Mortal sin

[Adamski]

Is it a sin or a mortal sin to lie so you can go to mass

I am a revert who left a faith I knew nothing about and my wife is very angry at me for going to mass.

I don’t tell her I’m going to mass and I go
I tell her I have a work appointment to go to bible study

When she finds out she blows up

This has been going on for 12 months and her anger is exculating
She comes from a baptist tradition but calls her self non denominational. She is filled with hate towards all others that don’t have her point of view. Plus she doesn’t see her own sin

She threatened to leave me today because my 3 year old told my wife when she was angry to ask Mary to talk to Jesus for her and the rosary could help her

 

[jeannetherese]

I hope you will take these concerns to your priest. The challenges are so complex that I fear this forum will not be able to provide adequate support. A few thoughts:
You and your wife and child have Christ in common-you can pray together.
Dishonesty can be so hard on a relationship-I wonder if there is a christian counselor (you might want to check into their comfort level with Catholic Christians before going) who could help you and your wife begin figuring out how to reach out to each other.
Given the immediate difficulties, I wonder if it might be possible for your priest to allow you to make a spiritual communion (listen to mass on Catholic radio/EWTN) and provide the sacrament outside of mass as you seek to work on your marriage and your faith. (Note: I do not know if this is possible in your situation but it would be a question to share with your priest. a relative of mine was given a dispensation for health reasons- I wonder if it would extend to this?) It would (along with confession) resolve the issue of greatest immediate concern.
Finding a spiritual director who understands your challenges and who will support your formation and your marriage (perhaps counseling over the phone) might be helpful so that you do not become too isolated from personal support as you continue in your formation.
Lining up a group of prayer warriors to storm heaven for you and your family might be helpful. Perhaps you could post a request on the prayer forum. i will be praying for all of you as of now.
Keep on praying. May God grant that your family grows ever closer to him. May he support and strengthen your marriage with his gifts of grace. May your wife find a means of moving beyond her fears and become open to all that the Church and Our Dear Lord offer. May you and your wife overcome these challenges and find peace and joy in Our Savior and in each other. Amen.

 

[flower_lady]

I’m sorry but I’m not denying my faith for anybody. She is your wife and she took a vow to love honor and obey her husband. I would not keep her away from the church that she loves but neither would she keep me away from mine. I would seek counseling and pray hard that this can be worked out, but if all else fails I imagine she would have to divorce me. I would have to defend my church at all cost. I hope I am not sounding unreasonable but that is just the bottom line to me. I can’t play games with my soul and with my God. Freedom of religion is one of the great things about this country that I love. She has no right to tell you what church you can or cannot belong to. I will pray for you right now. Brenda

I’d just like to add this. I’ts to bad people don’t resolve these matters before they get married. I don’t understand. Surely you discused this before you married. Catholics can marry a non-catholic but there is suppose to be an agreement I thought that the children must become catholic. If you were not married in the catholic church by a priest and you are a catholic is it legal according to the church. (I don’t think so). Again not positive on that. (That may have changed, I’m not sure).
Have a good day and God bless you both.

 

[Dorothy]

Is it a sin or a mortal sin to lie so you can go to mass

I am a revert who left a faith I knew nothing about and my wife is very angry at me for going to mass.

I don’t tell her I’m going to mass and I go
I tell her I have a work appointment to go to bible study

When she finds out she blows up

This has been going on for 12 months and her anger is exculating
She comes from a baptist tradition but calls her self non denominational. She is filled with hate towards all others that don’t have her point of view. Plus she doesn’t see her own sin

She threatened to leave me today because my 3 year old told my wife when she was angry to ask Mary to talk to Jesus for her and the rosary could help her

Follow your convictions! Pray for your wife, and suggest counseling if possible.
Our Lord Jesus Christ comes first, and He will help you deal with this.