My daughter just came out as bisexual!

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How can a 13 year old define her sexuality? At 13 I thought Minnie Mouse was cute. And she is a mouse!
 
Some 13-year-olds are probably very certain of their sexual orientation and other things, such as what they want to do in life.
However, I’d say the majority of them are still figuring things out.
It doesn’t help that hormones are usually running amok at that age and adding to the confusion.
 
Normally I’d agree but we live in a city and just seems that everything is highly sexualised. She’s not allowed but many of the girls her age would wear very adult looking clothes inspired by music videos etc. Also big into nightclubs (pre-covid19) but we don’t allow her attend them but they inspire the “fashion” etc.
 
Thanks, I always think you do better with a carrot than a stick. Besides which she is my daughter (and I live her very much) maybe the fault lies in how I raised her and not what she is at present.
 
She has two cousins that are bisexual as well, one has seemed to settle on men the other is a bit odd and I think likes the attention.
 
Most of us live in cities that are highly sexualized. It hard as a parent to keep kids from it. But we should work hard for purity. And we also should direct our children in age appropriate exposures and freedoms.
 
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maybe the fault lies in how I raised her
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I know every parent thinks this, but please don’t. The tone of your posts suggests you are a loving and caring parent. Some of the other parents who post here in a much more strident manner are the ones who I think might need to ask themselves the question. They won’t though.

I am sure my mother secretly blamed herself when I quit going to Mass and did other things that good Catholics don’t do.
It wasn’t her fault. The world is just complicated.

Love your daughter. I will pray for you both.
 
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As an aside: I do commend you for not treating your daughter as I was treated. I was shamed, humiliated, and mocked by my mother when I tried to come out to her. Our relationship has been greatly strained ever since. It is nice to see a parent, even if they don’t approve of the possibility of a same-sex relationship, still treat their non-straight child with dignity.
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To be clear, I don’t think anyone is saying that it is a phase. This girl may indeed identity as bisexual for the rest of her life, and if she is then she deserves the same respect and dignity as anyone else.

People are just saying that for some kids, the ink isn’t exactly dry at 13. Things are still coming into focus.
 
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13 is a really difficult age for girls. Personally it’s was my least favorite age of all to parent. LOL. As it is, I wonder if she even realizes exactly what bi-sexual would mean. I say this because a friend of mine has a daughter who said the same thing when she was about 14 or so. It ends up, with conversation, my friend realized her daughter actually was more asexual. In conversations, my friend found out her daughter basically said she didn’t feel pulled one way or another but also, neither. And that she wanted to be able to hold hands with either guys or girls - and that because she didn’t feel a strong pull towards boys, she was assuming (because social media, movies, etc. were pushing her so hard) she assumed she must either be gay or bi. Ends up she was and is more asexual than anything else and is now turning 20 and still that way.
 
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It seems to be a trendy thing, trying to fight it makes it worse. This is a scene I know fairly well - 17 yo girl here.
 
Yes discovered recently many of her friends/class mates are bi or gay and LGBT is everywhere. Hopefully it will pass.
 
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