Moral Question

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Been reading the forums and hope this is an okay question:
What are the rules for a man suffering premature ejaculation?
Is it a sin?
Is it a sin after a certain number of times?
Thanks,
Reggie
 
The issue of intent is very much in play here. Since such a state is almost always (if not always) an unintended and even undesired act, there really can’t be an issue of sin involved.
 
Let say the husband is trying to prepare his wife and senses it coming on while doing this?
Does he need to stop until it goes away or realize it will go away hopefully with time and experience?
Hope that is not too graphic.
Reggie
 
There is no moral question…if the marital act is the marital act…within the confines of a married relationship, open to life…then it is fine…
 
I see a couple of questions here.

Having a medical condition is not a sin, even if it causes problems or embarrassment. For example, being too sick to attend Mass on Sunday does not mean that you have committed the sin of missing Mass. It means you were too sick to go. A medical condition is not a sin.

The second question seems to do with the cumulative effect. First no matter how many venial sin you commit, they never add up to a mortal sin. Likewise, no matter how many morally neutral acts you perform, they also never add up to sin.

The only cumulative effect of sin or questionable actions is the overall effect they have on behavior. Someone who habitually commits a particular venial sin may find their ability to overcome the temptation for mortal sin weakened, often significantly.

Finally, there is one important aspect to sin that cannot be forgotten. A person must choose to sin. One never sins accidently. Sin can be habitual, however. Also, people can blind themselves to the sins they commit because they do not have a properly formed conscience.
 
So if a husband is preparing his wife and and he climaxes while outside his wife (not intending it would happen, but sensed it coming on and they weren’t doing anything to try to lead to that) it is more just an accident and he should hope in the future it goes away?
Sorry, I just do not know if other posters knew what I mean.
Again I hope this is okay to ask.
Reggie
 
Hey Reggie,
First does not sound too graphic as you have a question to ask. I am not sure and I sought others who might know better than me, but have not gotten a response yet, so I will answer, but again if someone else has a better response please chime in.
Anyways, I think in the case you are describing, it is a medical issue that with time does get better. You are doing the loving thing to think about your wife first, and I would say as long as there was not action intentionally causing that early, just ignore it and do not sweat about it since she is your focus, not you trying to be selfish or not open to life. Guys I hear usually experience this sometime or another and if it remains an issue maybe find medical advice (of course in accord with Catholic teaching) to help it, but since it was not desired, its probably not a sin (certainly not mortal).
Hope that helps and if people disagree who know better please post, since I am working with what I can 😃 .
 
If it happens once, don’t think too much of it, if it keeps recurring then evaluate.
 
ReggieinNY said:
So if a husband is preparing his wife and and he climaxes while outside his wife (not intending it would happen, but sensed it coming on and they weren’t doing anything to try to lead to that) it is more just an accident and he should hope in the future it goes away?
Sorry, I just do not know if other posters knew what I mean.
Again I hope this is okay to ask.
Reggie
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Sometimes, practice makes perfect. 🙂 If it is an accident, then there is no sin. Especially for newlyweds, it takes some practice to figure out exactly how everything works and when everything happens. It’s all part of the learning curve.

However, if the couple is engaging in foreplay and there is no intention to complete the marital act, then it might be different. If experience has pretty clearly revealed what one’s limits are and when things happen, and one proceeds anyway knowing what will happen without making any attempt to either stop or complete the marital act, then this probably would be sinful. It’s tough to say for sure, though, without knowing all the details (and I don’t recommend giving too many more details here! :)).

As another poster said, it’s all about intent. The husband and wife involved are really the one’s who have to evaluate that themselves.
 
Thank you that makes sense. No I did not want to give more details and glad it was not too graphic.
Thank you,
Reggie
 
A good way to help this condition is have sex more freequently.

It will help a lot.

Mayo
 
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