My dad watches porn, will he go to hell?

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@Katie777 I’m sorry for the loss of your mother.

Eternal rest grant unto her, O Lord,
And let Perpetual Light shine upon her.
May her soul and the souls of all the faithful departed,
through the mercy of God,
rest in peace,
Amen.
 
I’m awfully sorry to hear about your mother. I will be praying rosaries and novenas for her soul and try to offer a mass for her. I didn’t take any offense to your reply, I understand what you’re going through right now. You and your family will be in my prayers. Stay strong and God bless you ❤️❤️❤️
 
Thank you for your kind response ❤️ He is fully aware of what he is doing, the father at my church constantly speaks about the grave consequences of watching pornography and he is doing it in an incognito browser so he must know. I pray that he will change every day. God bless you during these difficult times 🙏💞
 
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Thank you for your kind response ❤️ He is fully aware of what he is doing, the father at my church constantly speaks about the grave consequences of watching pornography and he is doing it in an incognito browser so he must know. I pray that he will change every day. God bless you during these difficult times 🙏💞
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I see. Still, though, he may have an addiction or other mitigating factor that diminishes his culpability. What I’m trying to say is that while we can judge an act as gravely sinful, we cannot know or judge where a person stands with God.

You sound like a very loving soul. Continue to pray for your dad, and I will also pray for him.
 
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Maybe. But as this topic is very sensitive, sexual by nature, it may be hard for many people to drop a hint to someone so close as a father. I would never dare myself.
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Oh I’d tell my dad to get his butt to the confession box if i discovered that. Thankfully I can’t imagine my dad doing that.
 
You could put a screen saver on the computer (assuming it’s a shared one) with a picture of Our Lady, or the crucifixion.
You could make the first tab that comes up, be a website that focuses on escaping porn addiction.
Just a couple of thoughts.
 
I would suggest that it is not us who pass judgement on others it is God. I would suggest that you pray for your father and recommend him to the mercy of God.
 
That’s a really good idea, but I don’t know the password to his computer and he’d be extremely mad if I touched his phone. He doesn’t want anyone on there. I also found out that he’s part of a pornography group chat (disguised as a work one) with his friends where they send very inappropriate videos and discuss about women they find attractive…while being married with kids. He doesn’t interact much on it, but the videos on there are saved to his gallery. I found out he’s been watching pornography for 4 years now. I don’t know what to do anymore…I feel very very bad for my mom 😦
 
Thank you for your response. I’m trying very hard to make time to pray for him but my disappointment gets the best of me and I feel hopeless…even to the point where I feel like prayer won’t help him. I’m really sad about this whole thing. I’ll be praying for you, God bless. 🙂
 
Another suggestion: get him a book on breaking the addiction and leave it by his computer. There are a bunch of them, such as this one.
At least then he would know that his problem is not a secret any more.
Of course, that might blow the whole secret wide open and your family’s life might change drastically. But what have you got to lose? It kind of depends on your age and other factors.
Maybe discuss this with a counselor at your school. They might have some good suggestions.
 
It’s good to remember that porn is very wrong but humans are weak and sometimes fall into sins they wish they had never started. Just because your father watches porn does not mean he is awful. He might be really struggling and wishing to overcome his sin. If he doesn’t confess it, he might feel so ashamed and not want to tell anyone. So try to be understanding. Help him by loving him and praying that he will find the strength to overcome it. We all have our weaknesses. I’m not excusing the sin, just reminding you to love your father and not jump to conclusions.

I don’t know your father so perhaps I’m wrong, but it’s good to try to be understanding before making a judgement.
 
Hi there,

I’m so sorry to hear that about your father. We, as Catholics, are not supposed to judge others eternal souls ( where they ultimately end up after death ), however, we are supposed to lovingly reprimand others on how they act because we Desire them to be in union with God. The problem is that watching porn is a MORTAL sin. Mortal sins cut us off from God. If we die in the state of mortal sin ( being cut off from God ) we go to hell. This is a teaching of the Catholic Church. Someone in moral sin is also not to receive the eucharist because receiving in a state of mortal sin is also ANOTHER mortal sin.

What I’ve said sounds very bad. And it is! But God has given him grace to break this addiction. You. You as a Catholic have a responsibility to help him now BECAUSE you know about it. You need to ask yourself what would you do to see your dad in heaven. What would you risk. I have had a similar situation where I ended up talking to the person about it though I knew they would end our relationship over it. I loved them more than myself and I choose the hard road. You need to take to prayer and ask God for His will and His grace to do it. Pray for your fathers conversion. Fast for his conversion. Offer masses for his conversion. And do what is needed, even if that means talking to him about it, for your fathers salvation. You do not want to make it to heaven and see your father in hell! Nor do you want to face God on judgement day and God ask you “I trusted you with helping your father, why didn’t you?” . It is not dishonoring your father by trying to save his soul. Be Bold for God.

I will be praying for you both
 
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The best thing to do is the hardest thing to do. Tell your mother and get the whole family together to bring it up to him and express your concerns. When we have family, friends, and others close to us living lives of wickedness, we should, with care, bring it up and make it known to them. We should be very concerned about other’s souls.
 
You should look up talks from Fr. Isaac Mary Reylea on YouTube. He has given multiple talks about Catholic masculinity and sexual sins. His talk about men in crisis and his other talk about young men: purity & eternity talk about these issues and might provide more understanding on the topic. He is a no nonsense priest who gives sound advice that is based strictly on Catholic teaching.
 
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