My girlfriend is an Atheist

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Irishmom2 said:
No. Still a bad idea.
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Don’t even start getting into those justifications.

I’m not going to tell you it’s wrong if your girlfriend falls asleep in your arms while watching the telly or something (might as well have been a male friend and it wouldn’t feel gay to some of our ancestors), which would have been merely affectionate, but don’t play with the physical and don’t look for vicarious sexual activity (substitutes for sex). And don’t play with ‘marital rights’ other than sex when you aren’t actually married, either. Just draw a clean line and you’ll feel better for it. Not committing mortal sins is a sart, but we are also supposed to avoid occasions. Saint Paul even says appearances of sin. And even if you can’t pin sin on something (it’s not like you should make a point of associating everything you can with sin), then it’s still a matter of honour and justice and fairness to not act married if not married.

Of course be gentle on that young lady, but also be firm. And don’t be surprised that the devil might use someone you love or even respect in order to tempt you, it does happen. The devil has done things far worse than that.
 
Catholic500 said:
My girlfriend promise that we sleep together witout sex.
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Do you REALLY BELIEVE that? First, go to confession. Next. Tell Girlfriend that you will NEVER sleep with her again (sex or no sex), unless you are married. Third, take a good look at this relationship. Does she lead you closer to God or further away? Does she respect your decision not to sin again or does she try to convince you it’s ok? The purpose of dating is to find a spouse. Is she a suitable life partner for you? Do you share the same goals and morals? Would you remain a faithful Catholic or would you let her lead you away from the Church? Make an appointment with your priest and tell him what is going on; he will be able to give you good advice
 
She promise that we havent sex if i dont want this.I go tommorow to ask the priest of my church what he say about this…
 
Catholic500 said:
She promise that we havent sex if i dont want this.I go tommorow to ask the priest of my church what he say about this…
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You do that. :rolleyes:

But you are putting her before God. You sound so desperate to keep her that you will try to stretch things as far as they will reach just to be within “the law.”

That’s not how your faith should be. You should be giving God your all. He should come first, not some girl that says she wants to sleep in your bed.
 
I say to my girlfriend to go with me in my church and she say yes but only for me.Can i say my girlfriend in my church to speak with priest?
 
Catholic500 said:
I say to my girlfriend to go with me in my church and she say yes but only for me.Can i say my girlfriend in my church to speak with priest?
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What is the purpose of bringing her? She already said she is an atheist. She already told you she would only be going **for you. **The only good that would come from it is that she would hear it directly from the priest that what **she wants **is wrong.
 
Catholic500 said:
I say to my girlfriend to go with me in my church and she say yes but only for me.Can i say my girlfriend in my church to speak with priest?
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Yes, your girlfriend can speak to the Priest.

This may sound harsh, OP, but if you are Catholic and profess to be such, then you should be following what Catholicism teaches. You keep saying “My girlfriend says x”, but what she is saying is not acceptable in the eyes of the CC. So you need to say back to her “I disagree with what you are saying because y”. You can’t compromise on matters that have been set out in black and white.

Loi
 
Catholic500 said:
I lose my virgin now and i am sad!We have sex with my atheist girlfriend and the sex before marriage is against God law
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Well, you need to be honest with her about how you feel at the very least. She probably thinks you are okay with this one, because you are a guy and two, because you did do it.
 
You are 19 and have your entire life ahead of you. Don’t ruin it by doing things u may regret later. If your atheist girlfriend cares for u she will understand. If not, this relationship is superficial.

I would also suggest for u to join the campus Catholic group and make friends with like minded people to support you with your beliefs and virtues. This will help with temptations too.

Hanging around non-Catholic all the time, without Catholic friends to balance things can be harmful to anyone.
 
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