My girlfriend is a Baptist

[laneo]

You can’t help who you fall in love with. You just got to raise your kids the best you can. I am far from being the best Catholic, that’s for sure. So my words may not mean anything. There’s a lot of people in this situation

For example:

I know a gentlemen at my church and his wife is protestant. He is doing quite well and has been married many many years. He does much for the church and loves his wife. He does go to church by himself, which is a bit depressing.

Take me for example. I was raised Catholic, she is Assembly of God,but I don’t mind. My fiancée is a very good person and has much faith in Christ. She and I are not perfect, but we both accept Christ as the true Son of God and our Savior. She even attends church with me quite a bit, and I have been to her church as well (and it was actually enjoyable, lots of praise, singing and worship ). I won’t force her to convert, if she wants to, she wants to, end of story. Also, why would she convert when I myself have a hard time understand all the CC tells me, that would be down right wrong.

You can have a very good marriage. Just try your best and enjoy life, don’t let this break you up. If you love her, that’s what counts. Salvation doesn’t go away because you have a mixed marriage.

 

[crazydyl]

You can’t help who you fall in love with. You just got to raise your kids the best you can. I am far from being the best Catholic, that’s for sure. So my words may not mean anything. There’s a lot of people in this situation

For example:

I know a gentlemen at my church and his wife is protestant. He is doing quite well and has been married many many years. He does much for the church and loves his wife. He does go to church by himself. I am in the same boat, but I don’t mind. My fiancée is a very good person and has much faith in Christ. She even attends church with me quite a bit, and I have been to her church as well (and it was actually enjoyable, lots of praise and worship ).

You can have a very good marriage,. She has her faith, you have yours. You cant force someone to accept something they may not get, accept or understand. Just try your best and enjoy life, don’t let this break you up. If you love her, that’s what counts. Salvation doesn’t go away because you have a mixed marriage.

I loved the Muslim woman and she loved me, but God is more important and I gave her up so to me you shoudl do what is right rather than selfish feelings

 

[laneo]

I loved the Muslim woman and she loved me, but God is more important and I gave her up so to me you shoudl do what is right rather than selfish feelings

Well Islam is on the far end of a spectrum than another denomination of Christianity.

 

[crazydyl]

Well Islam is on the far end of a spectrum than another denomination of Christianity.

I have also turned down other Christians who I liked a lot and they liked me but not love No matter what the pain is, I believe that we must always stick to other Catholics

 

[laneo]

I have also turned down other Christians who I liked a lot and they liked me but not love No matter what the pain is, I believe that we must always stick to other Catholics

If your significant other needs to be a Catholic, that’s fine.

 

[Advocatus_Fidei]

Of course you can help who you fall in love with, I guarantee I will never fall in love with you and I will achieve that by never getting to know you, see simple you can’t love what you don’t know. And nor are we a slave to love, true love frees you it does not enslave you. WE are to love God above all else anything else is to worship creatures above the Creator.

 

[laneo]

Furthermore, If your marriage or love life is having issues, I recommend Jack Daniels

 

[mark_a]

I have been in a serious relationship now for over 4 years. I love my girlfriend and we talk often of a future together and getting married. But, we still run into problems and issues when it comes to religion and where our future will take us since she is a Baptist and I am a Catholic. I love her and know that God gives us love and so there must be a way to reconcile or at least come to understandings. I don’t know exactly what my question is but I was hoping for some advice on where to go with this and how to approach it next time we have a discussion or debate. I would love to hear anyone’s advice especially someone coming from a similar situation. Thanks

If you want to cut through to the heart of the matter, ask her what she thinks of the Catholic view of contraception.

 

[mark_a]

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I don’t understand what you are trying to say when you claim that the catholic faith is the True faith. Are you saying that this girl’s faith is not true?
Are they both Christian? or not?

If he wants to cut through to the heart of the matter, he can ask her what she thinks of the Catholic view of contraception.

 

[Miserys_Fence]

Unless you can convince her that the Catholic Faith is the True Faith you will either end up betraying Christ or you will have to end the relationship.

