Monogamy in the Bible...where?

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Martin Luther
He didn’t see it or chose not to. But many others did. John Calvin being a prominent one.
Luther was also under pressure. The Catholic Church was against him. I believe he would have had no allies if he lost Philip I of Hesse. Luther also wrote:
It is my earnest warning and counsel that Christians especially shall have no more than one wife, not only because it is a scandal, which a Christian should avoid most diligently, but also because there is no word of God here to show that God approves it in Christians… I must oppose it, especially in Christians, unless there be need, as for instance if the wife be a leper, or be taken away from the husband in some other way.
Nonetheless, plural marriages cannot reflect Christ and His Church, which Ephesians demonstrates.
 
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Do you believe a hammered metal dome covers the sky? Why not?
Do you believe all of creation happened in 6 24 hour days? Why not?
Do you believe God actively wills the slaughter of innocent women and children in wartime? Why not?

All of these are detailed in the bible.
You are picking and choosing select biblical passages to prove your bias. That’s not how Catholics read the bible.

We interpret the bible:
As a whole, not passages in isolation
Through the eyes of Christ
And with the Church, not as individuals.

Your proposition fails in that true light.
 
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Not sure which view Martin Luther ended up with but the point is that the Bible can be used to make a case for polygamy. You’re making it sound as if that’s far-fetched to believe and I find that to be intellectually dishonest. People keep bringing up polygamy because the answer is not as clear cut as you might think.

You brought up Ephesians passage and I already touched on that. To keep things nice and organized and to help ensure that no points are dodged, from here on I’m only addressing one topic at a time.
 
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Do you believe a hammered metal dome covers the sky? Why not?
Do you believe all of creation happened in 6 24 hour days? Why not?
Do you believe God actively wills the slaughter of innocent women and children in wartime? Why not?
I never referenced any of these passages so this again is yet another example of you not addressing my specific point. You do believe that some OT stories were meant to be taken literally, correct? You’ve offered no logical (non-arbitrary/non-selective) method or evidence to show that my referenced passages should be taken in a non-literal sense. I’m sure many want it to be since it goes against their view, but that would be a highly biased reason to label something non-literal.
 
I’d tell this questioner that Jesus is monogamous with his bride on Earth, the Holy Mother Church.
 
A day has past, and I’ve yet to receive a logical response showing why my conclusions on Genesis 29 are wrong. I’ve also pointed to the “literal” definition of adultery which also makes sense only to a polygynous society.

For now, I’ll move on to address 1 Corinthians points against polygamy:
That’s pretty weak, as arguments go. Yes, that verse says “The sons of Jacob’s wife Rachel”… I mean, it’s pointing to one person, in particular, and by name! Why you would think that this non sequitur helps prove your point is mystifying.
My example was simply to show that using “wife” in the singular does not necessarily mean that polygamy is out of the picture. Some might otherwise say that just because the "wife’ is singular, that means Rachel was in monogamy when that’s not the case of course.
Except that, in my example, I’m able to demonstrate that Paul’s context is “when you divorce your wife, you’re now single.” Your points here do not refute that assertion
Well technically in 1 Cor. 7, Paul does not talk about the husband being “single” or “unmarried” after a divorce. The marital status of the divorced man is not mentioned at all and that allows for cases involving polygamists who divorce one wife but are still married to other wives. Paul only mentions the wife being unmarried or single and tells her to “remain” that way.

Lets just say that my point here in terms of the marital status of the divorced male not being mentioned is just coincidence. We can say Paul left that out for reasons not involving polygamy. Then I’d agree with you that this rule would not apply to polygamy because logically-speaking a monogamous man who was just divorced would be left “single”. This could not possibly apply to polygamy UNLESS there is an exception and in this case there is one if you refer to other parts of God’s rules. So your point would only be valid if we read this passage in isolation, but when we factor in all of God’s rules, which is the logical thing to do to see if there are exceptions (the exceptions also being from God), then my point is still valid.

So in some cases, there are some rules that would only apply to monogamy but those would have exceptions. Then there are cases where the rules are about dyadic or two-person relations as opposed to monogamy, in that the polygamist can apply them to each of his two-person marriages. For instance, a man can become one flesh with wife #1 and one flesh with wife #2. He can love /support wife #1 and love/support wife #2.
That would work… but only if Christ hadn’t laid down the law of “one husband - one wife” in the Gospels. It’s a good point you’re making… but only if the teachings of Christ didn’t precede the ministry of Paul. (It’s still a subtle enough point that it was a really nice try
I’m glad that you saw the need to resort to other text. Just going by 1 Cor. 7 alone, I could’ve made a decent case for polygyny. So you should not have a problem with me resorting to other passages to show clarifications and/or exceptions, as well.
 
