Modesty in clothing (ladies only please!)

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I know the ‘rules’ for dressing modestly (13 years of Catholic schooling after all!) I usually wear skirts and dresses, always below the knee; and unless it is 103-degrees F. outside I insist on sleeves at least halfway to the elbow. My clothing is always feminine and shows off my shape. My problem is necklines. I have heard “two finger widths below the collar bone”. This is pretty easy to acomplish, just a tank top under a deep V. The only problem is that I am rather ahem busty, and covering up that much just draws more attention to my chest. So I’m not sure what to do; do I cover up and risk ‘the girls’ looking even bigger, or do I show a bit more skin to make things seem a bit more in proportion?
Mind you, I’m not talking about a neckline down to nowhere, 4-finger widths at the most.
Opinions well appreciated!
 
Granted, I am younger and a little more busty as well, but if you do what makes you feel comfortable and you are worried about modesty than you will probably be fine. Especially since you will probably be sitting next to some not-so-modest women wearing less. Also, a nice necklace will detract of worn with a v-neck. That will give the appearance of detracting from the girls without actually showing the girls. Take care.

God bless,
 
I think as long as you still remain modest, you will be fine. Use your best judgement:thumbsup: It doesn’t sound like what you want to choose will be a problem. I’m glad this is something you are taking seriously. I wish more women would! Our um…gifts, shouldn’t be out on display for everyone to see:D
 
Giggles!
Thanks ladies!
I’m (somewhat) young as well, 28, but it took awhile to ‘get’ the whole modesty thing. I am glad that it seems my worries of 1" vs 2" doesn’t seem to be warrented.
Glad I found this place.
Adelheid
 
Adelheid said:
Hi,
I know the ‘rules’ for dressing modestly (13 years of Catholic schooling after all!) I usually wear skirts and dresses, always below the knee; and unless it is 103-degrees F. outside I insist on sleeves at least halfway to the elbow.
My clothing is always feminine and shows off my shape. My problem is necklines. I have heard “two finger widths below the collar bone”. This is pretty easy to acomplish, just a tank top under a deep V.
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I’m not talking about a neckline down to nowhere, 4-finger widths at the most.
Opinions well appreciated!
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There are no official ‘rules’ for dressing modestly. Hair splitting on such things ignores the overall essence of the nature of whether a fashion is provocative or not. A naked body is less a source of impurity than is a clothed body dressed in a manner designed to provoke the imagination.
Such rules have an air of fundamentalism about them.
 
As far as neckline goes, most of my necklines are not up near my collarbone. I just don’t wear anything low enough to show cleavage. The breasts should be completely covered, imo.
 
Adelheid said:
Giggles!
Thanks ladies!
I’m (somewhat) young as well, 28, but it took awhile to ‘get’ the whole modesty thing. I am glad that it seems my worries of 1" vs 2" doesn’t seem to be warrented.
Glad I found this place.
Adelheid
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In schools we have a need to set specific rules that apply accross the board. That is not so in the CHurch. What is modest is very subjective. It depends on many things from culture, to weather, to the activity you are engaged in. For the most part you only need worry about common sense. what makes sense at the beach or while mowing the lawn, is not typically what one would wear to church or to the grocery store, etc. Try not to attract to much attention to body parts that our culture labels erogenous and go from there. Remember you are not required to prevent even the most vulgar persons from having a sinful thought-- only to avoid unnecessarily inciting them.
 
I"m a rather “busty” lass myself and as such I am mindful of what I wear as well. I won’t wear any top that allows cleevage, a good rule of thumb is nothing that goes below my collar bone.

And because I’m really white and NZL has horrible rates of skin cancer itmakes sense not to expose some of the most sensitive skin on my body to the sun. Its why I wear somewhat baggy pants.
 
Adelheid said:
Hi,
I know the ‘rules’ for dressing modestly (13 years of Catholic schooling after all!) I usually wear skirts and dresses, always below the knee; and unless it is 103-degrees F. outside I insist on sleeves at least halfway to the elbow. My clothing is always feminine and shows off my shape. My problem is necklines. I have heard “two finger widths below the collar bone”. This is pretty easy to acomplish, just a tank top under a deep V. The only problem is that I am rather ahem busty, and covering up that much just draws more attention to my chest. So I’m not sure what to do; do I cover up and risk ‘the girls’ looking even bigger, or do I show a bit more skin to make things seem a bit more in proportion?
Mind you, I’m not talking about a neckline down to nowhere, 4-finger widths at the most.
Opinions well appreciated!
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In todays world it was very nice to read this post from you. So many young people (of course not all) now days don’t have a clue as to what being modest is.

It sounds like the others have given you good answers and I like your idea about the 4-finger widths at the most.
 
I’m another buxom miss, and very short to boot. NOTHING ever fits the way I’d like, but my rule of thumb is no cleavage and if the front gaps, sew it up. I’m an excellent top-stitcher as a result.

I kind of think of most clothes like this…if I could wear this in front of my grandmother, I can wear it to church. If the outfit would cause that tiny little Italian woman to shout, “Oh Maria! Oh Madonna,” it goes in the charity box. Sometimes people apply this principle using the Blessed Mother as the arbiter, but I’ve actually met my grandmother and have experienced the outrage and/or disappointment in those words from her. I prefer to avoid them.
 
Oh…my daeve.
You are brilliant.
And of course kinda scary cause now i just have the vision of my grandma (another old italian lady) sighing loudy “Ah ma-don!” the translation of which I am still a bit confused on.
She would then pull and prod till everything ‘fit’ to her desire.
I now have my method
Adel-
 
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