My dad bought me a fidget spinner (I'm a female in her 30's)😮

[Elena321]

This may seem trivial but is there anyone who can provide me with some insight regarding how i should perceive this.
I’m a woman in her 30’s of European background…and…my dad yesterday randomly bought me a… fidget spinner.
It’s the thought that counts,yes, but I’m a bit confused why he would think this is something that I would be interested in,maybe when I was 10 I would have been.
Does he think I am a child?

Do I pretend to like it?
Do I risk hurting his feelings and tell him it is more for a child etc?

I should mention,my dad is very intelligent and of sound mind so there is nothing like Dementia going on here.

What am I meant to make of this please?

 

[johnnyc176]

Well my daughter’s boyfriend has one and he is in his late 20s. I remember back in the 70s pet rocks were big so I don’t think age is any indication of how stupid we can be or how it can be transferred across generations.

 

[Hoosier_Daddy]

This may seem trivial but is there anyone who can provide me with some insight regarding how i should perceive this.
I’m a woman in her 30’s of European background…and…my dad yesterday randomly bought me a… fidget spinner.
It’s the thought that counts,yes, but I’m a bit confused why he would think this is something that I would be interested in,maybe when I was 10 I would have been.
Does he think I am a child?

Do I pretend to like it?
Do I risk hurting his feelings and tell him it is more for a child etc?

I should mention,my dad is very intelligent and of sound mind so there is nothing like Dementia going on here.

What am I meant to make of this please?

He bought you something nice.

Your thinking it an offense or insult is odd.

Say “thanks dad”. And move on.

PS. Ever heard the expression ." Idle hands are the devil’s workshop"?

 

[Elena321]

He bought you something nice.

Your thinking it an offense or insult is odd.

Say “thanks dad”. And move on.

PS. Ever heard the expression ." Idle hands are the devil’s workshop"?

Maybe it is odd,but how should I think about it?
What is he thinking from his end?

 

[johnnyc176]

Maybe it is odd,but how should I think about it?
What is he thinking from his end?

He probably just thinks you will enjoy it because he knows it’s a fad. One time my Dad brought home a Led Zeppelin album for me and I know he did not like that music

 

[revertgirl]

I wouldn’t read too much into it. If you want to gently make a point, you could jokingly say, Thanks dad–you know I AM an adult, riiiight? And then laugh it up.

My dad has bought me and my kids all kinds of weird kitschy stuff over the years. He’s kind of weird and kitschy himself, lol. I’ve gotten used to just being gracious about, saying thanks and making it “disappear” (donating stuff) after a while. It’s the thought that counted. He saw something that he thought would make you smile. That’s all that matters.

Good luck!

 

[BoomBoomMancini]

Maybe it is odd,but how should I think about it?
What is he thinking from his end?

Maybe he thinks it will help you calm down and stop over analyzing everything. Those things are a few bucks at the grocery store checkout line, he probably didn’t think about it too hard one way or another.

 

[Crusaderbear]

At least he thinks about you…they are on every convienience stores counter by the register, an impulse purchase…I hope you said thank you!

 

[SwizzleStick]

This may seem trivial but is there anyone who can provide me with some insight regarding how i should perceive this.
I’m a woman in her 30’s of European background…and…my dad yesterday randomly bought me a… fidget spinner.
It’s the thought that counts,yes, but I’m a bit confused why he would think this is something that I would be interested in,maybe when I was 10 I would have been.
Does he think I am a child?

Do I pretend to like it?
Do I risk hurting his feelings and tell him it is more for a child etc?

I should mention,my dad is very intelligent and of sound mind so there is nothing like Dementia going on here.

What am I meant to make of this please?

It would appear that you are overanalyzing this. A lot. I would take it as a trinket gift, say thank you and move on. My son bought one for a friend of his because he knew the friend is not into fads and finds the fidget spinner particularly useless, so my son did it as gentle teasing and they are both teens. In any event, this is not something on which to expend too much time, energy or thought. Say thanks to Dad and maybe laugh with him about both of you being able to keep up with the kids and the current “in” things.

