Look, I’m not commenting on what you believe individually. I know that you all hope for a continuance of the family; such a hope is ingrained in each of us, I think.
The problem is, though, that your wedding vows (and ours, too, if they are not ‘sealings for Time and all Eternity’ in a Temple) are very, very specific; the marriage lasts until death. Period. After one spouse dies, the other is free to marry in the Catholic church, even though a divorce does not so free him or her.
So I can’t help but think that, y’know what? I think the priest MEANS that when he says “until death do you part.” Why not? WE do when a couple is married by a Bishop outside Temple walls.
What I am asking, quite seriously, is what is it in Catholic teachings, scriptural or traditional, that contradicts that?
What we say to people is, look, we believe that marriage CAN last for eternity, that families CAN be ‘sealed’ together as a family unit, and we believe it so much that we officially say so when we marry people in the Temple. That’s what we believe. It is up to you to place that up against what you believe and decide which are ‘true.’
I would be very grateful, myself, if some one of you would give me some chapter and verse regarding this, because I am stuck with two things here: first, there are the standard vows and marriage practices of the CAtholics which seem rather clearly to indicate that marriage ends at death. Second, I have the arguments I am given BY others (including Catholics) that our practice of sealing for time and all eternity (Eternal Marriage that does not end at death) is wrong because there is 'no marriage or giving in marriage in heaven."
The standard interpretation of that is, well…all the bonds are dissolved, people aren’t married any more. No relationship with your wife/husband that you don’t have with every other soul in heaven.
At the same time, I am given the 'what makes you think we aren’t going to have our families in heaven? ’ question. My answer is, well, you guys just told me so.
What are we to think, guys, eh?
Hi Dianiad,
Good question. To me, not being married in heaven is not a problem. (Not because I don’t love my hubby and want to be with him forever…well, MOST of the time. ) Here is a quote from the CCC I have read the thread, but don’t recall if the quote on heaven is here. Personally, I believe that when we get to Heaven, we are not in family “units” per say. We are more in communion with each other as a body of believers without the sort of pack mentality needed to survive here on Earth. There won’t be any “us against them”. We will all be one big happy.
II. HEAVEN
1023 Those who die in God’s grace and friendship and are perfectly purified live for ever with Christ. They are like God for ever, for they “see him as he is,” face to face:598
By virtue of our apostolic authority, we define the following: According to the general disposition of God, the souls of all the saints . . . and other faithful who died after receiving Christ’s holy Baptism (provided they were not in need of purification when they died, . . . or, if they then did need or will need some purification, when they have been purified after death, . . .) already before they take up their bodies again and before the general judgment - and this since the Ascension of our Lord and Savior Jesus Christ into heaven - have been, are and will be in heaven, in the heavenly Kingdom and celestial paradise with Christ, joined to the company of the holy angels. Since the Passion and death of our Lord Jesus Christ, these souls have seen and do see the divine essence with an intuitive vision, and even face to face, without the mediation of any creature.599
1024 This perfect life with the Most Holy Trinity - this communion of life and love with the Trinity, with the Virgin Mary, the angels and all the blessed - is called “heaven.” Heaven is the ultimate end and fulfillment of the deepest human longings, the state of supreme, definitive happiness.
1025 To live in heaven is “to be with Christ.” The elect live "in Christ,"600 but they retain, or rather find, their true identity, their own name.601
For life is to be with Christ; where Christ is, there is life, there is the kingdom.602
1026 By his death and Resurrection, Jesus Christ has “opened” heaven to us. The life of the blessed consists in the full and perfect possession of the fruits of the redemption accomplished by Christ. He makes partners in his heavenly glorification those who have believed in him and remained faithful to his will. Heaven is the blessed community of all who are perfectly incorporated into Christ.
1027 This mystery of blessed communion with God and all who are in Christ is beyond all understanding and description. Scripture speaks of it in images: life, light, peace, wedding feast, wine of the kingdom, the Father’s house, the heavenly Jerusalem, paradise: "no eye has seen, nor ear heard, nor the heart of man conceived, what God has prepared for those who love him."603
1028 Because of his transcendence, God cannot be seen as he is, unless he himself opens up his mystery to man’s immediate contemplation and gives him the capacity for it. The Church calls this contemplation of God in his heavenly glory “the beatific vision”:
How great will your glory and happiness be, to be allowed to see God, to be honored with sharing the joy of salvation and eternal light with Christ your Lord and God, . . . to delight in the joy of immortality in the Kingdom of heaven with the righteous and God’s friends.604
1029 In the glory of heaven the blessed continue joyfully to fulfill God’s will in relation to other men and to all creation. Already they reign with Christ; with him "they shall reign for ever and ever."605
in Christ
Steph