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Who chooses the members then, the pastor?
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kittery
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It’s actually not a parish/diocesan school. It’s a very conservative catholic school, devoted to the magisterium still.
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kittery
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And I think that the board is just a volunteer basis. It’s one of those things that “it’s always been this way”, so I’ve never thought to ask.
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kittery
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I’ve never watched that movie actually! Thank you for the suggestion! I’ll check it out and see if I think it would help her.
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Rozellelily
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@TheLittleLady @Allegra
It’s unfortunate that often parents of bullies can’t see (or won’t see?) the connection their behaviour/mentality has to their child’s bullying.
Bullying is usually treated like just a child problem but from what I’ve seen,in many cases the kid usually picks it up from somewhere -ie:either seeing their mother make mean comments about others or their parents being abusive to the bulky child themselve.
Can bully issue be fixed without addressing parent behaviour?
Or the “disorders” in general society and media and social media that say you (particularly women) must be very thin to be thought as pretty,desirable,even intelligent?
Op:it’s very presumptious and ignorant of this woman and she has quite a lot of courage to state this to you.
She’s ignorant of the many reasons why people are overweight such as genetics,thyroid disorders,medications,pcos,chronic high cortisol etc…
It is not a simple “energy in energy out” for many people-they simply aren’t burning their fat stores.
She’s also neglecting that in some instances people have seen doctors and they haven’t helped them.
It’s amazing she thinks she’s doing you a favour…like as if you don’t know your own weight/circumstances.
It’s unfortunate that often parents of bullies can’t see (or won’t see?) the connection their behaviour/mentality has to their child’s bullying.
Bullying is usually treated like just a child problem but from what I’ve seen,in many cases the kid usually picks it up from somewhere -ie:either seeing their mother make mean comments about others or their parents being abusive to the bulky child themselve.
Can bully issue be fixed without addressing parent behaviour?
Or the “disorders” in general society and media and social media that say you (particularly women) must be very thin to be thought as pretty,desirable,even intelligent?
Op:it’s very presumptious and ignorant of this woman and she has quite a lot of courage to state this to you.
She’s ignorant of the many reasons why people are overweight such as genetics,thyroid disorders,medications,pcos,chronic high cortisol etc…
It is not a simple “energy in energy out” for many people-they simply aren’t burning their fat stores.
She’s also neglecting that in some instances people have seen doctors and they haven’t helped them.
It’s amazing she thinks she’s doing you a favour…like as if you don’t know your own weight/circumstances.
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CRV
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Just say “Mind your own business”. And then walk away.
(I’ve read your first post, that you are a nurse, you’ve been on playground monitoring etc, but not many others, so feel free to take or ignore my comment).
(I’ve read your first post, that you are a nurse, you’ve been on playground monitoring etc, but not many others, so feel free to take or ignore my comment).
This is an oxymoron. By definition overweight is not a healthy weight.
I wouldn’t approach anyone and tell them that I thought their kids were fat or whatever. It’s up to parents to look after their own kids.
That said, it is important to look after your body and to encourage kids to partake in a healthy amount of excrise as well as eating well. In this case the person was not being helpful but there are obvious benefits to not being overweight and in this day and age, we have that knowledge.
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Peeps
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I’m not sure I agree with this.
There are people with a genetic makeup that seems to make them look heftier and just bigger than everyone else. Yet, they are healthy according to the current parameters we use to ascertain health (labs, BP, etc.)
I think that BMI is kind of tricky, as many athletes have high BMI, but they are incredibly healthy e.g., the Williams sisters.
We see this a lot in my part of the country, where many farmers of German descent live. I had a great-aunt who was 5’10", and she was a big woman–not fat, just BIG! My dad told me that all men used to admire her because she could single-handedly capture a small steer and carry it across the barnyard!
I apparently inherited some of her traits, as I have a Size 12 shoe! I’m very self-conscious about my big feet. I also have huge hands for a woman (size 11 wedding ring). Yes, I’happen to be fat (slightly over 200 pounds), but in my younger years, I wasn’t fat, but I still wore a size large and had those big feet and hands. And my health indicators are actually pretty good! The biggest problem I have is this darned osteoarthritis in my left knee, which I believe actually started when I was in high school and college trying stupidly to be a runner–very very stupid for someone with my body build. That’s one reason I gained weight–as the knee hurt more and more in my younger years, I did less and less exercise. If only I had know, I could have been biking or doing a less “bouncy” version of aerobics (those were in style when I was a younger woman).
I am a big believer in analyzing children at early ages and determining what kind of body build they have and what sports and other activities would be healthiest for them. I think things like flat feet can be a predictor of future injuries and conditions (e.g., osteoarthritis), and I think it would be good if children with certain body types and physical indicators could be cautioned against running and high-impact sports and guided towards swimming, biking, and sports with less pounding on the joints. Other countries do this and I wish that the U.S. would give it a try. I think we would see less obesity, as people would grow up doing physical activities that don’t hurt, and they would be more likely to continue those activities in to adulthood and more likely to remain at a healthy weight throughout their lives.
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Tis_Bearself
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Not really. The “healthy weight” is an average. There are many reasons people can be overweight or underweight, a major one being genetics that fall outside the average range, another main one being body build. Kids can go through weight fluctuations due to growth. Also, the amount of someone being overweight or underweight matters, as does their eating and exercise habits.
It’s up to a doctor to determine if a person with weight outside the “normal” average range is healthy. That of course doesn’t stop every armchair weight/ health expert from having an opinion on it, but if you are not the kids’ doctor, you can’t make blanket pronouncements.
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I agree, but generally the term “overweight” refers to carrying an unhealthy amount of weight that could lead to health problems down the road.
I get that some people are bigger builds than others.
Look on the bright side, you’ll probably have better balance.
I think this is a good idea. That said, I would be inclined to allow kids to follow their interests in these areas.
I’ll be honest though, I’m a big believer in excerise and fitness and I really try to keep myself in good shape. I feel much better when I am excerising regularly and I also feel more confident and happy when my body is in shape. (And my wife is happy too!)
I just don’t understand why kids especially would be overweight (apart from some medical condition or drugs).
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Peeps
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Oh, I wish! Actually, I am incredibly clumsy and have a lot of trouble trying to walk on any uneven surface, or even walking on a floor with a busy pattern, and I am absolutely terrified of walking across an icy or even a wet surface. Really dislike pools because of the wet surfaces surrounding the pool! I have a tendency to lean and then stumble.Look on the bright side, you’ll probably have better balance.
I have had surgeries on each foot to fix broken posterior tibialis tendons (the flat feet contributed to the breaks). It’s no wonder I always had so much pain running when I was younger–those tendons were never meant to be subjected to that kind of pressure. If I had been wearing orthotics, I might have kept my knee longer.
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