 

[marymmma]

How wonderful your father is for buying you that. He needs a big hug and thank you. My father never showed his love for me in that way but I never doubted his love regardless. He worked hard and provided for us as well as he could. What I would give to have him here today so I could give him a big hug.

And I wouldn’t read anything into him buying that for you. They are big with adults. I know several people in their 20’s that have them, three in their thirties and one in her fifties. And they all love them. My counselor has five of them spread out along her desk. She thinks they are great!

I would show him the love and appreciation just for thinking of you this way. It has nothing at all to do with him thinking of you as a child. I think you are very fortunate!

 

[Irishmom2]

Sometimes people give gifts that we don’t need or want. You should have said thanks for thinking of me dad, and left it at that.

As others have said, you are overthinking this. There is probably no negative or hidden intent on his part.

It’s certainly nothing that would bother most people enough to go online and make a thread about…

 

[midori]

My aunt bought me a toilet clock. It flushes on the hour…

You say, “Thanks for thinking of me. That was really thoughtful. I love you.”

 

[Phemie]

We just attended an event where the average age of participants was probably late thirties, early forties. We all got one in our gift bag. Not something that particulaly thrilled this 63 year old but my furry feline “nephew” thought it was great.

 

[bmaj]

Sounds like he was just thinking you might enjoy the current “fad” when he saw it in the store! Apparently folks of all ages are buying them as something to “pass the time,” possibly while waiting in line, at a doctor’s office, etc., or even as a conversation piece. Maybe he’s still young at heart and is hoping you’ll stay that way as well. Not a bad idea for any of us. Try to have some fun with it, and be sure to thank him for his caring gesture! You’ll probably treasure it one day when he’s no longer around.

 

[MaryT777]

He probably just thinks you will enjoy it because he knows it’s a fad. One time my Dad brought home a Led Zeppelin album for me and I know he did not like that music

This was my first thought as well.

 

[Joe_5859]

Maybe it is odd,but how should I think about it?
What is he thinking from his end?

The only one who can answer that is your dad. So your options are to either ask him and find out or simply let it go.

I’m in my 30s, too, but I play with my kids’ fidget spinners more than they do. I think it’s kind of relaxing.

 

[1ke]

What is he thinking from his end?

Elena,

That’s the thing… WE don’t know what he is thinking. HE knows what he is thinking.

You have to ask him. Not us.

Anything posted here is useless speculation on his frame of mind, motivation, or intent.

 

[Belshazzar]

I can’t tell you how many times I’ve bought some worthless trinket for someone because I thought it was cool. You know how Dads always hog the electric train set he bought one of the children at Christmas and spends hours setting it up and playing with it. Meanwhile the other kids lose interest and leave Pops alone with the new toy. Same thing here, I’m sure. He bought it because he would like to have it for himself. I’m guilty of doing the same thing, I suppose. Then again, maybe your dad was a little short on $$$. I hear that excuse in my family a lot.

 

[Sailor_Kenshin]

This may seem trivial but is there anyone who can provide me with some insight regarding how i should perceive this.
I’m a woman in her 30’s of European background…and…my dad yesterday randomly bought me a… fidget spinner.
It’s the thought that counts,yes, but I’m a bit confused why he would think this is something that I would be interested in,maybe when I was 10 I would have been.
Does he think I am a child?

Do I pretend to like it?
Do I risk hurting his feelings and tell him it is more for a child etc?

I should mention,my dad is very intelligent and of sound mind so there is nothing like Dementia going on here.

What am I meant to make of this please?

I’m older than you, and a friend bought me one.

This is the kind of fad thing I would NEVER buy for myself, but y’know what? I’m delighted she did. And I’m having fun!

 

[tawny]

Maybe he thinks it will help you calm down and stop over analyzing everything. Those things are a few bucks at the grocery store checkout line, he probably didn’t think about it too hard one way or another.

Agree, it is suppose to be a stress reliever & not just for kids. Much along the lines of those Kush Balls in the 80s. Just try to remember, it’s the though that counts.