Missing Mass?

[classica87]

CAF,

When are you allowed to miss Mass? My sister plays travel softball; she is going out of town for a tournament, and is leaving tomorrow. She wanted me to go with her. I did want to go because I wanted to see my aunt and uncle, so I told her that as long as I could get to church, that would be fine.

My mother asked me if I could miss Mass for just one time, and I told her no. We went back and forth. Finally I said, “It’s an obligation. I have to go.” I love my sister and I feel bad for letting her down, because I know she really wanted me to come, but I feel like I can’t miss Our Eucharistic Lord. Softball games can never be more important than Mass, and i
I thought it wouldn’t matter, because I would not even attend games; she just wanted me to ride with her.

Now my mother is mad at me because she says I care more about church than my family. She thinks church is not a requirement (Baptist), and that I am being silly and overly pious. She told me, “I guess that means we are all going to Hell because we don’t go to church.” She has told me I am being fanatical, and that I will have to learn to “deal with it” sooner or later because they will not be taking me to church every Sunday on vacation.

She tells me that I am supposed to follow my heart, and that my heart should tell me to go with my sister. Of course, the first thing that popped into my mind was Jeremiah 17:9. I do not know what to do because my family doesn’t think church is important or necessary for salvation. She told me she will be in Heaven too. I believe my family thinks I am judging them by being “too religious” or “fanatical” in her words.

Did I do the right thing by staying for church? I am going to speak with my confessor Saturday about it. I just feel like, If I really love my family, I need to be going to church to be before Our Lord in the Mass and offer prayers for their conversion and well-being. If they won’t go, then I feel like I should go for them.

 

[detoutcoeur]

CAF,

When are you allowed to miss Mass? My sister plays travel softball; she is going out of town for a tournament, and is leaving tomorrow. She wanted me to go with her. I did want to go because I wanted to see my aunt and uncle, so I told her that as long as I could get to church, that would be fine.

My mother asked me if I could miss Mass for just one time, and I told her no. We went back and forth. Finally I said, “It’s an obligation. I have to go.” I love my sister and I feel bad for letting her down, because I know she really wanted me to come, but I feel like I can’t miss Our Eucharistic Lord. Softball games can never be more important than Mass, and i
I thought it wouldn’t matter, because I would not even attend games; she just wanted me to ride with her.

Now my mother is mad at me because she says I care more about church than my family. She thinks church is not a requirement (Baptist), and that I am being silly and overly pious. She told me, “I guess that means we are all going to Hell because we don’t go to church.” She has told me I am being fanatical, and that I will have to learn to “deal with it” sooner or later because they will not be taking me to church every Sunday on vacation.

She tells me that I am supposed to follow my heart, and that my heart should tell me to go with my sister. Of course, the first thing that popped into my mind was Jeremiah 17:9. I do not know what to do because my family doesn’t think church is important or necessary for salvation. She told me she will be in Heaven too. I believe my family thinks I am judging them by being “too religious” or “fanatical” in her words.

Did I do the right thing by staying for church? I am going to speak with my confessor Saturday about it. I just feel like, If I really love my family, I need to be going to church to be before Our Lord in the Mass and offer prayers for their conversion and well-being. If they won’t go, then I feel like I should go for them.

Yes, I think you absolutely did the right thing. Your post radiates with your faith and love for the Lord. This is a tough situation, so do talk to your confessor and seek his help and support. Stay strong; you’re in my prayers.

 

[Nonsmoker]

Now my mother is mad at me because she says I care more about church than my family. She thinks church is not a requirement (Baptist), and that I am being silly and overly pious. She told me, “I guess that means we are all going to Hell because we don’t go to church.” She has told me I am being fanatical, and that I will have to learn to “deal with it” sooner or later because they will not be taking me to church every Sunday on vacation.

AHEM! under certain extreme circumstances, if there was absolutely no possible way to make it to mass. Church is a requirement hehe, and if she is a Baptist, then church is an obligation isn’t it? I know there are many flavors of Baptist, but, the ones I know say that church is an obligation or else perish in hell. By the way, I believe it goes

**I. God
II. Family
III. Country
IV. Friends
**

 

[classica87]

AHEM! under certain extreme circumstances, if there was absolutely no possible way to make it to mass. Church is a requirement hehe, and if she is a Baptist, then church is an obligation isn’t it? I know there are many flavors of Baptist, but, the ones I know say that church is an obligation or else perish in hell. By the way, I believe it goes

**I. God
II. Family
III. Country
IV. Friends
**

Well, my granddad is that sort of Baptist (strict), but both my parents are lapsed Christians and are huge on the OSAS. I know I used to ask about church when I was younger, and my mom would look at me and say, “Do you believe in Jesus? Do you believe he died for you? Okay then. You’re good.” Sunday is just another day for my family. I’m not entirely sure, but I think they believe that as long as they have been “saved,” they are okay. The Heaven Stamp is official for them, with or without worship.

