My boyfriend can't naturally have kids due to an injury

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He was injured in the military and is unable able to have kids unless its through IVF. How do I deal with this? Would we be able to have sex if we get married?
 
You should discuss this with your priest. No one here can answer these questions for you.
 
You can have marital sex, pray, adopt and seek medical treatments in line with Catholic morals and ethics. (Not in vitrio)
 
Offering prayer to God for you both.

Perhaps consider whether your boyfriend may benefit fro asking advice from his doctor regarding your questions.
Ask him if you may accompany him, because he may need your sport in this matter of deep importance to him.
 
Since there wouldn’t be a possibility of kids, I thought that it might not be moral. How would that be different than contraception?
 
Yes, he has to be open to life, which means not working to prevent pregnancy. So that if God decided to work a miracle as in the case of Abraham, there’d be no human interference. (Although NFP is acceptable)
It would be important to discuss this with your boyfriend and your priest. He would need to know that IVF would not be a moral option, but that you could adopt. You would need to know how he feels about that.
 
You can also think if you really want to marry him given that you would never have children, together (unless you wishe and succeed in adopting them). Nobody pressure you to marry him.

And he has to be sure that he wants to do: marry you and never have children, or marry a secular woman who have no objection to this and try to have children artificially? (if he doesn’t share your bioethical views).
 
Infertility is not an impediment to marriage. Impotence is, so, as long as he can complete the marital act you may discern marriage.
 
I would also encourage you to do some research. Many doctors go straight to IVF as a solution because it’s the easiest to prescribe without having to necessarily understand the root causes of a person’s infertility. Talk to your priest. See if there is someone at the diocese in the Marriage and Family office that can point you towards a doctor who might be able to find other options.
 
Are you sure (speaking to anyone, now, with any knowledge of catholic reproductive law)…are.you sure IVF is forbidden, if the husband’s sperm, and only his, is used? I never heard about it, one way or the other

But, in many such conditions, the male partner is not producing sperm…you need more info. From doctor and priest!
 
Well, you’ve provided reading material…for the next few weeks or so. I did read about the high mortality rate!

I was really ‘thinking out loud’ that maybe the sin being linked to having one or more man, not married to the mother, involved.
 
The action divorces the procreative from the unitative first and foremost.
 
You only quickly ned to read your Cathechism of the catholic Church to begin with.
You would learn that any means to reproduce outside of a marital embrace is immoral.
That included artificial insemination and IVF -whether the adults who ask for them are the biological parents or not. And what come from fom this techniques, surrogacy, embryo adoption etc.
 
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