My former classmate came out as bisexual

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Hey,
Sorry for not posting a LONG time. I found out on facebook that my former classmate from High School has just come out as bisexual and is ‘proud’, I want to tell her that it’s not something to be proud of, however, because I’m a spineless sack of crud, I don’t want to start a flamewar on facebook and get fired from my job as well as be on the national news at 7 in the morning. What should I do? How do I tell her by being charitable, however being truthful as well.
 
Sorry if I’m being uncharitable when I said ‘it’s not something for her to be proud of’. I want to tell her the truth, that’s the point, but I definitely don’t want to make myself look like a donkey
 
Nothing can be gained from saying anything. Hide her posts if you don’t want to read them.
 
It’s never a good idea to correct someone in public. And Facebook is beyond public, its world wide.

So I would not do it on Facebook.
 
thestudentAD said:
Hey,
Sorry for not posting a LONG time. I found out on facebook that my former classmate from High School has just come out as bisexual and is ‘proud’, I want to tell her that it’s not something to be proud of, however, because I’m a spineless sack of crud, I don’t want to start a flamewar on facebook and get fired from my job as well as be on the national news at 7 in the morning. What should I do? How do I tell her by being charitable, however being truthful as well.
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Well, hate to break it to you but chances are more than one person you know from high school is probably going to come out as gay or bi in the future. People are going to post all kinds of things on FB that you do not agree with and they will do it with pride, as if they accomplished something great and everyone will sing praises of them and be jealous. If you know this person well enough to talk to them in person about this, great. If this is just a person you are not too close with and it will only be through facebook, they did not ask your opinion and anything you say will probably just go in one ear and out the other and you wont change their mind. So, mind your own business. You will be happier. Someone else said to hide their posts. This is exactly what I do when I do not want to unfriend someone but I do not like what they post regularly. I recommend it too.
 
I know many girls that are now women that went through that phase and will tell you that they are straight but they wouldn’t then. I don’t mean to sound rude or anything but this is something that I’ve noticed a lot of people seem to grow out of I know what the statistics say but the same thing I say about every survey is that people lie.
 
Pray, love and be a friend. Then when SHE asks you or comes to you then you can gently tell her your beliefs, with love!

Do everything with love!!!
 
phil19034 said:
It’s never a good idea to correct someone in public. And Facebook is beyond public, its world wide.

So I would not do it on Facebook.
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I agree with this. I not respond to that issue especially via Facebook.
 
Remember, your future employers may read your facebook pages at some point. Don’t put anything contoversial there! EVER!

Let this issue pass. As others have pointed out, it may work itself out over time

And pray for her!
 
thestudentAD said:
Hey,
Sorry for not posting a LONG time. I found out on facebook that my former classmate from High School has just come out as bisexual and is ‘proud’, I want to tell her that it’s not something to be proud of, however, because I’m a spineless sack of crud, I don’t want to start a flamewar on facebook and get fired from my job as well as be on the national news at 7 in the morning.
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I can see you’re prone to a lot of persecution. I’m sorry. 😦
 
thestudentAD said:
I don’t want to start a flamewar on facebook and get fired from my job as well as be on the national news at 7 in the morning.
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I think that you answered your own question. Besides, if she’s an adult then what business is it of yours?
 
Irishmom2 said:
Yes, this. It is not your job to publicly admonish her.
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Tim_D said:
I think that you answered your own question. Besides, if she’s an adult then what business is it of yours?
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I agree with both of these posts. An argument is never won on Facebook, or any other social media site. It isn’t your job to tell her anything - it won’t stop her being bisexual. It’ll just make her angry.

Lou
 
  1. Like has been said: admonishing somebody publicly is - generally - inappropriate. You only do it if you yourself are a public figure and are trying to combat an injustice from another public figure, in which case making it public is obvious. i.e. a candidate calling out another candidate, Jesus calling out the Pharisees, etc.
  2. LGBT is something that its supporters - maybe even especially its ‘straight’ supporters - can be quite vindictive about. That is because it requires no sacrifice from them while at the same time gives them an enjoyable rush of [counterfeit] righteousness. i.e. “How dare you oppose him! You are cruel!” It’s hard to find a similar zeal in other issues because people that never get to experience a feeling of nobility are able to find a fake nobility in defending people that come out of the closet. The real person they are serving is not the person coming out, but themselves.
  3. It’s possible this person is purposely trying it illicit a response other than praise.
  4. LGBT is still in its early stage of public acceptance, like abortion was in the 1970s. That makes it novel. Give it another 2-4 decades and the Church will better compose itself and start to regain ground, although something new will come along to try to undermine the Culture of Life. By 2040 I’m assuming that will be robot sex replacing sex between people.
 
TK421 said:
  1. LGBT is still in its early stage of public acceptance, like abortion was in the 1970s.
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Thats a scary thought, inasmuch as a person’s orientation is not sinful (notwithstanding the fact that many/most LGBT persons engage in sinful acts) whereas abortion is not only sinful but actually leads to the death of another human being.
 
I can’t tell if you’re agreeing or disagreeing with me, but the relevance is that ‘coming out’ and being proud is still relatively new, so people still make a big deal out of it. People were doing it in the 1980s and 1990s but it was still gaining steam.

In 2030 I don’t expect that coming out will be as much of a big deal, because it will have become old. Right now, much of society is still chomping at the bit to express some of its newfound systems of morality.
 
thestudentAD said:
Hey,
Sorry for not posting a LONG time. I found out on facebook that my former classmate from High School has just come out as bisexual and is ‘proud’, I want to tell her that it’s not something to be proud of, however, because I’m a spineless sack of crud, I don’t want to start a flamewar on facebook and get fired from my job as well as be on the national news at 7 in the morning. What should I do? How do I tell her by being charitable, however being truthful as well.
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Hi thestudent,

I personally wouldn’t discuss someone’s lifestyle like this, whether or not this was even a Facebook situation.

It’s not just something that I would even do.

There are some topics of discussion that I feel cross over into someone’s personal boundaries, and this would be one of them.

I have had people say things to me in those types of personal situations where they think that ANY topic of your personal life/business is “fair game” when they know you on some level like a friend, acquaintance, etc., and they feel that a very personal subject is up for discussion in your life when it isn’t, and I can tell you how very hurtful and painful it is.

So, I would stay out of that area of her life, unless she decides that she wants to talk to you personally about it.
 
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