You brought up Ephesians passage and I already touched on that.
You touched on it by taking it out of the context in the 2 verses. It was said in Ephesians marriage is now supposed to reflect the Christ and His Church. Polygamy cannot do that.
 
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A day has past, and I’ve yet to receive a logical response showing why my conclusions on Genesis 29 are wrong.
Some of us have day jobs. 😉
No, I think like Martin Luther, they see the weaknesses in your position.
One might hope that folks would see the weakness in relying on Luther’s theological views in discussions with Catholics. (We generally think that his theological musings which diverge from Church teachings aren’t particularly valid. 😉 )
God took action for ONE man to love and impregnate TWO women - He did so because He wanted it! Lets show this directly from Scripture:
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Two thoughts:
  • First of all, it’s important to note that, in OT times, the notion of ‘secondary causation’ wasn’t yet known. Instead, they believed that, no matter what happened, it was the will of God. Literally. (So, if a leaf fell off a tree: God made it happen. If your dinner spoiled before you got to it: God willed it to happen.) You see this in medieval Islamic philosophers, too: it’s called occasionalism, and it was the viewpoint of the ancients. (From their perspective, if God wasn’t directly responsible for all events in the world, it would imply that He wasn’t omnipotent.) So, when we read that “God opened Leah’s womb”, it means that the inspired author was thinking “Leah become pregnant, and therefore, that must mean that God willed it to happen.” When we read the Bible today, we recognize that this is what’s in play, and not that God is literally causing some to be fertile and others barren.
  • Let’s suppose, on the other hand, that you’re right – that God actually did cause Leah’s pregnancy. Would that imply what you say it implies, though? Let’s look at the passage carefully:
    • It discusses the fact that polygamy can cause bad outcomes: Jacob did not love his wife Leah.
    • It shows that, despite the sins that people commit, God still loves us. Despite the fact that Jacob married two women just so that he could marry Rachel, God continued to act in their lives for their benefit.
    • So, at best, this story shows that God loves Leah. It doesn’t show that God loves polygamy. (In fact, Jesus affirms this viewpoint in the Gospel – “from the beginning”, marriage was meant to be between one man and one woman. Period. Full stop.)
 
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My example was simply to show that using “wife” in the singular does not necessarily mean that polygamy is out of the picture.
Of course not. However, that wasn’t my argument. Simply pointing to a word in the singular and making assumptions about it … well, that isn’t a very good argument. 🤷‍♂️
Some might otherwise say that just because the "wife’ is singular, that means Rachel was in monogamy when that’s not the case of course.
And they’d be wrong, too, just as you’re mistaken about God’s views on polygamy. 😉
Well technically in 1 Cor. 7, Paul does not talk about the husband being “single” or “unmarried” after a divorce. The marital status of the divorced man is not mentioned at all and that allows for cases involving polygamists who divorce one wife but are still married to other wives.
Actually, no.

You made the assertion, upthread, that part of the discussion in 1 Cor 7 is Paul’s opinion, and part is God’s law. Here’s the thing, though: do you really think that Paul’s opinion would deviate from God’s law? And therefore, when Paul talks about a wife (not wives) having authority over the husband’s body, we infer that what Jesus commanded (one man, one woman, in one marriage), Paul likewise teaches.

And, of course, later in the chapter – when, as you admit, Paul is giving God’s law – he always only refers to the wife in the singular and never the plural. If there were even one instance in which Paul upheld the notion of polygamy as lawful, then you’d have an argument to work with. The problem is, Paul does no such thing.
For instance, a man can become one flesh with wife #1 and one flesh with wife #2.
No. We see elsewhere that Paul sees intercourse with another as sinful. The ‘one flesh union’ is exclusive.
So you should not have a problem with me resorting to other passages to show clarifications and/or exceptions, as well.
Sure. Let’s see what you’ve got. 😉
 
First of all, it’s important to note that, in OT times, the notion of ‘secondary causation’ wasn’t yet known. Instead, they believed that, no matter what happened, it was the will of God. Literally. (So, if a leaf fell off a tree: God made it happen. If your dinner spoiled before you got to it: God willed it to happen.) You see this in medieval Islamic philosophers, too: it’s called occasionalism , and it was the viewpoint of the ancients. (From their perspective, if God wasn’t directly responsible for all events in the world, it would imply that He wasn’t omnipotent.) So, when we read that “God opened Leah’s womb”, it means that the inspired author was thinking “Leah become pregnant, and therefore, that must mean that God willed it to happen.” When we read the Bible today, we recognize that this is what’s in play, and not that God is literally causing some to be fertile and others barren.
Before I give a full response, can you define what you mean by “secondary causation”. And also, can you provide evidence that the ancient Jews held this view.

