All of that being said, he still receives “hate” emails, occasionally with bad language about his music selections or other choices. He said that he hears from other music ministers that they get the same negative and sometimes abusive “feedback” from parishioners no matter where they are at liturgically on the spectrum.
I pray the OP’s husband survives!
LOL - he IS surviving… barely! (God’s grace in action!)
Never thought about the email thing. Thank GOD our parish doesnt post his email - or surely he’d have the same emails of ‘admiration’ as the rest

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We have a very multi-cultural church. 50% black, 30% hisp. and 20% white. Also, it is approx 50% Charismatic. we LOVE love LOVE our church!
This being said, here’s story…
We have 4 weekend masses… 4 different MM’s - one for each mass (other parish MM’s shriek when they find this out). There isnt one ‘head’ music director… if there are issues with the music ministry, our Pastor will call a meeting with the 4 MM’s for discussion. Each MM has their own charism’s that are displayed as a MM - also, all 4 are the lead singers and play the guitar. They have other members that play piano or other instruments and singer in the choir.
All four MM’s are given a quarterly publication of Today’s Liturgy to help select their music. They use this only as a guide . They like the freedom of feeling the Spirit move and being able to change music during the mass to fit what the people need or Priest has talked about in his homily… and many times the priest has asked for certain songs to be played at certain times.
Mike - my husband - is the youngest, 37. The other 3 are older (50 - 60ish range) and have much more experience as MM’s. Couple of times Mike has gone to his peers for questions over songs being liturgically correct for the season.
Other then singing and playing guitar with the other 3 MM’s for many years (at different times), Mike has had NO ‘formal’ training or education for this position. He’s a convert from the Baptist faith and was taught early on how to sing and harmonize.
Anyway, he just wanted some (name removed by moderator)ut from other MMs around the country - to hear what y’all endured to fulfill the position!
You guys have givin him some good research and reading!!! Thanks a gazillion.