moral question

[louie12]

i am the god father of my secerty at work, she was not a catholic but she got baptised 3 years ago, her daughter also became a catholic and she is getting married in a hall, according to her mother , a catholic priest is going to marry them, i am al ittle suspicious if the priest is catholic,would it be morllay ok to go to her daughter’s wedding.

thanyou

 

[nicolep]

Whether a Catholic priest or not, marriage and baptism are two services we are allowed to witness. While it wouldn’t be a sacrament, we are allowed to go.

As far as whether something is moral or not, I usually say to go with your gut. It’s usually right. If you don’t feel comfortable, kindly turn down the invitation.

God bless,
Nicole

 

[Joe_5859]

The question “Should I go to [fill in the blank] wedding?” comes up quite frequently in the Ask and Apologist forum. If you do a search there for “wedding” and scroll down, you’ll find many related threads that will give you good insight into this question.

 

[stbruno]

Catholic priests do not marry people in halls, at beaches etc…
They marry people in churches alone.
If they are being married by a “catholic” priest, you can bet it is a rent-a-priest and this is not recognized in any Catholic church.

Whether you decide to go is up to you. Perhaps you can show up late for the reception or send a nice gift if you are uncomfortable with the entire situation. And then encourage the daughter of your secretary to consider convalidating her marriage at a later date. Be a seed planter/

 

[Abbadon]

can someone please explain to me what going to a wedding has to do with a question of morality?

 

[Gamera]

can someone please explain to me what going to a wedding has to do with a question of morality?

The argument is that by attending an invalid wedding ceremony, one creates a public impression that he is agrees that it’s valid, thereby putting his “seal of approval” on a sinful relationship.

 

[Pong]

Catholic priests do not marry people in halls, at beaches etc…
They marry people in churches alone.
If they are being married by a “catholic” priest, you can bet it is a rent-a-priest and this is not recognized in any Catholic church.

Are you absolutely sure on that one? I’m asking because I’m not either. While being married in a Catholic Church is the norm for Catholics, dispensations are granted for persons marrying non-Catholic spouses for the wedding to be held in a Protestant building. Maybe the same works in this case?

 

[Abbadon]

The argument is that by attending an invalid wedding ceremony, one creates a public impression that he is agrees that it’s valid, thereby putting his “seal of approval” on a sinful relationship.

Ahhhh k gotchya

Marriage for the catholic faith is seen as a union under god yes? If you have a priest can’t you get married in a minefield for all it matters? God is everywhere so why does it matter where you get married?

You have god, you have mans link between god (priest) and you have people getting married why does it matter if its in a building designated to be called a church?

 

[Joe_5859]

Ahhhh k gotchya

Marriage for the catholic faith is seen as a union under god yes? If you have a priest can’t you get married in a minefield for all it matters? God is everywhere so why does it matter where you get married?

You have god, you have mans link between god (priest) and you have people getting married why does it matter if its in a building designated to be called a church?

You are correct to a point. It’s not so much about location as it is obedience to the lawful authority of the Church. The Code of Canon Law tells us that Catholics are to get married in their parish church (canon 1115). And part of being Catholic is willingly submitting to the laws of the Church (both moral and juridical laws). Of course, as with many parts of canon law, there can be exceptions, but these exceptions are cleared through the bishop first.

Of course, there are good reasosns why Catholics ought to get married in their parish church besides “the Church told us to.” That would take us a bit more off topic, though.

 

[Seatuck]

Ahhhh k gotchya

Marriage for the catholic faith is seen as a union under god yes? If you have a priest can’t you get married in a minefield for all it matters? God is everywhere so why does it matter where you get married?

You have god, you have mans link between god (priest) and you have people getting married why does it matter if its in a building designated to be called a church?

Because marriage is a High Holy Sacrament.(we only have 7 in our faith) We have so much esteem for it that we understand that the place needs to be fitting for it’s meaning . It’s a public statement of God’s action on a couple. On occaision exceptions can be made but in general the church holds its’ high holy sacramental ceremonies in church before our Lord in the Tabernacle.

Catholics are obligated to follow church teaching on marriage. The church does allow for some dispensation from the typical tradition. But the person must ask for it through his/her priest.

 

[Seatuck]

i am the god father of my secerty at work, she was not a catholic but she got baptised 3 years ago, her daughter also became a catholic and she is getting married in a hall, according to her mother , a catholic priest is going to marry them, i am al ittle suspicious if the priest is catholic,would it be morllay ok to go to her daughter’s wedding.

thanyou

You need more information to know whether this marriage will be valid or invalid. See if you can ask if the bride went to her Parish and asked permission to be married in a hall( this would only be given if the groom is non catholic) and find out if she took marriage prep classes usually called Pre- Cana.

Then you can decide. The church doesn’t forbid attending but you have to weigh what you are saying by attending. Because you are closely involved with the Mother you might try to at least make this a teaching moment an influence the outcome as best you can.