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[peace2u2]

If you loved your daughter you wouldn ot send her away at college where sex and drugs are rampant.

I will not continue this debate.

Your post is assuming that sex and drugs are rampant only at college. This is false. Sex and drugs are rampant everywhere in our American culture and glamorized in every form of media available to us. Oh and in case you are not aware, sex and drugs have infiltrated not just our colleges, but high schools, middle schools and even elementary schools - heck even our playgrounds are a breeding ground for these lifestyles. Dialoguing with our children about drugs and sex and the consequences of participating in those 2 lifestyles is what we need to be doing - not isolation.

What the world needs more of are young adults like confusedgirl with strong beliefs in walking in the path of the Gospel and being obedient to God’s will. If we isolate the ones we have at home and never let them venture past the front door then those on a path of destruction and living the culture of death will never know there is another path to take called the culture of life that young adults like confusedgirl are being called by God to be a witness too and not behind the doors of home to accommodate her mother’s needs.

The point of rearing children is to bring them up to become active participants in their communities and make a difference in the world whether the contribution is small or great.

 

[davetv]

…but I don’t think that the fights will ever stop. Moving out is probably for the best.

Once you move out it will be easy for you to disengage from fighting. You will have the freedom to leave before conversations turn ugly.

Plus love is the most powerful weapon against fighting. It may be hard to see at the moment but your relationship with you mom can heal and be better than it ever was. Plus as a Catholic you’ll have the added power of receiving Jesus in the Eucharist and that is a strength we can only begin to imagine .

God bless.

 

[confusedgirl]

I t sounds like you need to put some distance between the two of you I am am convert from the pentecostal church god and believe me my mother had control issues also but she eventually accepted it but i did have to put hundreds of miles between us to have a decent relationship mom and dad are passed but it seems as though you mother has a control issue like my mother had So my advice is to get out as soon as possible

Thank you for you advice it does help me come to a better conclusion

 

[confusedgirl]

Hello again my Canadian sister in Christ! I just thought I’d throw my :twocents: in:

My mother came to America from Canada when she was just 17 years old - by herself. She of course had a plan in motion (she was recently married (her mother had to sign for her to get married) and travelled alone by train to the biggest city in America and greeted her mother-in-law at Grand central with just a picture in hand as my father was still in the military service.

The point I’m trying to make is that this is YOUR decision to make. Come on people she is not 14! You should weigh the pros and cons which sounds like your doing. Almost 19 year olds leave their homes to live independent lives away from their parents everyday. Some go off to college, some get married and some join the military, and some leave just to have their own place and work. The evil that is out in the world is not going to go away no matter what age you are when you leave. Place your trust in Jesus and He will guide you and guard you. Leaving may also strengthen your relationship with your mother.

See if Catholic Charities or Catholic Relief Services can assist you with your needs like shelter and food before you just take off. Have a plan first. They may even assist you with a job or funds for college.

Also instead of verbalizing to your mother the journey that you have set forth to take in the Catholic Church, I would write a letter - she can’t argue with a letter but will have no choice to read your words and maybe then she can understand and respect that it is God who calls us to follow Him in His One, Holy, Catholic and Apostolic Church. Any person who converts to Catholicism or returns after being away, the majority any way will tell you that the Holy Spirit prompting them and lead them the entire way. You are a young lady, old enough to get married, vote and join the military service…you should be old enough to choose the church you want to worship God.

Besides if she is Protestant, then doesn’t she look at us Catholics as her brothers and sisters in Christ??? Which Church does she want you to worship God at ?

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Prayers offered up for you.
Peace in Christ.

Hello to you again thanks for your advice and thank you for acknowleging my age. As for charities I am going to be going back to my hometown back to where I occasionally attended church. I know they have a program plus all my friends are there for support so I’m not totally alone. Thanks for you very helpful advice. As for my mom she’s just so misinformed about catholicism that she just doesn’t want me to be part of it.

 

[confusedgirl]

Once you move out it will be easy for you to disengage from fighting. You will have the freedom to leave before conversations turn ugly.

Plus love is the most powerful weapon against fighting. It may be hard to see at the moment but your relationship with you mom can heal and be better than it ever was. Plus as a Catholic you’ll have the added power of receiving Jesus in the Eucharist and that is a strength we can only begin to imagine .

God bless.

I agree that moving out creates less conflict. She did say that if I want to be catholic I’d have to move out so I guess she’d want that. But I’m also worried that she won’t understand why am leaving. Its not because I resent her, but because I don’t think there will be any peace between us if I stay at home.

The Eucharist is the reason I want to be catholic. My dad was brought up catholic and eventually left so he just let my mom decide which faith we grew up in. My grandmother wanted to bring us up catholic but my mom wouldn’t hear of it.