My 15-year-old daughter thinks she's a boy

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My daughter went through a similar phase where she was talking about a same-sex attraction, and also dressing like a boy etc. I simply reminded her that God does not permit such things, and I read the following quote from Scripture to her:

“Know you not that the unjust shall not possess the kingdom of God? Do not err: neither fornicators, nor idolaters, nor adulterers, nor the effeminate, nor liers with mankind, nor thieves, nor covetous, nor drunkards, nor railers, nor extortioners, shall possess the kingdom of God.” 1 Corinthians 6:9-10

I told her I would never accept this and she needed to stop it. She tried to tell me she was born this way, and I replied, “That is like saying you were born a thief and have no choice but to steal”. She was not happy with my reply but after that I left her alone and just prayed for her for a very long time. She eventually snapped out of it. It was a terrible, embarrassing experience. Pray hard about it.
 
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Personally I cannot accept a view that contradicts what I know from Church teaching about God’s plan for men and women.
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This is a scientific matter not a Church teaching.
Just as is the case with homosexual tendencies - which the Church admits it doesn’t understand the origin of. It does not assert they are solely due to psychology and hence may be reversed.
Therefore the experts may be correct in asserting that for some the issue has a biological genesis - as looks to be the case with Gender Dysphoria for some also. It may essentially be a birth “defect” for some and “retraining” will never work.
 
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This is completely inaccurate with no science to back it up. Do your research and don’t fall for junk science.
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Would you support your view with the best peer review research available. It is not my understanding of the state of medical play which is that there is no clear evidence confirming either hypothesis. So neither can be ruled out and it would be dangerous to pretend with your own daughter that it is.
 
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Hormones and their effects on the developing brain of the fetus is still not quite well understood. The male or female brain is not just a function of DNA but of the intrauterine environment as well.

Hormones do play a part on how the brain develops before we are born and during adolescence.
 
Yes that is my understanding of the literature also.
It is possible the dysphoria is irreversible…as is the case with homosexual inclinations.
 
Let it happen naturally. That’s all I’ll say. I don’t want to stand by and watch another family be torn apart because of issues with acceptance. Blessings.
 
Let it happen naturally!!?? So, give in to human respect before defending God’s laws?
 
Angel, I think you are being a little rough on the dad, here. Frankly, this day in age, when kids are killing themselves or others, (not that she would) I don’t think it is horrible to look through your children’s media accounts or journals if you are worried about them. In saying that, I don’t think I would tell your daughter you looked in her journal and you know what she is thinking. Rather, be there for her, attentive towards her, and make sure she is loved and secure. She obviously is having sexuality issues. I wonder if she thinks she is a boy because that helps her deal with the same sex attraction? Kids today are really getting confused sexually. God bless you!
 
bmaz, Thanks. I talked to a priest about the situation and he didn’t seem too concerned that I looked at her journal. I have taken into consideration that her journal may be a way of working through ideas in her head and have been more focused on just spending more time with her and engaging her in conversation even more. I have to say that, as I interact with her, even though she may not fit a lot of the typical cultural norms for women in terms of wearing makeup and whatnot, I don’t buy that she has a “male brain” even if that is a real thing. She doesn’t interact with me at all the way a man or boy would. I am hoping she will be able to realize that femininity is not a one-size-fits-all thing, and that however unique she might be among women, God created her female for a reason.
 
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Being feminine is built in. It does not automatically go away or get lost if a girl expresses interest in playing sports or building robots instead of being interested in shoe 👠 shopping or fashion.

It is part of who she is and how it is expressed will differ from individual to individual. An analogy would be like ice cream. Different flavors but still all ice cream. 🍦
 
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