How do they explain allowing abortions in certain circumstances? If we are spirit children before we are conceived, why would God had made the mistake of letting the girl get pregnant in the first place with one of his spirit children if it was just going to be killed? No matter how they look at it, it does not make sense.
Lamb of God Girly,
I hope you and your family are doing well. I had a painful case of food poisoning yesterday, all day. I couldn’t even get up. What a waste of a beautiful day!
It seems like your question here infers that God plans every pregnancy that ever happens, by the use of the words “God had made the mistake of letting the girl get pregnant…with one of his spirit children.”
I can see why one would have a concern about this, but I personally don’t think God plans every pregnancy that ever happens in the world. He set up the conditions to allow pregnancies to happen, and many women who end up not being able to have children question why God could be fair in that they can’t get pregnant when they are living their lives totally righteously. God allows things to happen related to childbirth that don’t make sense to us in terms of fairness. Adoption is a wonderful blessing for many families.
I hope you understand how strongly Mormons believe in agency. If a girl has been raped and she gets pregnant, her agency has been taken away on two counts–she has been forcibly attacked in a horrendous way, leading to a huge amount of fears and questioning “why me”–“why would God allow such a thing?” Secondly, for her to then be pregnant from that experience goes into a whole realm of new questions–if God is in charge of who gets pregnant and when, then why would He have “made” that happen? (He didn’t. He allowed it to happen as a result of a horrific, violent crime that He also allowed to happen.)
A girl in such a circumstance needs immediate counseling, and hopefully seeks it and receives some sense of comfort and strength to get through an extremely difficult period of time in her life. She is in crisis. Her life is in turmoil. Within that turmoil, she needs to be allowed the patience to grieve, the patience to heal (over a very long time), the patience to not feel like she has been singled out for punishment by God while she tries to understand why such a thing happened.
Amidst all that, I just don’t think it would be fair to that girl to have her think that an abortion would be sinful. I think it would be wonderful if she chose to carry the baby to term and put up with nine months of agony yet receive the kind and loving support of the community around her. But if she can’t bring herself to make that choice, given her situation, I think God is fully aware of her agony and He allows the full loop of consequences from the evilness of her attacker. The attacker bears the blame, completely. Christ atoned for even that sin, but their repentance needs to fully recognize that their crime caused horrific consequences for many people–their own soul, the girl’s entire life (very tough to get over), the girl’s family, and the baby.
Again, hopefully the girl feels enough emotional presence and self-respect to feel like she can carry the baby to term, but if she doesn’t feel like she can emotionally get through that, then “agency” has to be allowed without her feeling guilty about an unfortunate situation. The law of the land allows her to make either choice without feeling guilty. I think it is wisdom to allow her freely to make either choice, and God will understand. The spirit of that baby will be able to have a life within another body.
There is an agency called LDS Social Services within the LDS organization, that provides counseling and support in all of the many situations that deal with pregnancy issues, adoption issues, and many types of family counseling. Their services would be offered freely to such a girl and her family. Helping her feel God’s love in her life again would be their number one concern.