My ex fiance is trying to use her pregnancy against me

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So i have messed up. I was having a time in my
Life where i stopped going to church and regularly praying
Because i had premarital sex with a girl and for that year
And a half of my life i thought i loved her and i thought she
Loved me. It wasnt until after she had cheated on me for the third time
That i realized she wasnt good for me and i was so blind 😞 but
Im not with her anymore and she wasnt a catholic. She turned out to
Be lying to me and cheating on me for a couple of times an i tried to make
It work out of my love for her but after we got engaged she told
Me she was pregnant and that the baby wasnt mine because
She woke up after a party with someone else. I broke up with her
And i was hurt but i am over it now, and i even found an amazing
Young woman who i had know for a while and she is Catholic and
We have so much in common and she is literally the girl of my
Dreams. About two months later we go on a few dates but the girl
I was talking to was curious as to why my ex treated me so poorly
So she asked her, and my ex got very defensive and started
Name calling at her and called her a stuck up Catholic and other
Names and rubbed it in her face that she took my virginty
Which i felt guitly about and went to confession for. And during the heated
Conversation she also said that the baby she was carrying really is mine
I think she sounds like a jealous ex that doesnt want me to move on,
But if the baby really is mine i really dont know what to do. I am pro life
And against abortion but i know there is no way i could marry a person like
Her, and im scared that she will raise the baby, as i feel the way she treated
Me she probably wont have a good household to raise her baby in.
She also told me she recently got married to someone else… I have
Been praying for my ex, hoping she could tell me the
Truth, and for her baby that whoever the real father is
That it will have a good home with good parents to raise it, and
Ive been praying for the girl of my dreams, because she really liked me
Alot and considered me to be worthy of marrying someday
And i was looking forward to a life with her as well.

My ex and i are 20 years old and the girl i was dating is 18
I know we are very young but i was hoping i could get prayers for some guidance 🙏
I have realized my ex was not the right person for me to marry
But i think i figured it out too late :confused: and she is trying to get child
Support out of me and im very bewildered by all of this
 
Certainly, you biffed it and feel the pains of sin. I call this pain “Heartbreak”. You are able to have contrition for for you part. Going to confession does repair the wrong doing you did against God by breaking His comandments. The ripple effect of this sin wiill cause you pains of sin for a while. You must examine your conscience more, and goto confession more. The sacrament of Reconcilliation does two things: forgives sins, & gives divine grace to avoid future sin.

Now, you created a physical bond with this woman (claiming to hold your baby). This bond does not disapear with a wish. Your child or not, you took responsability for her physical, mental, and spiritual well being repeatedly for a year and a half. Now that a life is created your responsability has doubled (regardless of DNA). Turn to St Joseph in ferverent prayer for intercession on how to uphold your responsibilities (physical, mental, & spiritual).

Failure to do so justifies abortion. You can say you are pro life, but this would be only in words and not actions. Actions to support life would be to take the ugliness from the woman you had relations with. Actions to support prolife would be to help heal this woman’s mental and spiritual view of life. Lastly, if called by God to act as a Father for this baby (regardless of DNA) would model St. Joseph. How can catholic men step up against the cultur of death? They can lead, guide, and protect women … Even those women who are away from God.
 
Praying for you.

I would recommend seeking some counseling through your local Catholic Social Service agency. The counselor will be able to help you sort through these issues and will do so with a Catholic perspective.

Glory be to the Father, to the Son, and to the Holy Spirit. Amen.
 
If she has been sleeping around you should get a DNA test done to prove it is yours, now if this is the case and the child is yours you have to step up to the plate and give the child as much financial support as you can, we all have to be responsible for our actions, after all you are the Dad, and don’t want to be considered as a dead beat dad. If your working that is fine, if not you will have to get a night job in order to keep your child in food and clothes, its great that you have found out the mother is not for you in marriage as this would have caused untold problems if she could not be faithful.

Go to Confession, start anew, God forgives all Our sins, but financial you will have to shape up to for your child which you helped bring into this world and is an innocent little child, with no Dad to bring him up. This is sad.
 
Get a DNA test first and foremost if this child is yours please make an effort to be a part of its life he or she will need your catholic faith to bring it up in the church. And if she married another man he will be considered the father unless she has you sign a paternity affadavit which YOU SHOULD NOT SIGN!!! until you have DNA evidence this is your baby, until then she cannot hold you for support but until the DNA goes through make it a point to bring her either personal checks or money orders to provide the court with proof that you were supporting the child in the case that the baby is yours so they wont go back to the day of the childs birth and slap you with late payments.
 
Hi, You will need to get a DNA test to prove the baby is yours. She may be able to get a judge to make you pay child support and provide health care for the baby prior to the results being proven with the DNA test.

If you are the father you should make arrangements to provide child support and health care insurance for the child. If the child qualifies for Medicaid then the State will take more money from you in addition to the child support you will be paying.

I can only tell you that relationships like yours in my experience over the last 40 years never end good if you marry him or her.

Good Luck.
 
Thank you all for the advice it is greatly appreciated! Well i have
Tricare but ill have to see how that works
 
Our Father who art in Heaven, hallowed be thy name.

Thy kingdom come, thy will be done on Earth as it is in Heaven.

Give us this day our daily bread.

And forgive us our trespasses, as we forgive those who trespass against us.

And lead us not into temptation, but deliver us from evil.

Amen.

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Hail Mary, full of grace, the Lord is with thee.

Blessed are you among women, and blessed is the fruit of your womb Jesus.

Holy Mary, Mother of God, pray for us sinners, now and at the hour of our death.

Amen.

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