said:
My wife will be missing Mass this Sunday as she has just had twins, lost a lot of blood and will be too weak to go with them. (At the moment she struggles to walk ten feet).

I am sure this is fine but please clarify for me.

I want to go to Mass and am planning to but if she says she cannot cope or is too scared while I am there, would it be a sin for me to miss Mass even though I won’t miss it lightly and do plan to go.

I do not want to miss Mass but will feel caught if she/they are bad.

Thanks.
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sorry, did I miss something, you were planning to leave her home alone with newborn twins? when she is too weak too walk and still in the early stages of recuperating from a traumatic birth?
 
laszlo said:
One licitly can miss mass for caring sick people or infant. This definitely applies to your case.
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Please do also ask to have communion brought to your house until she is ready to go out again. The ill and those who care for are excused attendence at Mass, and are excused the fast if communion is brought to them. Perhaps your priest can come to see your wife and bless her as well.

Congrats on your new babies! Hope your wife recovers quickly.
 
And while it’s not the equivalent you both might watch one of the various TV Masses (like on EWTN) or you might share the Sunday readings with each others.

God bless and congrats.
 
I am a HUGE stickler for going to Mass. There is very little that I think should prevent someone from going to Mass…that being said if you (or your wife) have even the smallest doubt that your wife can handle the babies for an hour our two alone you shouldn’t go. It sounds like you are very much needed to stay home and take care of her. Perhaps though her mom or a close friend could stop by to help out while you go to Mass?

However if you’re leaving her home to go to work, out to the gym, etc…then of course you should be going to Mass!
 
I would say the sin would be to leave her alone! A man (or woman for that matter) is called to lay down their life for their spouse. This includes not going to Mass…tho you would prefer it…when any sane person would tell you to stay home
 
Stay home.

It is your duty.

Congratulations on the birth of the twins! God bless you and your wife and kids!
 
first congralations on your wifes birth of her children. i am sure God knows that you must first help your family. you will be in my prayers May God bless your family.stay home and take care of your family. St Joseph did not leave Mary and the infant Jesus alone on christmas day. so stay home talk to your parish priest on this maybe he can come to you. your family will be also in my prayers. God Bless
 
It’s not a sin for the caretaker of a sick person to miss Mass on Sunday if you can’t find someone else to be with the sick person. Maybe a relative or a neighbor could stay with her for the hour and a half you’d be gone? If you can’t arrange in-person coverage, you certainly are dispensed from the Sunday obligation. If, however, she’s still in the hospital and you aren’t needed to be right there in the event of an emergency, you should attend Mass, and make arrangements for her to receive Communion in the hospital.
 
Is it the same rule for the First Saturday devotion?

I was totally planning on going this Saturday but would I have to do it all over again from next month or would I be able to use next Saturday’s Mass instead?

Her parents will be with us next week so no problem for me.
 
Your highest priority right now is to your wife. By caring for her and your newborns carefully and cheerfully, you are exhibiting great devotion to God. If caring for her will excuse your Sunday obligation, which is of utmost importance, of course it will excuse you from lesser, non obligatory practices.
 
Hi

Congratulations to you and your wife on the birth of your children. We have a new baby in our family. It is a most wonderful joy and blessing.

If your wife is home on Sunday you must stay with her. You have a very valid reason for being absent from Mass. As others have suggested you should contact your parish priest to arrange for Communion to be brought to you.

However, if your wife is still in hospital I think you have less reason to be absent from Mass. In hospital there are health care professionals who can care for her and your children. So, this is a grey area. The advice of your parish priest or confessor might be useful.

If your wife is still in hospital, does the hospital have a chapel where there will be a Mass? Then you could go to Mass and not be too far away.

[Most UK hospitals have a chapel and a Mass on Sundays.]

Please be assured my family and I will be praying for you, your wife, and your children.:blessyou:
 
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