Breaking relationships, especially with family, is stressful. The loss of friendships can make a person feel isolated. I am wondering if Barbara Ann didn’t feel isolated. Yes, she had friends in the trans community, but… it wasn’t enough, for her.
In Barb’s case it was isolation from her family that her family put on her. In my case its some people in my family and some who are friends and aquaintances. I seem to get in situations where Im wanted for what Im either bad at or just palin incapable of and have grown very tired of it. For example one of my 2 jobs wants to to multitask to the hilt, Im not capable of that, well I tired of being expected to be Steve, which is a facade Ive put up for years and just can’t do for very much longer,those who tell me I can will be told to talk to the hand. Its time to be myself and let the relationship cards fall where they may. Thankyou for your concern.
Please do not let your male socialization trip you up. Boys are raised to go out into the world and find happiness on their own terms. Girls, on the other hand, are often held close and taught to get their happiness from pleasing others. This makes persons raised as girls tend to value relationships much more than those raised as boys.
We are brothers and sisters in Christ. God wants us to care for one another - it is the essence of Christianity. But you are welcome, I appreciate your courtesy.
Well I come from a very macho family. Yes the boys were raised the way you said, but the girls were raised the way you said boys are raised. I have a mother who hate a lot of feminine things with a passion, ie looking pretty, skirts , dresses, etc. My family is not pleased in the least. My mom wants to discuss what Im doing. She wants the old me back, Id rather be dead quite frankly than do the old me. Im not getting much support and Im not expecting it. If I stay Steve to please them, I predict in 5 to 10 years my health will fail me because of being severely depressed. I want to be around people who like and want me the real me.
Gay bars are more often than not extremely hostile to any other gender variance then the traditional drag-queen type, they usually are SAFE though. Mixed bars are the best place to meet friendly folks, however it’s also the type of bar where someone assaulted me, there is no perfect solution. It is simply far too small a subsection of the population to cater to, so we just sort of have to mingle where we’re allowed and hope for the best.
epgn.com/082208/1transshooter082208.htmIn the end, isn’t that true for all of us? Mingle where we feel safe and hope for the best. At least, I’ve found that to be true.
And what is sad is that the typical " good Catholic" does’t seem to care. While I still goto Mass to worship God. Once Mass is over I’m gone, not staying to talk or anything. When the transition begins there is the Dominican Cetner in Grand Rapids that Ill try and make it to for Mass.