Modest dressing at mass

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Gregory - about the logo tshirts - it’s too easy for the teens (and parents) to rationalize that this shirt is okay or that shirt is okay. It’s easier to just say no logo tshirts.

I’m talking about the soccer shirts, the school team shirts, the “I survived the drunk weekend at Parde Island” tshirts, the “sex wax” tshirts (it’s for surf boards), and all of them.

If that prohibits the “Walk for LIfe” tshirt, I’m sorry. Wear something with a collar. This is church.
 
dwc said:
Honestly, I don’t usually notice what other people wear to mass. I make sure I dress appropriately, my children dress appropriately, and then we go to mass to pray and worship. Maybe my parish is unusual because I haven’t seen anything that really jumps out at me – but I don’t go to mass looking to evaluate my fellow parishoners. I can see noticing if someone right in front of me wore something outrageous, or if I were an extraordinary minister of communion and they appeared right in front of me I couldn’t help but notice – but just being in the pew, I don’t pay that much attention to what people are wearing, or who’s going up to communion, or what not.
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I don’t notice either. I’ve seen a couple of shorter skirts on teenagers, but not outrageous. Like DWC, I might notice, but then I redirect my thoughts. My dh doesn’t notice very much, but he spends most of Mass with his eyes closed anyway!

Maybe it is regional. Even though girls wear pj bottoms to school and boys pants are threatening to fall off, I do not see that at Mass. But our parish is very orthodox as is our diocese.
 
I sit in the front row with my daughter, so I don’t really see much. Occasionally, I have people watched, after recieving communion, so I can hold her and keep her from interrupting others in their prayers, and I haven’t really seen anything scandalous. I have thought “wow, that’s a little tight” but nothing short or otherwise questionable.
 
my suggested list:

men:
black tie tuxedos

women:
ankle length dresses with formal closed toe shoes.

why not? one person makes a reasonable list, and we all know human nature, it’s get revised and revised until it’s eventually to the point of complete insanity.
you take shorts off your llist, i’ll see your shorts and raise you slacks, i’m barring cotton off my list completely, now ONLY polyester tuxedo pants with the line pleat on the side is the official dress code!

if you want to get arbitrary… let’s get arbitrary. :rolleyes:
 
thechrismyster said:
my suggested list:

men:
black tie tuxedos

women:
ankle length dresses with formal closed toe shoes.

why not? one person makes a reasonable list, and we all know human nature, it’s get revised and revised until it’s eventually to the point of complete insanity.
you take shorts off your llist, i’ll see your shorts and raise you slacks, i’m barring cotton off my list completely, now ONLY polyester tuxedo pants with the line pleat on the side is the official dress code!

if you want to get arbitrary… let’s get arbitrary. :rolleyes:
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No, no, no.

For married women
your wedding gown. Most likely it is your best. And we should give our best to the Lord.

Men
If you don’t own a tux, you need to get one.

😃 😃 😃
 
maryjk said:
No, no, no.

For married women
your wedding gown. Most likely it is your best. And we should give our best to the Lord.

Men
If you don’t own a tux, you need to get one.

😃 😃 😃
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And the cummerbund must match your wife’s purse. 😃
 
Norseman82 said:
NO!

It has to match the liturgical color of the day. It clearly says so in Ecclesia de Cumberbundus no. 23.
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Except that on 2 occasions of the year pink is the liturgical color and I REFUSE to wear Pink. Pink is feminine and I am not a girlie man!!!
 
childofmary1143 said:
Except that on 2 occasions of the year pink is the liturgical color and I REFUSE to wear Pink. Pink is feminine and I am not a girlie man!!!
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Ha! Ha! Every year, when the priests wear the “pink” vestments, we’ll be sitting in the sacristy waiting for mass to begin and someone always comments on Father’s lovely pink vestments. They always laugh and say that it’s not pink… it’s “rose”. I guess they associate pink with femininity as well. Certain shades of pink do look nice on men, though.
 