This makes me sad, because I see people I love with their souls in danger. They are not even trying to live out the small portion of Truth that they have, and I worry about them all the time. I don’t think I’m better than them; everything is grace, and I am just thankful God has kept me close to Him over the years. My family thinks I am stupid. I know they disapprove of my religion however little, because they joke about confession, and make fun of Mary and the saints. Sometimes I have to keep myself from screaming, “DON’T TALK ABOUT MY MOTHER LIKE THAT!”

 

[Kevin12]

CAF,

When are you allowed to miss Mass? My sister plays travel softball; she is going out of town for a tournament, and is leaving tomorrow. She wanted me to go with her. I did want to go because I wanted to see my aunt and uncle, so I told her that as long as I could get to church, that would be fine.

My mother asked me if I could miss Mass for just one time, and I told her no. We went back and forth. Finally I said, “It’s an obligation. I have to go.” I love my sister and I feel bad for letting her down, because I know she really wanted me to come, but I feel like I can’t miss Our Eucharistic Lord. Softball games can never be more important than Mass, and i
I thought it wouldn’t matter, because I would not even attend games; she just wanted me to ride with her.

Now my mother is mad at me because she says I care more about church than my family. She thinks church is not a requirement (Baptist), and that I am being silly and overly pious. She told me, “I guess that means we are all going to Hell because we don’t go to church.” She has told me I am being fanatical, and that I will have to learn to “deal with it” sooner or later because they will not be taking me to church every Sunday on vacation.

She tells me that I am supposed to follow my heart, and that my heart should tell me to go with my sister. Of course, the first thing that popped into my mind was Jeremiah 17:9. I do not know what to do because my family doesn’t think church is important or necessary for salvation. She told me she will be in Heaven too. I believe my family thinks I am judging them by being “too religious” or “fanatical” in her words.

Did I do the right thing by staying for church? I am going to speak with my confessor Saturday about it. I just feel like, If I really love my family, I need to be going to church to be before Our Lord in the Mass and offer prayers for their conversion and well-being. If they won’t go, then I feel like I should go for them.

First of all, how old are you? Was transportation a problem? Was there no Church in the area where you were going?

I don’t think you should have missed Mass obviously, but did you really explore all your avenues?

As for your families attitude toward Catholicism, if they keep mocking it, tell them how much it bothers you. Doing what they are doing to you is uncharitable by anyone’s standards.

 

[Nonsmoker]

He was obviously old enough to say no, and to go to church instead

 

[classica87]

He is a she, and she is in her third year of college. Unfortunately, she is also handicapped and does not have a driver’s license. I am going with my parents to the beach this weekend; we have a church 15 minutes down the road from our trailer, and my dad will carry me to Confession and to Mass, though he refuses to even walk into the church. I do not know if there is a church where my aunt and uncle live, and they would not be able to take me if there was. So is the dilemma.

 

[Kevin12]

He is a she, and she is in her third year of college. Unfortunately, she is also handicapped and does not have a driver’s license. I am going with my parents to the beach this weekend; we have a church 15 minutes down the road from our trailer, and my dad will carry me to Confession and to Mass, though he refuses to even walk into the church. I do not know if there is a church where my aunt and uncle live, and they would not be able to take me if there was. So is the dilemma.

You might have looked it up and contacted the parish office. They might have been able to send someone to pick you up. Or you might have taken a cab - though I do not know how severely your mobility is limited. I’m not trying to guilt you here, just giving you some ideas in case such a thing ever happens again.

 

[Jon_S_1]

You might have looked it up and contacted the parish office. They might have been able to send someone to pick you up. Or you might have taken a cab - though I do not know how severely your mobility is limited. I’m not trying to guilt you here, just giving you some ideas in case such a thing ever happens again.

Remember too that Saturday Vigil is the same as Sunday Mass if that was an option. Your family in sure just doesn’t get it (mine dont either) so be patient with them but stand firm in your convictions and obligations to Christ and his Church!

 

[classica87]

Remember too that Saturday Vigil is the same as Sunday Mass if that was an option. Your family in sure just doesn’t get it (mine dont either) so be patient with them but stand firm in your convictions and obligations to Christ and his Church!

The first thing I thought was, “Well, I’ll just go Saturday then! Problem solved.” Nope. She leaves tomorrow. It’s cool now, though. She is going to the tournament with a friend, and I am going with my parents. I have to buy work clothes anyway—I got a job at my local newspaper, starting next week!

 

[acadiANNA]

Mass is a requirement as a poster has mentioned. When we miss Mass, we must go to Confession as soon as possible, and start over. Yes, please pray for your family, that they will be understanding and compassionate in your personal choice to follow our Lord through the Catholic Church. I will pray for you and them. God bless.