I understand what you are going through and I think it seems to happen in every family.
I had a time of it for the last 7 years after my Brother and Dad died, it seems my Mom sucked the life out of me.
When I look back I see now that I created a monster and spoiled her very much.
I saw the most considerate, put everyone first Mom all my life, turn into a selfish spoiled child.
It was not until the last year I saw that I can’t make her happy, my Dad and Bro are gone and it is what it is.
I know she didn’t mean to, but my Holidays were hell.
So I changed things and said if you want to feel sorry for yourself, etc you are on your own. I can’t be put through hell anymore because you refuse to enjoy the holidays.
I told her I am not judging you, but I can’t live my life and put my family through this anymore.
Thing’s have changed! She now appreciates everything I do, and I got my Mom back.
You have to see as I did, that we are not God and cannot make someone happy. They make themselves happy with the help of God.
Don’t let her suck the life out of you anymore and quit taking responsibility for the others. Tell her to call them and ask them herself. That you are here, and can only take responsibility for yourself.
Trust me things will change.
Make the others step up to the plate, don’t let them off the hook anymore. Even if they don’t call or come, don’t let it be put on you. Just say I am here, and I love you!
Then call them and say Mom has questions! Make them explain to her why or whatever. Trust me it will be lifechanging!
