Dang that’s drastic!
Yes, it does sound drastic. But if their conscience has led them to believe that this is the only acceptable option then good for them!
I highly applaud people like that who follow their conscience regardless of how tough it may make their own lives.Someone else mentioned that it’s an act of virtue when chosen together for the sake of their marriage, their love, and their love-making.
So do I. Unless it’s driven by fear of the consequences of the marital act, rather than trust in the Lord that He would protect them, if they act in good faith by using NFP during the wife’s fertile times.
Doesn’t confuse me at all. Aside from the heartbreak, repeated miscarriages can cause weakening of the walls of the womb making the possibility of hemorrhage and death very real…
Temporary abstinence out of love for his wife. Same thing with temporary abstinence following childbirth.
It doesn’t confuse me either but it doesn’t confuse me for a different reason. My reason being that why would you want to continue having sex during your fertile times or at all if you just know that in all likelihood, any child you conceive is just going to die? Would that not make a person very sad to know that they are engaging in sexual activity that will likely lead to the death of a person with a soul?
Don’t overlook the emotional toll of multiple miscarriages. We’ve suffered two in a row, and for the second I found my wife on the floor in a pool of blood holding our dead child. We are not capable of enduring that again. It took us a year to recover. I could never believe God wants us to play “miscarriage roulette” that way.
Well, my Grandmother had multiple miscarriages, two later in term (don’t know how many earlier) and also a stillbirth. This was the 1930’s-50’s, so they probably didn’t understand the causes. But she also had my Mother (after eight years of marriage), and eight years later, my Uncle. I may have aunts and uncles in Heaven or Limbo.
Why shut the door on the wife wanting to please and love her husband?
When I think of “love” thoughts of personal sacrifice, generosity, mutual faith prayer, child rearing, diapers, runny noses, family, duty, easily come to mind. Men understand the importance of these things in a stable and Godly marriage. But…
I’m very sorry for your losses. My wife and I have been trying to have children for 2.5 years with no luck yet. I often wonder whether we are failing to conceive, or losing the babies pre- or post-implantation.
Temporary abstinence. Then increase the other types of intimacy that neither spouse feels neglected.
I think she was just pointing out that this is a hypothetical, not a real situation.
Many of you seem to be really mean spirited people. I just don’t see what there is to be gained with all the attitude.An as an aside:
What make believe world does this wife come from…
Well Said!When I think of “love” thoughts of personal sacrifice, generosity, mutual faith prayer, child rearing, diapers, runny noses, family, duty, easily come to mind. Men understand the importance of these things in a stable and Godly marriage. But…
I would suspect that for most men like myself, these beautiful aspects of true mature married love keep us guys faithful and loving toward our wives, but have almost nothing to do with sexual arousal and are totally incompatible with with the intense physical aspect of the sexual experience. It seems that a lot of theologians have associated all physical aspects of our sexuality as “lust” and therefore sinful!
I tend to agree with you, but Catholics will talk about the authority of the church. I would even consider the Episcopal Church, but the ordination of practicing homosexuals and woman are hurdles that are unsurmontable to me.