Mortal sins or not?

[FredS]

Hey. I was hoping someone could help me sort out if two sins of mine would be considered mortal or not. I converted to catholicism this summer so i´m quite new to it all.

1. Some days ago I was hanging out with some friends of mine, also christians (but protestants). We were talking about singing, and I told a joke about that we should start a choir and naming it “sing for gods sake” (freely translated from swedish). The funny thing was supposed to be the double meaning, in swedish the phrase could mean both something like “sing for God”, but it´s not used that way since “for gods sake” is the swedish version of “for heavens sake”(Please note, I´m not meaning to take gods name in vain in this post, but I don´t know how to expalin it without typing it). Before I said it I thought about for a second if it could be a violation of the commandment, I decided it wasn´t, since I was not talking bad about God or meant any harm to him. I had no intention of sinning. Later I realised I had indeed used Gods name in a way that is not appropriate. Grave matter, yeah, taking gods name in vain is a grave matter. But full knowledge. Probably not, since I had no intention of sinning.or hurting God. I did not understand the gravity of it or even that it was wrong, even if I probably understood it could be wrong.
2. A couple of days ago I looked a girl in revealing clothes. I walked by her, and basically turned my head to see how she looked from the front. I basically immeditely turned my head back again, and focused on sometking else instead. Probably my conscience setting me straight again. So it did not escalate to any sexual thoughts or fantasies. I think I realised it would be wrong to look, but began to look anway, i did however not seek any sexual thoughts. So it was probably more curiousity. I realise i might have been in the territory near mortal sins, and certainly a sin, I did in some way objectify her. But is simple impure looks enough for it to be mortal, if it did not include any sexual thoughts or fantasies or “lusting”. Can I have saved it from being a mortal sin when i pretty much directly turned my head and mind back to other things, even if I did fall for the temptation to look in the beginning?

I will confess borth these sins, but´I tend to worry about things alot and can be a little scrupuolus, so running to confession every time I´m worried or unsure might not be the right thing for me, or even possible. I live in a small town in a non-catholic country, so the only priest near who could hear my confession is my local parish priest. When I only a week after my general confession went back to the confessional again, and confessed only venial sins (I was worried some could be mortal), he told me to try to confess no more than once a month. So if these are not mortal, I would like to wait a couple of weeks before confessing them.

What do you think? And, Please pray for me.
Sorry for any language mistakes, as you probably have noticed english is not my mother tongue.

 

[Corki]

If you are scupulous, do not post your sins here Listen only to a trusted confessor and do what he tells you.

 

[Trishie]

Fred, to commit a mortal sin one would knowingly and willingly consent. Even if it could have been serious sin, you didn’t play with God’s name with willful intent, therefore, no, it wasn’t mortal.
Actually, the same applies to your second temptation which wasn’t willful, and didn’t involve serious intent, nor did you persist, again, no ‘mortal sin’.

Please be at peace, you are learning to be a Christian, and obviously, are trying the best you can, with good intentions.
I wouldn’t right now decide that you are scrupulous. I think that until you learn more, you are unsure of how much you are doing is right.

Welcome to the Church, and welcome to Catholic Answers forums.

Warm regards,
and a prayer for you,
Trishie

 

[FredS]

Thanks for the answers. God bless you!

 

[fredms3]

Friend,

A one-on-one talk with a trusted priest I believe can give you a peaceful mind. You might fall being a scrupulous one which is not a good one.