Can you list some specific examples of what language is morally wrong within the context of this discussion?
In my opinion, comparing people to totalitarian government regimes of the past is morally wrong in all circumstances.
In my opinion, calling someone a baby killer is wrong. Sure, it’s true but it could be phrased in a less spiteful way. For example. One could state that killing a living person is murder and a human egg becomes a person at the moment of conception. You do not need to take the next step and actually call someone a baby killer.
I think that utilizing these types of comparisons and rhetoric, more often than not, fires up the choir but gets the opposition to stop listening. So if you’re utilizing language like this, I must wonder are you actually attempting to change hearts and minds or are you simply preaching to the choir? If it’s the latter then by all means go to it. But, if it’s the former then I fear that you may be helping the opposition more than our actual cause.
I heard the most beautiful plea to stop abortion I have, personally, been privy to. This week (not sure if it was yesterday or Monday) on talk of the nation they were discussing abortion and if it should be legal. They had medical professionals from both sides of the argument on the show. One woman called in and simply stated, “I had a late term abortion xx (sorry I don’t remember the exact number) years ago.” I had to listen to what she said four times before I could understand her because she was hysterical with tears. Here is a woman who can’t even mention the fact that she had a late term abortion without breaking into hysterical tears. That is the testimony that will help pro-life! These are the people I want out on the front lines! If someone says that abortion is a choice and it is not hurting anyone, how about this woman? How about this living breathing victim of abortion? This poor woman can’t even think about what’s she’s done without loosing her composure. You want to talk about painful and heart wrenching decisions. I have not seen one person who chose life that was brought to hysterics by the mere mention of it many years later.
I chose life. I put my daughter up for adoption. Does it hurt today? Sure it does. Somewhere out there is a beautiful 15 year old girl that I haven’t seen since she was three days old and I would love nothing more than to hug and ask how her day at school was. But, she is alive. And, this means a chance that someday I will have a relationship with her. If I had not chosen life, then not only would I have the death of my child to deal with I would have to live knowing that I chose my child’s death.
So, when I ask people not to use words full of hatred and vitriol I am speaking as someone who chose life. I am asking as a member who is firmly entrenched within your camps. I am not trying to weaken our efforts or in any way lessen the gravity of the situation. I am telling you that when you use certain types of language to describe people and their beliefs this language forces them to take offense: they stop listening. If the opposition stops listening, you have lost. It is really that simple. We have got to keep them listening if we want to stand any chance of changing their hearts and minds.
This story, and others like it, are what we should be trying to get out there. These are the stories that change hearts and minds. These are the people that will help our cause.
Do you disagree? Do you think that there is no language which is inappropriate in this, or any, case? If any language, so long as we view it as true, is okay on our side does this rule apply to the opposition as well? Do you think it is appropriate to say anything we like, so long as it’s true, without regard to the person we are talking to or about or their feelings? In your opinion is there a line that we cannot cross without leaving the area of love, without leaving the golden rule behind, or is everything fair game?