More Questions About Annulments

  • Thread starter Thread starter Nick003
  • Start date Start date
Status
Not open for further replies.
N

Nick003

Guest
Sigh… it seems that at my age, all I ever meet are divorced women. I did meet someone recently who is open to trying. I hope someone here can provide some direction as it is important to me that I get this right…

Her ex husband had his first marriage annuled in order to be able to marry her in the Catholic Church. Because he received an annulment to marry her, she believes that she can’t get one. Is that true?

Can she apply for an annulment even though her 1st husband was granted one to mary her?
 
Nick003 said:
Can she apply for an annulment even though her 1st husband was granted one to mary her?
Click to expand...
if she feels her marriage was invalid she can certainly apply for an annulment investigation, which will look at not only this circumstance but everything that pertained at the time of the marriage. Until then, she is not free to date anyhow so your interest is purely academic.
 
Again… the whole purpose f my posting here is to avoid making mistakes.

So based on your answer, she is not disqualified from the annulment process just because her ex was granted one to marry her.

I’m not asking you to tell me she will be granted, I’m simply asking if can apply?
 
The short answer is “Yes”, she can apply for an annulment.

Anyone can apply. Whether or not it is granted, is another story.
 
If she is willing to do paperwork, red tape , pay fees then no problem she will get an annullment.
 
After many attempts, I actually got a Roman Catholic Priest to speak with me on the subject. Believe me when I tell you that it got frustrating; seeking guidance on the subject and actually being blown off by the local priests on two occasions. But I did find one that seemed to care and this is what he told me:

The fee for the annulment is one which is used to cover the salaries of the tribunal personnel. If the individual applying can’t afford the fee, it will be waived.

The other thing I’m haveing a difficult time coming to terms with is that the assumption there is a guarantee; that for anyone can get an annulment for the right amount of money. I certainly hope THIS isn’t true.

If it is true, it completely invalidates the annulmentment process in my view.

Sigh… sometimes, doing the right thing can be so difficult.
 
Nick003 said:
I’m not asking you to tell me she will be granted, I’m simply asking if can apply?
Click to expand...
yes as has been stated, anyone who feels their marriage was invalid, once there is no chance of reconciliation (usually after civil divorce) can ask for an annulment investigation. She obviously has not even asked a priest about it, so is she even seriously considering it? That is her best next step, but all of this has nothing to do with you. She is a married woman so off your radar for the time being.
The other thing I’m haveing a difficult time coming to terms with is that the assumption there is a guarantee; that for anyone can get an annulment for the right amount of money. I certainly hope THIS isn’t true.
Click to expand...
There is no guarantee and nobody here who is knowledgeable implied there is, and I am sure the priest did not say so. So it is foolish to even think of beginning a romantic relationship with a lady who is not free to marry, and is not inclined to start annulment proceedings. No priest is going to answer your questions about a specific third party’s marriage. YOu will get nothing more than general answers from him, or us here. She is the one to be asking, not you.
KenChute said:
If she is willing to do paperwork, red tape , pay fees then no problem she will get an annullment.
Click to expand...
this is simply not true and unless this person claims to be speaking for the canon law tribunal is not a helpful source of information.

is there a broken record smilie? you will find a much fuller discussion of topics related to marriage and annulment on the liturgy and sacraments forum, including references to valid and helpful books and websites which may answer your own questions.
 
Nick003 said:
After many attempts, I actually got a Roman Catholic Priest to speak with me on the subject. Believe me when I tell you that it got frustrating; seeking guidance on the subject and actually being blown off by the local priests on two occasions.
Click to expand...
YOU are not the one with the prior bond. SHE is.

Therefore, SHE needs to make an appointment with her priest. A priest can only talk to you in generalities, which really are not going to help you.

YES, she can petition for a decree of nullity IF she believes she has valid grounds. Unless she petitions and is granted a decree of nullity, she is not free to date.

I suggest you not become emotionally attached to a woman who may not ever be free to date you.
 
Nick003 said:
The other thing I’m haveing a difficult time coming to terms with is that the assumption there is a guarantee; that for anyone can get an annulment for the right amount of money. I certainly hope THIS isn’t true.
Click to expand...
This is an old canard and a very old stereotype. It is almost like saying that Catholics worship Mary. :banghead:
 
Status
Not open for further replies.
Back
Top