I ask for a clear definition and evidence for the following reasons:
  • I’m skeptical that the Jews would’ve called “evil” occurrences as being God’s will.
  • I’m skeptical that the Jews knew nothing about biology given the fact that Abraham’s wife, attributed her lack of child bearing to “old age” as opposed to “God’s will”. Was Abraham and Sarah’s understanding of biology not correct (Genesis 17:17, Genesis 18:10-15)? And was she not correct to attribute bearing children in old age to God?
  • I’m also skeptical that the Jews would have not known how to differentiate between natural phenomena and God’s will/actions. This calls into question all of the supernatural occurrences in the Bible if the Jews were unable to really differentiate the two. When they say God did it, it could’ve really been natural occurrences all along. Fits right in with what many atheists tell us about the Bible, it’s a book of “superstition” and science is weeding all out along with all other unneeded superstition-based thought.
More specifically to Genesis 29, what good reason is there to believe that Leah and Rachel were not having fertility problems? ANd if so, what good reason is there for believing that God did not fix these problems especially since he’s able to work miracles?
 
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Before I give a full response, can you define what you mean by “secondary causation”.
God is the ‘primary cause’ of all things. However, he gives humans the ability to think, reason, and choose courses of action freely. Therefore, humans – on their own and through their own agency – can be the sources of causes of various effects. Aquinas talks about this. When I place a lit match up against a piece of cotton, I’m causing the cotton to catch fire. It’s not the case that God, seeing that I expect cotton to be flammable, sees my action and personally causes the cotton to burst into flame (the Islamic philosopher al-Ghazali made the argument that it really is just God doing all the acting, and I’m causing nothing.)
And also, can you provide evidence that the ancient Jews held this view.
Well, there are no ancient philosophy texts from pre-exilic days to which we can turn, so the ‘evidence’ is Scriptural. There are contemporary philosophers who make the claim that the ancients kept the two notions in a sort of cognitive tension. From a simple review of the OT, though, it seems clear that there was the idea that God’s will was supreme. There are many instances in which the OT author claims that events happened because God willed them.
I’m skeptical that the Jews would’ve called “evil” occurrences as being God’s will.
“I form the light, and create the darkness, I make weal and create woe; I, the LORD, do all these things.” – Isaiah 45:7.

In the Latin, the phrase is “faciens pacem et creans malum” – that is, “maker of peace and creator of evil.”
I’m skeptical that the Jews knew nothing about biology given the fact that Abraham’s wife, attributed her lack of child bearing to “old age” as opposed to “God’s will”.
They knew what acts made a baby, so it’s not that they “knew nothing about biology”. It would be fair to say that they knew that childbirth following menopause wasn’t expected.

And, of course, there are miracles in the Bible, and so, we would say, there are instances of God’s clear intervention. However, they would have believed in a more strong notion of God’s role in temporal events.
I’m also skeptical that the Jews would have not known how to differentiate between natural phenomena and God’s will/actions.
I think it’s reasonable to suggest that they’d associate natural phenomena with God’s will.

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This calls into question all of the supernatural occurrences in the Bible if the Jews were unable to really differentiate the two. When they say God did it, it could’ve really been natural occurrences all along.
That doesn’t follow. We look at the events themselves, and we see that the events being described aren’t normal. It’s not so much that they were “unable to distinguish”, but they certainly knew, through experience, what didn’t happen on a regular basis, and so they knew when something extraordinary was occurring!
More specifically to Genesis 29, what good reason is there to believe that Leah and Rachel were not having fertility problems? ANd if so, what good reason is there for believing that God did not fix these problems especially since he’s able to work miracles?
That’s a stance that you might validly take. However, where you go off the rails is when you suggest that their fertility demonstrates God’s desire that polygamy be practiced.
 
