More faithful at a younger or older age?

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I was a faithful child, no doubt. I think my faith dipped a bit when I was a teenager, and rebounded when I was a university student. Once I graduated from university, I felt I was more “open” to other ideas and I lost some faith. I was into political ideals and some of them took away from my belief in the Church and her infalliability.

When I got married, my faith rebounded again. Now a year and a bit later, it is rescinding.

I noticed when people have babies, their faith grows. It is such a blessing.

A lot of elderly and young people have such devotion. I think people my age are less devout. ( I am 27 ) .

What are your thoughts or experiences on this? I mean, obviously not everyone follows this pattern.
 
I admittedly have never strayed. I may have questioned, but never strayed. Now in middle years…I am more determined to get to heaven and take as many people with me as I can. To me, this is the best thing I can do for God…be faithful to Him as He has been faithful to me…through every step I ever take. Thank you God.😉
 
I would say that almost everyone’s faith is strongest when they are a child and innocent. Also, it is much harder to keep the faith as a teenager so that is also not uncommon. The university setting is definitely a great way to regain the faith since there are Newman Centers and stuff so that also is not uncommon. I suppose the faith can be easy to lose again with all the troubles after college and of course when you are old and close to death, the faith is going to come back out of necessity.
 
I believe our life is like a hill -

as young age, you are innocent and when you get older and older, you commit more sins. Finally, at some point in your life, you are wiser and mature, you will then try to live a faitful life, thus you commit less sins and grow more in spiritual life.

Sometimes, we have one hill to the next…and the next…our spiritual life is up and down, up and down. 😃
 
Kind of like a roller coaster. I went as a child because I had to, but I didn’t resist too much that I can remember. As a teen, I enjoyed the folk group music at a nearby parish. I was a pretty easy teen - not too rebellious, worked hard, no complicated relationships, stayed out of trouble (and most sin).

There was a beautiful chapel on campus, so I was at church every Sunday and went on retreats a couple of times a year (where I met my now-DH). But that was also where relationships with the opposite sex got complicated. But I thought I could practice “selective confession” and be alright. After I graduated from college, I eventually found another parish to call home. I don’t think I ever missed Mass on a Sunday in my 20’s.

I got married and subsequently got pregnant. The pastor that I loved at my parish was transferred, and we ended up someone I just couldn’t adjust to. I hung in for about a year, and then one Saturday - about 6 months pregnant - I decided I was too tired to go to Mass. I was nearly 30. I spent the next 6 years missing more Masses than I attended. I had 2 little active boys, and it was a disaster to go to Mass.

Then 9-11 happened. I was nearly 35. DH and I and our 2 boys were at Mass the following Sunday. We tracked down the old pastor that I had loved and missed and went to his parish out in the country. During Advent that year, I went to confession for the first time in 8 years or so and did NOT practice selective confession. It was awesome! I think I can count on one hand the number of Sundays my boys and I have missed since then. When my oldest was ready for First Communion and First Confession, we found a parish closer to home that was a good fit for us.

In my 40’s I discovered that my schedule could accommodate morning Mass several days a week. I love it! And when one of my wonderful boys asked me at Advent why we only go to confession once a year, I couldn’t answer him. So now we’re going every 3 months. (Baby steps for all you who go once or twice a month - we might get there eventually) .

Hopefully more faithful as we get older. Although there was a valley there for a few years.
 
I was a faithful child, no doubt. I think my faith dipped a bit when I was a teenager, and rebounded when I was a university student. Once I graduated from university, I felt I was more “open” to other ideas and I lost some faith. I was into political ideals and some of them took away from my belief in the Church and her infalliability.

When I got married, my faith rebounded again. Now a year and a bit later, it is rescinding.

I noticed when people have babies, their faith grows. It is such a blessing.

A lot of elderly and young people have such devotion. I think people my age are less devout. ( I am 27 ) .

What are your thoughts or experiences on this? I mean, obviously not everyone follows this pattern.
You my sister are a normal human being. As a child we learn about faith, and as we mature so must our faith. But remember we are talking faith, not knowledge. Faith is that simple, childlike, trusting, hoping belief in something we can’t prove.

The vitality of our faith is determined on how we focus on our relationship to God. If we don’t have that intimate relationship with Him, faith becomes very weak. If we are distracted by the world around us, our busy schedule or anything else, our faith suffers if we take out “eyes” off of God and concentrate so exclusively on those distractions.

So yes, those years we spend as post secondary students, be it college, trade school, etc., and the years we are starting families and careers can be terribly distracting and encourage us to take our eyes off the prize so to speak, eternal life. Robert Novak’s recent conversion came after years of struggle, study and discernment, but his actual conversion was finally triggered by a young woman he did not know who told him “life is short, eternity is long”. That caused him to pay attention to the most important thing we have to do in this life, and that is make it to heaven, and bring everyone we can with us!

I have said many times, draw a line that is infinite if you can, (goes on forever). Now draw a line on that line which represents in scale the length of your life on this earth. It cannot be anything but a microscopic dot, even if you live to a hundred. So how you “invest” that dot, determines how you will spend all of eternity, (that infinite line). But when you are up to your ears in career, babies, school lunches, improving the paycheck, the common struggles of life, it’s difficult to look so far into the future, but remember, life is short and eternity is long!

If you keep your focus on God, your faith will grow, and grow, and it will be easier to be faithful in your relationship with God. So yes, baby faith is sweet and innocent, but mature, adult faith is even more so. It’s those crazy years in between that cause all our troubles.

God Bless You All in Your Journey
 
Life is short, eternity is long.

I will remember. I have been thinking a lot about young people who have pssed away in car accidents and what not. It helps me focus on that fact. Life is short.

Isn’t it funny how we always forget that life is short? It is so human to forget and just get drawn into the daily grind.
 
When I was young I looked at faith like I had all the time in the world, now as an adult with grown children, and realizing that time is going by very fast in this life, I have had a renewal of faith and an intense searching for more and more of a closer contact with God. So for myself, at an older age I am more faithful, and so glad God has given me the time and wisdom to see things more clearly now.

Blessings
 
In The Screwtape Letters C.S. Lewis talks about this for a bit, where he has one demon explaining to another: (The ‘He’ or ‘The Enemy’ is Christ, because this was written supposedly be demons, remember, the ‘creatures’ or ‘them’ are human beings, and Wormwood is the demon being written to)

“He is prepared to do a little overriding at the beginning. He will set them off with communications of his presence which, though faint, seem great to them, with emotional sweetness and easy conquest over temptation. But He never allows this state of affairs to last long. Sooner or later He withdraws, if not in fact, at least from their conscious experience, all those supports and incentives. He leaves the creature to stand up on its own legs-to carry out from the will alone duties which have lost all relish. It is during such tough periods, much more than during the peak periods, that it is growing into the sort of creature He wants it to be. Hence the prayers offered in the state of dryness are those which please Him best. …He wants them to learn to walk and must therefore take away His hand; and if only the will to walk is really there He is pleased even with their stumbles. Do not be deceived, Wormwood. Our cause is never more in danger than when a human, no longer desiring, but still intending, to do our Enemy’s will, looks round upon a universe from which every trace of Him seems to have vanished, and asks why he has been forsaken, and still obeys.”

The Screwtape Letters, p39, softcover.
 
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