Modest dressing at mass

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Sorry, I need to rant.

Am I the only one who cannot believe the way teenage girls dress at mass and church functions? Lukewarm/cafeteria Catholics can exit the building now!:mad: This is such a snare for our men and a disrespect for God. But how do we fix it?
 
By instilling a sense of respect in them for the beauty and worth of womanhood that they hold.

By teaching the men of the beauty and worth of womanhood and of marriage, so that they will not find such a woman attractive.

By teaching them how to look good and modern while also being modest and chaste.

By monitoring the conversations with friends in person, on the phone, in text messages, and online to keep them from treating each other with disrespect or as sexual objects.

By having more of their time be chaperoned activities, and the chaperones having strong morals and values.
 
sarahraegraham said:
Sorry, I need to rant.

Am I the only one who cannot believe the way teenage girls dress at mass and church functions? Lukewarm/cafeteria Catholics can exit the building now!:mad: This is such a snare for our men and a disrespect for God. But how do we fix it?
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A dress code can be strongly suggested, but I’m not sure you could physically throw people out of mass for breaking it. Has your priest ever addressed this in the bulletin or at mass?
You could have the ushers pass out shawls/ coverups as people enter the building:D Sorry, I’m being no help.

I agree it’s disrespectful and inappropriate, but, I’m sorry, men must be responsible for their own behavior regardless of how they are ‘snared’ by the way a woman dresses.
 
You could have the ushers pass out shawls/ coverups as people enter the building:D Sorry, I’m being no help.
I love the idea of handing out cover-ups for people when they enter church!

Thank you.
 
so bare bellies are ok?

/chrismyster sits back with a beer and waits for flamewar to start, laughing in his sinister dr. evil laugh… 😃
 
As parents we can work on these things right in our own homes with our own kids and hopefully our kids will set a good example for their friends and peers.

I know in our parish bulletin our Priest has to put a reminder for the summer months about modesty, it is a very nice reminder and actually jokes a little and doesn’t finger point at anyone but it gently gets the point across and it has worked wonders in our parish, no more tight shorts, jeans, skirts or short short skirts or shorts and no shirts that show off way too much… I think it is a good idea for the Priest to kindly let people know… some people need some nudging:)
 
Turn the A/C up really high in the summer. 🙂

When my mom was complaining about how cold it is in or church, my husband replied, “Yeah, but everyone keeps their clothes on!” —KCT
 
The bishop of our area put a nice blurb in our weekly newspaper this week. It’s about modesty and what the church really thinks.

Did you know you have to be in proper attire before even visiting the bascillica in Rome? Wow!! 👍 The holy father will give a blessing to newlyweds/engaged couples who come dressed in their wedding attire. BUT you cannot have bare shoulders or cleavage showing 👍 There were many comments about the ways people dress now. I looked at my wedding dress (picture on the wall) and said. YEP my dress would have been admitted. I was married in August and still have long sleeves and my cleavage covered.
 
KCT said:
Turn the A/C up really high in the summer. 🙂

When my mom was complaining about how cold it is in or church, my husband replied, “Yeah, but everyone keeps their clothes on!” —KCT
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I swear this is what my parish does!!! I have to wear a sweater in the summer to mass. I have no clue how anyone n my parish could have anything exposed!!!
 
it would take more than full air conditioning to keep some of those people to get dressed like a decent person.

All it would take is the Pastor and a few lay people in KEY positions to faithfully enforce a modesty policy.
 
Our parish has been keeping the A/C turned off to point up the fact that the offerings have been below par. However, Miss Bonnie and I sit about 4th or 5th pew from the front, and the people who sit in front of us are the serious Mass-going old-timers–not much chance of semi-nudity there.
 
First, pray about it. Pray to Jesus in the blessed sacrament. Prayer is the most powerful weapon.
Second, just kindly remind people of what is proper attire. Remind people that it is Jesus in the blessed sacrament. It is appropriate to be dressed nicely and modestly before our Lord.
Third, don’t push to hard. There is reminding and there is judging. If you tell them once and they don’t listen, reminding them again won’t help.
Fourth, pray about it again.
 
Honestly, I don’t usually notice what other people wear to mass. I make sure I dress appropriately, my children dress appropriately, and then we go to mass to pray and worship. Maybe my parish is unusual because I haven’t seen anything that really jumps out at me – but I don’t go to mass looking to evaluate my fellow parishoners. I can see noticing if someone right in front of me wore something outrageous, or if I were an extraordinary minister of communion and they appeared right in front of me I couldn’t help but notice – but just being in the pew, I don’t pay that much attention to what people are wearing, or who’s going up to communion, or what not.
 
dwc said:
Honestly, I don’t usually notice what other people wear to mass. I make sure I dress appropriately, my children dress appropriately, and then we go to mass to pray and worship. Maybe my parish is unusual because I haven’t seen anything that really jumps out at me – but I don’t go to mass looking to evaluate my fellow parishoners. I can see noticing if someone right in front of me wore something outrageous, or if I were an extraordinary minister of communion and they appeared right in front of me I couldn’t help but notice – but just being in the pew, I don’t pay that much attention to what people are wearing, or who’s going up to communion, or what not.
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I would like to not notice, but sometimes you can’t help it. A halter top at Mass screams,“Hey, looky here! It’s ME!”
 
DaveBj said:
There’s a 10-letter word for a person who thinks he/she can selectively observe Catholic doctrine. It starts with “p r o” and ends with “a n t.”
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I’ve been thinking over this for 10 minutes and I still can’t figure out the word.
 
crenfro said:
You could have the ushers pass out shawls/ coverups as people enter the building:D Sorry, I’m being no help.
I love the idea of handing out cover-ups for people when they enter church!

Thank you.
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Actually, there were a couple churches/cathedrals I visited in Europe where they made some female visitors where these paper coverings if they had bare shoulders or arms. But I guess that would get expensive at some churches.

I do agree, though, that if I wear sleeveless top because of the weather, I will always drape a shawl over my arms while in church. We have a lot of young people come to mass from the local universities and because some of them are also working and living in the city. My husband will make a point to sit in the front, no more than 4 or 5 pews pack because he says some of the young women are attractive and dress too “hot”. He will actually move pews if an attractive woman sits right in front of him.
 
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