Well, there are no ancient philosophy texts from pre-exilic days to which we can turn, so the ‘evidence’ is Scriptural. There are contemporary philosophers who make the claim that the ancients kept the two notions in a sort of cognitive tension. From a simple review of the OT, though, it seems clear that there was the idea that God’s will was supreme. There are many instances in which the OT author claims that events happened because God willed them
Please cite the evidence that you’re referring to. I actually posted counter-evidence so your argument already runs into a problem. In light of that, I believe your view in any absolute form is incorrect. I’m sure the ancient Jews attributed some things to God that were really not caused by God. Christians still do that today. But there were things that they did understand in terms of secondary causes, and child bearing is one of them. There also would’ve been times that they claimed God did something and be correct about it.
“I form the light, and create the darkness, I make weal and create woe; I, the LORD, do all these things.” – Isaiah 45:7.

In the Latin, the phrase is “faciens pacem et creans malum” – that is, “maker of peace and creator of evil.”
There is a difference between ‘moral’ evil and natural evil. The passage you quoted most likely refers to the latter type. If God caused or did ‘moral’ evil, then he would not be all-good.
They knew what acts made a baby, so it’s not that they “knew nothing about biology”. It would be fair to say that they knew that childbirth following menopause wasn’t expected.

And, of course, there are miracles in the Bible, and so, we would say, there are instances of God’s clear intervention. However, they would have believed in a more strong notion of God’s role in temporal events.
Sorry, but I’m not buying this until you present evidence that would justify your point. I am willing to believe that the ancient Jews didn’t understand some secondary causes, but I’ve at least presented evidence that they understood some.

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That doesn’t follow. We look at the events themselves, and we see that the events being described aren’t normal. It’s not so much that they were “unable to distinguish”, but they certainly knew, through experience, what didn’t happen on a regular basis, and so they knew when something extraordinary was occurring!
Even if the ancient Jews were able to distinguish between regular vs. extraordinary events, both would still fall under God’s doing. So there would still be false attributions. If you were trying to say that “extraordinary events” would be accurate attributions of God’s doing then even there I disagree because among other things you’re relying on their judgement of extraordinary. A person may think something is extraordinary because they missed or overlooked the simple explanations. I’ve had people consider it extraordinary that a relative called them right around the time they thought of the relative. The problem here is they tend to forget the times that they thought about their relative and received no call.
That’s a stance that you might validly take. However, where you go off the rails is when you suggest that their fertility demonstrates God’s desire that polygamy be practiced.
Well the text is clear on this matter. ONE man loving two women and impregnating them are non-monogamous acts. God’s concern and actions were directed at towards helping these non-monogamous acts play out. If someone is against something, you don’t do things to help, encourage, or cause the thing that you’re against, and this is especially true when an all-good God is involved. This is common sense.
 
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We interpret the bible:
As a whole, not passages in isolation
Through the eyes of Christ
And with the Church, not as individuals.

Your proposition fails in that true light.
One thing I’ve observed from a lot of Christians is that they are “obligated” to believing their view. Logic and evidence is secondary. Whereas in my case, logic and evidence is primary and my views follow from these two. All of my views are subject to change.

Of course, you are free to use your Church, Christ, and tradition, but one thing that none of these 3 can do is to claim truth or be truth on any matter if or when it goes against logic and evidence.

And this is the problem I find in discussing biblical marriage with some Catholics. I find more appeal to Church doctrine than to logic and evidence and that’s a fundamental mistake.
 
God’s concern and actions were directed at towards helping these non-monogamous acts play out.
If He caused them. If, on the other hand, this is merely writer’s understanding, based on an occasionalist viewpoint, then this is not an indication that God was acting in favor of polygamy.

God allows unmarried people to conceive, too. Would you assert that this means that God supports fornication?
 
If He caused them. If, on the other hand, this is merely writer’s understanding, based on an occasionalist viewpoint, then this is not an indication that God was acting in favor of polygamy.
The text mentions that God caused their pregnancies. The text also mentions why he did it. On the other hand, what you’re proposing is not in the text so you have no evidence. In fact, I offered counter-evidence that directly relates to the writer’s understanding the biology behind childbearing.

I’m asking myself if polygamy wasn’t part of the story here, would you have came up with your unevidenced explanation? Either way, please also factor in what the ancient Jews understood ‘adultery’ to mean. We can gather that based on how they enforced it, based on how they explained it, and based on the types of marriages that they engaged in and that God himself at times got involved with.
God allows unmarried people to conceive, too. Would you assert that this means that God supports fornication?
The keyword you used is “allowed”. In the case of Jacob, God did not simply “allow” or just sit back. He stepped into the situation - the situation being a non-monogamous act itself (the impregnation of TWO women using ONE man’s seed). So you can’t even say that God worked with Jacob despite his poly marriage. God actually had a hand in the non-monogamous aspects or functioning of Jacob’s marriages.
 
