For the love of God (and I mean that as literally as can be meant) write to your (Arch)Bishop immediately about this. Or the US Cardinals. Or Francis Cardinal Arinze. Please. Self-intinction is a grave abuse.
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The communicant must not be permitted to intinct the host himself in the chalice, nor to receive the intincted host in the hand. As for the host to be used for the intinction, it should be made of valid matter, also consecrated; it is altogether forbidden to use non-consecrated bread or other matter.” (
Redemptionis Sacramentum, 104)
“Although the gravity of a matter is to be judged in accordance with the common teaching of the Church and the norms established by her,
objectively to be considered among grave matters is anything that puts at risk the validity and dignity of the Most Holy Eucharist: namely, anything that contravenes what is set out above in nn. 48-52, 56, 76-77, 79, 91-92, 94, 96, 101-102,
104, 106, 109, 111, 115, 117, 126, 131-133, 138, 153 and 168. Moreover, attention should be given to the other prescriptions of the Code of Canon Law, and especially what is laid down by canons 1364, 1369, 1373, 1376, 1380, 1384, 1385, 1386, and 1398.” (Ibid., 173)
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The chalice may never be left on the altar or another place to be picked up by the communicant for self-communication (except in the case of concelebrating bishops or priests), nor may the chalice be passed from one communicant to another.
There shall always be a minister of the chalice.” (
Norms for Holy Communion Under Both Kinds, 44)