Morality of Marrying Only For Sex

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According to Church teachings, what would be the moral status of a Catholic couple that chose to marry for the sole purpose of becoming lifelong, faithful, sexual partners, and nothing more? I am thinking of a couple who lives separately, has no substantial relationship outside of their sexual encounters and is childless during their arrangement (perhaps sterile), living their individual lives and coming together only for sexual relations.
 
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According to Church teachings, what would be the moral status of a Catholic couple that chose to marry for the sole purpose of becoming lifelong, faithful, sexual partners, and nothing more? I am thinking of a couple who lives separately, has no substantial relationship outside of their sexual encounters and is childless during their arrangement (perhaps sterile), living their individual lives and coming together only for sexual relations.
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Why would two people get married and live apart? That is the first thing I would ask.
 
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According to Church teachings, what would be the moral status of a Catholic couple that chose to marry for the sole purpose of becoming lifelong, faithful, sexual partners, and nothing more? I am thinking of a couple who lives separately, has no substantial relationship outside of their sexual encounters and is childless during their arrangement (perhaps sterile), living their individual lives and coming together only for sexual relations.
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Perhaps you should read this…

beginningcatholic.com/catholic-natural-family-planning
 
Andrea_Day said:
According to Church teachings, what would be the moral status of a Catholic couple that chose to marry for the sole purpose of becoming lifelong, faithful, sexual partners, and nothing more? I am thinking of a couple who lives separately, has no substantial relationship outside of their sexual encounters and is childless during their arrangement (perhaps sterile), living their individual lives and coming together only for sexual relations.
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There is so,so,so much more to marriage. Its based on love not sex. I think it’s disrespectful to our faith, the sanctity of marriage and to each other!
I find it very sad.
 
Your question assumes that the only reason to marry is to avoid sexual sin. That is not he purpose of marriage, which is a sacramental covenant bond between two people.
 
Andrea_Day said:
According to Church teachings, what would be the moral status of a Catholic couple that chose to marry for the sole purpose of becoming lifelong, faithful, sexual partners, and nothing more? I am thinking of a couple who lives separately, has no substantial relationship outside of their sexual encounters and is childless during their arrangement (perhaps sterile), living their individual lives and coming together only for sexual relations.
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The behaviour you describe sounds like a “friends with benefits” arrangement, overlaid by an attempt to fashion a veneer of propriety by establishing a (sham) marriage.

Is this suggestive of an answer to your question?
 
If I’m getting married for sex, what is the point of getting married? I can have sex without being married. (and it would rightfully be a mortal sin). Guess what it would be if I was getting married JUST for sex? A mortal sin. The purpose of marriage is for you and your other to get each other to heaven. By the way, I am pretty sure the Church would rule such a marriage invalid. From a Catholic standpoint, there seems little reason to be married if it’s just for sex. Is sex part of it? Yes, it is the unitive bond between man and woman during the procreative act. But let’s not seperate the act from the Sacrament. If you are getting married just for sex, the marriage is probably invalid, and there is no Sacrament.
 
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Your question assumes that the only reason to marry is to avoid sexual sin. That is not he purpose of marriage, which is a sacramental covenant bond between two people.
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then why are people against same sex marriage? its homosexuality.
 
That would be objectifying both persons. People aren’t objects. It would disregard their dignity.
 
Andrea_Day said:
According to Church teachings, what would be the moral status of a Catholic couple that chose to marry for the sole purpose of becoming lifelong, faithful, sexual partners, and nothing more? I am thinking of a couple who lives separately, has no substantial relationship outside of their sexual encounters and is childless during their arrangement (perhaps sterile), living their individual lives and coming together only for sexual relations.
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It would be easily conceivable ground for annulment because of such a poor understanding of marriage.

There would be an enormous amount of perfecting that needs to be done for the marriage to mature. Sex- separate from love & fruitfulness - is driven through an emptiness that the person is trying to fill, very similar to why people turn to heroine. Through repetitive acts of kindness towards each other the marriage can start to experience what God intended for it. Without ignoring the gravity of this upon the couple, the Church, and society, God is very patient and merciful in this, the way Our Lord was towards the woman at the well, so that the person can gain their freedom.
 
This would seem to miss the point of the Sacrament of Marriage. I also don’t understand why someone would purposely choose that. It seems like finding someone who can be more of a companion in life would be more rewarding.
 
Andrea_Day said:
According to Church teachings, what would be the moral status of a Catholic couple that chose to marry for the sole purpose of becoming lifelong, faithful, sexual partners, and nothing more? I am thinking of a couple who lives separately, has no substantial relationship outside of their sexual encounters and is childless during their arrangement (perhaps sterile), living their individual lives and coming together only for sexual relations.
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I can’t imagine any Catholic Priest worth his vestment agreeing to officiate such a wedding.
 
The premise goes against the natural and ordered intention of sex; procreation. The base motivation behind a lifelong sex partner indicates the desire to never be open to children, because children would require a united family…and if you pull on this thread, you quickly get the right answer…
 
Part of the marriage vows are to love each other completely. A purely physical relationship is not love but lust. So there is the sin of lust but also the sin of deliberately making false vows. That is the sin of lying. If both man and woman did not make proper vows, the sacrament would be a sham, meaning invalid. If couple know the marriage is invalid and willingly have sex, I would think that would the sin of fornication. The marriage does not exist in God’s eyes. If they aren’t married, it’s fornication.

Beyond the morality aspect, I think anyone that would make this decision would be lacking sexual maturity. I don’t mean biologically (whether they are capable of having children or not) but mentally and spiritually. Human relationships can be so much more than sex. Anyone that is only there for sex is missing out on true love. Any pleasure in that relationship would be only a shadow of the full capacity of human love. Anyone that has experienced this true and complete love would never trade it for a solely physical relationship. Why even put yourself in this situation, where you close off the possibility of true love? Better to keep your options open to meet the love of your life.
 
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