Mom's Lesbian Wedding

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First of all,it appears strange that a women having grown up children is marrying a lesbian .I guess she may be around 50 years old.Not staying with you nor having much connection since long.You don’t approve her way of living.
If these be so,there should not be any doubt as to whether you should go for her marriage or not.Dont be a party to the sinful and shameful function.Tell boldly that you won’t come.
 
Lara said:
Two people of the same gender cannot marry. Likewise, two men and one woman cannot marry.
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What about two women and one man? There’s a lot of historical precedent for that kind of marriage and it even figures quite prominently in Scripture. That’s the kind of marriage that both Abraham and Jacob had. And Solomon, well, that was 700 women and one man.
 
I agree with the first posters that you should speak with a priest about this.
Second, I would ignore any advice from the poster who insists that it is Catholic teaching that you should go to the wedding while simultaneously adamant that you should not ask a priest about it. That’s obviously shady.
Third, if after you’ve consulted a priest, you decide not to go, you own your mom an apology because you initially told her that you would go and that sort of thing is upsetting. You need to talk to her and make it clear that while you don’t approve of, and cannot celebrate, the nature of her relationship with this other woman, you still love her very much. Then once you have said that, walk the walk, and make sure that you remember and honor her, and show her your love.
Lastly, I think if you decide tell her that you are not going, there are basically two likely outcomes. Possibly you and your mother will “agree to disagree” on the nature of homosexual unions and you will continue you have a good relationship while respecting one another’s beliefs and boundaries regarding such beliefs. This is obviously the preferred outcome. The other unfortunate possibility is that one or both of you will decide that your ability to have a relationship hinges on one’s complete acceptance of the other’s world view. It sounds from your post that you do not feel this way and that you wish to have a relationship with your mom, even if she continues to have homosexual relationships. However, if your mom does not feel the same way, I promise you that attending her wedding “to keep the peace” will not ultimately appease her. In that mindset, unless you offer 100% approval of what she is doing, then you do not really support or love her. Unless you renounce your Catholic beliefs of marriage and agree that there is no sin in homosexual relationships, you do not really support or love her. I’m NOT saying that this IS her mindset. You will have to talk to her and figure that out. All I’m saying is that IF that is her mindset, you are really wasting your time and compromising your soul for no reason by attend the wedding. It isn’t going to end there. You will be expected to “support” her indefinitely.
 
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Looks like Biblical exegesis and systematic theology just aren’t your fortes. Oh, well…
 
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Limoncello4021 said:
Jesus insists that we must choose him FIRST over our family. Tough truth, but there it is.
“If anyone comes to Me, and does not hate his own father and mother and wife and children and brothers and sisters, yes, and even his own life, he cannot be My disciple.”
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Beat me to it…
 
Monica83 said:
Murder is a one time deal. Hes not committing murder anymore in prison. Now if he were an organized crime member and you knew he killed people and was planning to keep killing people for basically his whole life, and you knew it, didn’t like it, but you went to a Mafia celebration anyway, that would be more of an equivalent scenario-in terms of tacit condonement anyway-not the sin itself.
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You know, when I first saw this thread, I was actually thinking of posting a spoof thread asking if it would be OK to attend a relative’s “made man” ceremony just to show the absurdness and see everyone’s reaction.
 
OP I haven’t got time to read through all of this.
But see if there is a creative solution to all of this.

One option is to go but don’t actively participate. As in sit at the back. Don’t clap. So you are just observing. I don’t think that’s against church teaching.

I’m not saying this is the solution. Just one option.
 
Rbrandon, how old are you (just a general over/under 18 is fine). Do you still live at home with your mom? Or do you live with your dad? Or are you an adult on your own, possibly married with kids?
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My family now is saying I should be ashamed of myself, and that after all my mom has done for me, I should go to support her. Any thoughts?
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Yes. Tell them that Jesus has done even MORE for you!
 
Attending a same sex weddingdoesnt mean you support the wedding per se

Keep in mind it’s the posters mother
 
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Not to attend to a “wedding” does not mean to necessary cut off with this person.

We do not go to a wedding for charity (it will be a non sense!) but to celebrate a same-sex union.
They will kiss, the attendees will applaude. Just an exemple.

It is at the OP to decide if he wants to pursue a relationship with his mother. This is an other topic.
 
Polygamy is also wrong because it doesn’t meet the definition of marriage. When Jesus came, He brought in the new Covenant, and that was the end of historical precedent.

Of course, that is the new frontier for LGBTQ, the next letters after inter-sexed, two-spirited, etc. will be polygamy, P. Of course, it’s all R for ridiculous.
 
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Lara:
Two people of the same gender cannot marry. Likewise, two men and one woman cannot marry.
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What about two women and one man? There’s a lot of historical precedent for that kind of marriage and it even figures quite prominently in Scripture. That’s the kind of marriage that both Abraham and Jacob had. And Solomon, well, that was 700 women and one man.
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You do realize that their family lives were screwed because of that decision.
 
The Bible says that we are to hate our parents, our brothers and our sisters and follow Jesus. I doubt it means literally hating them. But it does mean being willing to sever family ties and follow Jesus.

This “wedding” of the OP’s mother and her same sex lover is a prime example of when one must be willing to walk away (i.e.: not attending) and not be a witness to the sin they commit.

I’m sure it was difficult to tell his mother he couldn’t be there. But it is better for his soul that He do the right thing and obey God.

He can pray for his mother to see her error. And he will always love her. But to condone what his mother is doing by attending isn’t right. God says it is an abomination to Him.

When one is a Christian, God comes first. Those who do the Father’s Will are Jesus’s brothers and sisters. They turn away from and don’t support the sin of others.

It’s really quite simple. You either choose God and His Truth or you choose the world and its ways. The OP has chosen to obey God.
 
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