Not true. I was not Catholic when my fiance (cradle Catholic) and I became engaged, and it wasn’t a problem for either of us. One of my favorite “date” activities was going to Mass with him. I would never ask anyone to give up their spiritual beliefs, even if I disagreed with them.

Miz

 

[Advocatus_Fidei]

Not true. I was not Catholic when my fiance (cradle Catholic) and I became engaged, and it wasn’t a problem for either of us. One of my favorite “date” activities was going to Mass with him. I would never ask anyone to give up their spiritual beliefs, even if I disagreed with them.

Miz

I would have become a problem if you had insisted on any children not been raised Catholic, at least as far as the Church is concerned.

 

[Miserys_Fence]

…you shoudl do what is right rather than selfish feelings

When did the Catholic Church decree that loving someone is “selfish feelings?”

Miz

 

[Miserys_Fence]

I would have become a problem if you had insisted on any children not been raised Catholic, at least as far as the Church is concerned.

I’m almost 49 years old, my fiance was 55. Children?

Miz

 

[Advocatus_Fidei]

I’m almost 49 years old, my fiance was 55. Children?

Miz

All things are possible with God!

 

[DJgang]

Two things that you must really worry about:

Faith of your children

Open to Life

 

[Miserys_Fence]

All things are possible with God!

Not this time, I’m afraid; my fiancé passed away last year.

Miz

 

[SirThomasMore]

I am Catholic and my wife is Baptist. She sometimes attends Mass with me.

But…even more to the point…my grandfather was Catholic and my Grandmother is Baptist. They were married for 69 years until he died at the age of 93. He never missed Mass. She was in her Baptist Church every Sunday (she still never misses and she is now 93). They manged a long and great marriage. Their key: respect. It can done…my wife and I do it, and my grandparents did it.

 

[Advocatus_Fidei]

Not this time, I’m afraid; my fiancé passed away last year.

Miz

Oh I am sorry, I will pray for him.

 

[DJgang]

I am Catholic and my wife is Baptist. She sometimes attends Mass with me.

But…even more to the point…my grandfather was Catholic and my Grandmother is Baptist. They were married for 69 years until he died at the age of 93. He never missed Mass. She was in her Baptist Church every Sunday (she still never misses and she is now 93). They manged a long and great marriage. Their key: respect. It can done…my wife and I do it, and my grandparents did it.

I guess I might be a tad nosey … and please disregard my post if you wish not to answer…but…what about children…were you and your wife open to life?

Your experience in this area might help the original poster, as well as others.

Your grandparents probably were because pills weren’t quite on the market back then, huh?

Again, I’m curious.

 

[Redratfish]

This advice is spot on. The key for me (it is none of my business but you asked so here it is) is that you have been seeing her for four years. It is obvious that she has no intention of converting to Catholicism and is playing you - waiting until the marriage before she tells you the truth. And the truth is this: she has no intention of being Catholic, would prefer you to become Baptist, and definitely is going to insist on raising the kids Baptist, and not ever take them to mass etc.

Run from her, now. Or your kids will never have the Holy Eucharist, knowledge of Mary, and you will find yourself held to account for your kids not getting to fully know Jesus the way you did.

Forget about you - it is all about your kids. Do you want them to never have Holy Communion? Or to mock Blessed Mary? This is where you are heading.

If she won’t convert in four years she is just biding time til marriage. She will then force you to either divorce or accept her Baptist faith. And your kids, too.

Try this on her: ask her to attend RCIA now (I know you approached it and she has given excuses for not yet doing it - and she attends Mass with you too [just to ‘play along’ for now]

Then tell her if she doesn’t convert, you two are through - see if she is willing to convert or is more willing to let you go.

(And she has probably told her parents that eventually she will convert you or at least the kids will be Baptist.)

As I said: RUN NOW OR YOUR KIDS WILL LOSE HOLY COMMUNION AND YOU WILL EVENTUALLY END UP DIVORCED.

What the hell? 4 years and she’s playing with him? My dad waited 8 years AFTER my parents married to become Catholic. 4 years in dating is not what I would consider enough time to switch. Its different for everyone, you making blanket statements like this is why such relationships don’t work out. You make them seem like all is lost.

Your fear monger approach was nice too.