Sarabande said:
Ha! Ha! Every year, when the priests wear the “pink” vestments, we’ll be sitting in the sacristy waiting for mass to begin and someone always comments on Father’s lovely pink vestments. They always laugh and say that it’s not pink… it’s “rose”. I guess they associate pink with femininity as well. Certain shades of pink do look nice on men, though.
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Reminds me of a priest that used to be at a nearby parish. Apparently he wasn’t too fond of the “rose” vestments which, in his defense, were a rather vivid shade of pink. He commented on this to the pastor, an 80-year-old monsignor, who basically told him to suck it up and wear the vestments. So the priest cracked a joke in his homily about how maybe Monsignor was a bit too aged to realize this, but since he (the priest) was of the MTV generation, he realized that the vestments were the same color as Madonna’s gown in one of her videos, and he wanted to assure us all that he was not a “material girl”. 😃
 
SeekerJen said:
Reminds me of a priest that used to be at a nearby parish. Apparently he wasn’t too fond of the “rose” vestments which, in his defense, were a rather vivid shade of pink. He commented on this to the pastor, an 80-year-old monsignor, who basically told him to suck it up and wear the vestments. So the priest cracked a joke in his homily about how maybe Monsignor was a bit too aged to realize this, but since he (the priest) was of the MTV generation, he realized that the vestments were the same color as Madonna’s gown in one of her videos, and he wanted to assure us all that he was not a “material girl”. 😃
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Wouldn’t that be material boy? :whistle: Oh, that is such a good story!!! :rotfl:

Personally, I think as long as the people are clean and covered from knees to shoulders than they are decently dressed for Mass. Basically stick to the signs at the Vatican. I do have to agree with the “no logo” shirts. I usually try to buy non-logo type shirts for my kids. It’s the grandparents who usually end up getting the logo shirts for them.
 
SeekerJen said:
Reminds me of a priest that used to be at a nearby parish. Apparently he wasn’t too fond of the “rose” vestments which, in his defense, were a rather vivid shade of pink. He commented on this to the pastor, an 80-year-old monsignor, who basically told him to suck it up and wear the vestments. So the priest cracked a joke in his homily about how maybe Monsignor was a bit too aged to realize this, but since he (the priest) was of the MTV generation, he realized that the vestments were the same color as Madonna’s gown in one of her videos, and he wanted to assure us all that he was not a “material girl”. 😃
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Our former associate pastor, an avid Cubs fan, once remarked “I will never wear pink”. So as a going away present I bought him a pink Cubs cap!
 
From today’s bulletin:

Oh, It’s Warm In Here!
Just a reminder that, even though the Church IS warm, what we wear to God’s house DOES matter! Please wear clothing that is modest and respectful!
 
I once saw in a bulletin where the associate suggested everyone wear pink on the Sunday in Advent where that is the liturgical color. He said that there would be fantantic prizes for the men who were secure enough in thier manhood to wear pink. I thought it was pretty funny.
 
chatterbox said:
I once saw in a bulletin where the associate suggested everyone wear pink on the Sunday in Advent where that is the liturgical color. He said that there would be fantantic prizes for the men who were secure enough in thier manhood to wear pink. I thought it was pretty funny.
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Our Stampede Rodeo this year has as its theme “Tough Enough to Wear Pink,” to promote charities that raise money to find a cure for breast cancer.

It’s kind of neat to see all those tough cowboys wresting wild steers and bulls, in their pink hats and bandanas. 🙂
 
I’m a Catholic “revert”, if you will. I was baptized and grew up Catholic, but never confirmed and I found little meaning to my religion. As I got older I felt more attracted to the world and the desires of a worldly life. I tried different “spiritualities”; being a Buddhist, a born-again, etc. However, for some reason, I did make an effort to go to Mass on Sunday. I didn’t believe in confession, mortal vs. venial sin, the ban against ABC; you name it, I thought it was stupid. For the better part of a decade, I did little more than go to Mass and that was about it; an odd prayer here and there.

Sometimes God takes a long time to work on people. I’m sure if I was castigated by a priest for my jeans and t-shirt attire, I wouldn’t have shown up because my pride would be yelling. A gentle reminder about modesty in the bulletin or from the pulpit is a good way of drawing people’s attention to it without being uncharitable.

Plus, modesty doesn’t necessarily need to be “formal”. My current church is quite orthodox with confession every day, people kneeling at the rail for communion, etc., and yet there is no dress code. Some come in suits and ties, some come in shorts and a t-shirt.
 
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