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On the other hand, what you’re proposing is not in the text so you have no evidence.
It’s an analysis of the text. Not sure how that’s not a use of the Scriptural text as ‘evidence’.
I’m asking myself if polygamy wasn’t part of the story here, would you have came up with your unevidenced explanation?
This is a common explanation. Its veracity has nothing to do with the fact that God does not approve of polygamy.
Either way, please also factor in what the ancient Jews understood ‘adultery’ to mean. We can gather that based on how they enforced it, based on how they explained it, and based on the types of marriages that they engaged in and that God himself at times got involved with.
Hold on a second! You just dismissed my analysis of Scripture as ‘unevidenced’, and now, you’re proposing an analysis of Scripture as ‘evidence’? Sorry… that kind of double standard simply doesn’t cut it.
The keyword you used is “allowed”. In the case of Jacob, God did not simply “allow” or just sit back. He stepped into the situation - the situation being a non-monogamous act itself (the impregnation of TWO women using ONE man’s seed).
Two thoughts:
  • First, there’s no such thing as a “non-monogamous act of intercourse”. They are two, distinct, one-on-one acts. So, your description is manifestly erroneous.
  • Second, inasmuch as God doesn’t prevent people from sinning, He really does allow human action. So, the fact that Jacob had sex with more than one woman does not imply that God approved of that behavior.
 
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The keyword you used is “allowed”. In the case of Jacob, God did not simply “allow” or just sit back. He stepped into the situation - the situation being a non-monogamous act itself (the impregnation of TWO women using ONE man’s seed). So you can’t even say that God worked with Jacob despite his poly marriage. God actually had a hand in the non-monogamous aspects or functioning of Jacob’s marriages.
We know God caused Sarah’s pregnancy despite incest being forbidden later.
 
It’s an analysis of the text. Not sure how that’s not a use of the Scriptural text as ‘evidence’.
My conclusion is based off of direct evidence - what’s directly stated in the text. Your view is inferred from the text. That is the distinction I was trying to make. I accept that an inferences can be valid, but only when you have something within the text to work off of. You don’t have that and I’ll explain why.
  • You have not shown why the your view that ancient Jews attributed things to God because they did not understand secondary causes should be accepted over my alternative that the Jews understood secondary causes AND the times God intervened.
  • Inference should not conflict with direct evidence (what’s directly stated in the text). You don’t even need inference if direct evidence can solve the matter.
Hold on a second! You just dismissed my analysis of Scripture as ‘unevidenced’, and now, you’re proposing an analysis of Scripture as ‘evidence’? Sorry… that kind of double standard simply doesn’t cut it.
I elaborated on this point already. I’ll add that my point on adultery is based on direct evidence and inference. Your explanation is simply ad-hoc.
Two thoughts:
  • First, there’s no such thing as a “non-monogamous act of intercourse”. They are two, distinct, one-on-one acts. So, your description is manifestly erroneous.
The non-monogamous act in this case would be sex with TWO women and impregnating TWO women. Jacob did the former, and God did the latter. And the text actually mentions why He did it. Some Christians tell me that this was done for a greater good to increase the population of Israel, but I can’t help that the text also gives its own reason for why God did this and it was so that ONE man would love TWO women which is also a non-monogamous act itself. I won’t get into the problem of using the ends to justify the means which also goes against Catholic doctrine. Either way, wanting TWO women to be loved is one reason if not the single reason.
  • Second, inasmuch as God doesn’t prevent people from sinning, He really does allow human action. So, the fact that Jacob had sex with more than one woman does not imply that God approved of that behavior.
God showed concern that Jacob did NOT love TWO women. That was not Jacob’s concern. This is the first point showing that God wanted non-monogamous behavior.

God who impregnated TWO women for ONE man. This is the second point showing that both God and Jacob wanted and engaged in non-monogamous behavior . Your point is valid when it comes to Jacob doing the sex acts but again God caused the impregnation. Sex is a function of procreation so if God did not want Jacob to have sex with two women then it makes no sense for Him to aid in the procreation process.

Would you at least acknowledge that this poses a problem for your side?
 
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